Trying to plan girlfriend getaway with ppl w different budgets

[Anonymous]

People are being really hard on you OP. We are well past the age of shared beds unless you have to. It also becomes a logistical nightmare b/c you have one bathroom and 4 people.

Last time we did this my best friend and I (who are more go with the flow) always ended up with the last showers, so while everyone was dressed and ready, she and I were rushing to get dressed and put on makeup and typically ended up going out with wet hair b/c by that point there was no time left for us to blow dry our hair. It was fine b/c we were all together and we were in our 20s but I vowed I would never do it again. About 5 years later the group of us went on another trip. Three people stayed in one room and my best friend and I in the other. We had adjoining rooms and it was fine.

I say go but get your own room. With that many people you could do two adjoining rooms and then you get your own next door. It will be fine, but you need to accept this will be a 3 star trip overall (hotel, restaurants etc).

[Anonymous]

Only solution is for you to pay for everyone, OP. If dropping $1,000 a night on a hotel room is the only way you can enjoy a vacation, then dropping another $2,000 (I'm sure the cheapos will share a double) shouldn't be a problem.

The only reason you're having conflict is because you're apparently only willing to spend the big bucks on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I don't think you will have fun on this trip. Don't go, and treat your friend to a spa day or something later. Budget issue will come up on restaurants and activities too. If you were going with a close group of friends, I'd say go and suck it up for the company, but it doesn't sound like you know the other women on this trip, so you may be annoyed the whole trip.

I agree with this. If it was your friends, I think you would be more willing to compromise (at least I hope), but if you don't even know these people and are already annoyed, I think it will be like that the whole weekend. FWIW, I go on a girls' weekend with 3 college friends every year, and we have stayed at the Four Seasons, and also more "budget" hotels near the beach. This past year We always have at least two to a room and it is fine. We try to get connecting rooms if possible. Usually we are in the room just to sleep and get ready.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People are being really hard on you OP. We are well past the age of shared beds unless you have to. It also becomes a logistical nightmare b/c you have one bathroom and 4 people.

Last time we did this my best friend and I (who are more go with the flow) always ended up with the last showers, so while everyone was dressed and ready, she and I were rushing to get dressed and put on makeup and typically ended up going out with wet hair b/c by that point there was no time left for us to blow dry our hair. It was fine b/c we were all together and we were in our 20s but I vowed I would never do it again. About 5 years later the group of us went on another trip. Three people stayed in one room and my best friend and I in the other. We had adjoining rooms and it was fine.

I say go but get your own room. With that many people you could do two adjoining rooms and then you get your own next door. It will be fine, but you need to accept this will be a 3 star trip overall (hotel, restaurants etc).

Try and keep up. The problem is not that OP wants a room to herself - that's completely acceptable. The problem is that she just.can't.see.herself having a good time at a hotel that only charges $300 per night. Plus, having to deal with those low budget people . . .

She's an effin' nightmare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are being really hard on you OP. We are well past the age of shared beds unless you have to. It also becomes a logistical nightmare b/c you have one bathroom and 4 people.

Last time we did this my best friend and I (who are more go with the flow) always ended up with the last showers, so while everyone was dressed and ready, she and I were rushing to get dressed and put on makeup and typically ended up going out with wet hair b/c by that point there was no time left for us to blow dry our hair. It was fine b/c we were all together and we were in our 20s but I vowed I would never do it again. About 5 years later the group of us went on another trip. Three people stayed in one room and my best friend and I in the other. We had adjoining rooms and it was fine.

I say go but get your own room. With that many people you could do two adjoining rooms and then you get your own next door. It will be fine, but you need to accept this will be a 3 star trip overall (hotel, restaurants etc).

Try and keep up. The problem is not that OP wants a room to herself - that's completely acceptable. The problem is that she just.can't.see.herself having a good time at a hotel that only charges $300 per night. Plus, having to deal with those low budget people . . .

She's an effin' nightmare.

Actually in my original post, I stated that I wanted to pay extra to upgrade.

I’m a nightmare because I want to stay at a nice place and willing to pay for it? I said I am willing to cover my friend entirely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are being really hard on you OP. We are well past the age of shared beds unless you have to. It also becomes a logistical nightmare b/c you have one bathroom and 4 people.

Last time we did this my best friend and I (who are more go with the flow) always ended up with the last showers, so while everyone was dressed and ready, she and I were rushing to get dressed and put on makeup and typically ended up going out with wet hair b/c by that point there was no time left for us to blow dry our hair. It was fine b/c we were all together and we were in our 20s but I vowed I would never do it again. About 5 years later the group of us went on another trip. Three people stayed in one room and my best friend and I in the other. We had adjoining rooms and it was fine.

I say go but get your own room. With that many people you could do two adjoining rooms and then you get your own next door. It will be fine, but you need to accept this will be a 3 star trip overall (hotel, restaurants etc).

Try and keep up. The problem is not that OP wants a room to herself - that's completely acceptable. The problem is that she just.can't.see.herself having a good time at a hotel that only charges $300 per night. Plus, having to deal with those low budget people . . .

She's an effin' nightmare.

Actually in my original post, I stated that I wanted to pay extra to upgrade.

I’m a nightmare because I want to stay at a nice place and willing to pay for it? I said I am willing to cover my friend entirely.

You’re a nightmare because you think $300/night is “low budget” and are being rude about your friend’s friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are being really hard on you OP. We are well past the age of shared beds unless you have to. It also becomes a logistical nightmare b/c you have one bathroom and 4 people.

Last time we did this my best friend and I (who are more go with the flow) always ended up with the last showers, so while everyone was dressed and ready, she and I were rushing to get dressed and put on makeup and typically ended up going out with wet hair b/c by that point there was no time left for us to blow dry our hair. It was fine b/c we were all together and we were in our 20s but I vowed I would never do it again. About 5 years later the group of us went on another trip. Three people stayed in one room and my best friend and I in the other. We had adjoining rooms and it was fine.

I say go but get your own room. With that many people you could do two adjoining rooms and then you get your own next door. It will be fine, but you need to accept this will be a 3 star trip overall (hotel, restaurants etc).

Try and keep up. The problem is not that OP wants a room to herself - that's completely acceptable. The problem is that she just.can't.see.herself having a good time at a hotel that only charges $300 per night. Plus, having to deal with those low budget people . . .

She's an effin' nightmare.

Actually in my original post, I stated that I wanted to pay extra to upgrade.

I’m a nightmare because I want to stay at a nice place and willing to pay for it? I said I am willing to cover my friend entirely.

Well yeah, but if the other friends can’t afford $1000/night, that is not going to work?

I’m really wondering where you are going that you can’t find a nice hotel for $300/night. If you stayed there, I’m sure you could upgrade to a suite or nicer room. I have a friend who routinely stays in Four Seasons with her family, but when we travel she’s willing to “slum it” in a Hilton or Marriott. Where are you going that there’s nothing in between the two price ranges?

[Anonymous]

I’ve stayed at hotels of all price ranges and yes, your 4 Seasons/Ritzes are nice but I don’t think they are worth the extra money. A hotel room is just a place to sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are being really hard on you OP. We are well past the age of shared beds unless you have to. It also becomes a logistical nightmare b/c you have one bathroom and 4 people.

Last time we did this my best friend and I (who are more go with the flow) always ended up with the last showers, so while everyone was dressed and ready, she and I were rushing to get dressed and put on makeup and typically ended up going out with wet hair b/c by that point there was no time left for us to blow dry our hair. It was fine b/c we were all together and we were in our 20s but I vowed I would never do it again. About 5 years later the group of us went on another trip. Three people stayed in one room and my best friend and I in the other. We had adjoining rooms and it was fine.

I say go but get your own room. With that many people you could do two adjoining rooms and then you get your own next door. It will be fine, but you need to accept this will be a 3 star trip overall (hotel, restaurants etc).

Try and keep up. The problem is not that OP wants a room to herself - that's completely acceptable. The problem is that she just.can't.see.herself having a good time at a hotel that only charges $300 per night. Plus, having to deal with those low budget people . . .

She's an effin' nightmare.

Actually in my original post, I stated that I wanted to pay extra to upgrade.

I’m a nightmare because I want to stay at a nice place and willing to pay for it? I said I am willing to cover my friend entirely.

Jesus Christ, lady, yes. You're a nightmare because you find $300/night hotels beneath you, and find it completely acceptable to upgrade just you and your friend. So, that means either you (i) expect the others to pay the same for themselves, because Your Majesty thinks the previously agreed-upon accommodations are insufficient, or (ii) think it's perfectly fine for you and your friend, who is the link to the other people, to stay some distance away, at a different hotel. Because that won't be at all annoying, or inconvenient, or pretentious, or any one of a hundred other non-complimentary adjectives.

Do everyone a favor and stay home.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you all just rent a fabulous house, and you can pick up the majority of the costs. Then give yourself the big bedroom and call it a day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are being really hard on you OP. We are well past the age of shared beds unless you have to. It also becomes a logistical nightmare b/c you have one bathroom and 4 people.

Last time we did this my best friend and I (who are more go with the flow) always ended up with the last showers, so while everyone was dressed and ready, she and I were rushing to get dressed and put on makeup and typically ended up going out with wet hair b/c by that point there was no time left for us to blow dry our hair. It was fine b/c we were all together and we were in our 20s but I vowed I would never do it again. About 5 years later the group of us went on another trip. Three people stayed in one room and my best friend and I in the other. We had adjoining rooms and it was fine.

I say go but get your own room. With that many people you could do two adjoining rooms and then you get your own next door. It will be fine, but you need to accept this will be a 3 star trip overall (hotel, restaurants etc).

Try and keep up. The problem is not that OP wants a room to herself - that's completely acceptable. The problem is that she just.can't.see.herself having a good time at a hotel that only charges $300 per night. Plus, having to deal with those low budget people . . .

She's an effin' nightmare.

Actually in my original post, I stated that I wanted to pay extra to upgrade.

I’m a nightmare because I want to stay at a nice place and willing to pay for it? I said I am willing to cover my friend entirely.

Jesus Christ, lady, yes. You're a nightmare because you find $300/night hotels beneath you, and find it completely acceptable to upgrade just you and your friend. So, that means either you (i) expect the others to pay the same for themselves, because Your Majesty thinks the previously agreed-upon accommodations are insufficient, or (ii) think it's perfectly fine for you and your friend, who is the link to the other people, to stay some distance away, at a different hotel. Because that won't be at all annoying, or inconvenient, or pretentious, or any one of a hundred other non-complimentary adjectives.

Do everyone a favor and stay home.

Oh, I forgot - you're also a nightmare because of this comment:

"The lower budget people are making me want to back out."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are being really hard on you OP. We are well past the age of shared beds unless you have to. It also becomes a logistical nightmare b/c you have one bathroom and 4 people.

Last time we did this my best friend and I (who are more go with the flow) always ended up with the last showers, so while everyone was dressed and ready, she and I were rushing to get dressed and put on makeup and typically ended up going out with wet hair b/c by that point there was no time left for us to blow dry our hair. It was fine b/c we were all together and we were in our 20s but I vowed I would never do it again. About 5 years later the group of us went on another trip. Three people stayed in one room and my best friend and I in the other. We had adjoining rooms and it was fine.

I say go but get your own room. With that many people you could do two adjoining rooms and then you get your own next door. It will be fine, but you need to accept this will be a 3 star trip overall (hotel, restaurants etc).

Try and keep up. The problem is not that OP wants a room to herself - that's completely acceptable. The problem is that she just.can't.see.herself having a good time at a hotel that only charges $300 per night. Plus, having to deal with those low budget people . . .

She's an effin' nightmare.

Actually in my original post, I stated that I wanted to pay extra to upgrade.

I’m a nightmare because I want to stay at a nice place and willing to pay for it? I said I am willing to cover my friend entirely.

Jesus Christ, lady, yes. You're a nightmare because you find $300/night hotels beneath you, and find it completely acceptable to upgrade just you and your friend. So, that means either you (i) expect the others to pay the same for themselves, because Your Majesty thinks the previously agreed-upon accommodations are insufficient, or (ii) think it's perfectly fine for you and your friend, who is the link to the other people, to stay some distance away, at a different hotel. Because that won't be at all annoying, or inconvenient, or pretentious, or any one of a hundred other non-complimentary adjectives.

Do everyone a favor and stay home.

+1 You're a nightmare because you are making this trip all about YOU. You're completely disregarding the majority vote to stay in a slightly cheaper hotel because you think it's beneath you and trying to rope your friend in for support by offering to pay for her stay. Spare everyone and skip the trip entirely so you don't taint the festivities with your selfishness and arrogance.

[Anonymous]

I think OP is full of $h!t. Assuming she is staying in the US, a Premier Room at the Four Seasons in San Francisco is $490/Night. The St. Regis in New York is $700/night. Those are probably the two most expensive cities in the US.

[Anonymous]

Try to go with the flow on this one, but you should absolutely draw the line at sharing a bed, or sharing a room, if you don't want to. That's reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Op, if you want to be part of THIS group, you adjust. Or travel solo with the Birthday Girl. Otherwise in a group - - lowest budget decides it. If "who's going" in firm, then the decision to accept the lowest common denominator has already been made.