Trying to plan girlfriend getaway with ppl w different budgets

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Anonymous wrote:If you are in a position where the money would not matter to you, you could offer to pay for the hotel as a birthday gift to your friend. I can't imagine the others complaining about that- though obviously you would be out a large chunk of money.

I would 100% treat my friend. Yes, I’m in a position to spend a few grand for a gf getaway.

I don’t really want to pay for girls I don’t know at all.

But OP, you weren't going to upgrade everyone. You said you "don't really want to pay for girls I don't know at all."

Felt differently at different times.

I was just catching up with an old childhood friend. They are having trouble paying bills and can’t seem to swing xmas gifts. I just needed a reality check. I feel fortunate that we can afford to do whatever we want. I can live without going to the spa. Pp was right. These girls probably won’t want to spend 500 at the spa or 200 at dinner and that is ok.

I still do want to stay at a nicer place. Have no problem paying for my friend in full. I still don’t like idea of treating strangers. Maybe when I meet them, it will feel different and I will pick up tab a few times.

As of now, we have no hotel and no flights so who knows what will happen. I think for some in group, the 300 is the splurge. They are pricing out flights to see how much they can afford on hotel.

I think that if you are on vacation with other people, you have to either be willing to treat those people to do the stuff you want to do or do things that are in the price range of the person with the lowest budget, whether you know them or not. If you want to go to a $500 spa, you will need to do that on your own time. If you want to go to a fancy dinner with friends, that is fine, but consider either paying for the entire group or massively subsidizing the dinner ("I'll buy the drinks as a special birthday treat for Susan!").

Being gracious is important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, I don't think you should go. You're going to be looking down your noses at these people the entire time. All your posts just reek of a terrible attitude and you're a bad friend for not being able to get over yourself for the sake of your friend.

I am like you. I can easily afford an expensive vacation with all the amenities. 90% of my friends cannot. So whenever we go anywhere, we either stay somewhere they can afford and I'll spring for some extras for all of us, or I treat the entire trip. And sometimes I've treated people I don't know and that's fine with me!! You have a stick up your ass about your HHI and it's really sad. Your attitude is going to prevent you from enjoying your friends bday.

I don’t know where all this negativity is coming from. I said I was going with the flow. I am letting others plan.