Is there anything better than marrying a rich guy you met in college?

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for you, OP. Truly I do. Your mind and world are so small and circumscribed.

She's cute but not the prettiest. She's not bright. She had fun in college, fun after college, married a schmuck rich kid who "manages" car dealers and is pampered. She's doing better than 99 out of 100 women her age that I know. Her template is one to follow.

I'm pretty sure you are a troll...or an idiot. Even if this is the right thing for her, surely you understand why her experience cannot be used as a template for anyone to follow.

If this is considered an achievement in your group of friends, I would not want to hang out with the people you know.

Life is hard enough with no guarantees.

It’s great if you want more degrees and certificates or whatever. But at the end of the day some women really know security. Marrying early into a rich family provides them with the guaranteed financial security that no prestigious job ever ever.

With a strategic and well timed marriage, they are guaranteed entry and membership into the upper class or upper middle class. They don’t have to take the gmats, work thankless ours trying to move up and be noticed. By marrying well they can be the wife of the hot shot engineer and have a father in law who is a ceo and rub shoulders with and be acknowledged by the best and the brightest.

I know a pretty girl who married an astronaut. She has never taken a high level calculus or physics classes. Doesn’t know much about geopolitical strife the Middle East but now has a father in law who is a law firm partner and she attends NASA rocket launches. Her social circle is filled with intelligent acconplished people who are changing the world. And she is rich and has access to their multiple properties.

She didn’t even have to work very hard to accomplish all this.

Still not my dreamlife, because I want to be successful myself and not only be the wife of a successful man, but sounds way better than marrying a car-dealer from the midwest.

Pp here. I agree. I would never be jealous of a girl who married a car dealers son in the Midwest. I’d find that culture and setting totally suffocating.

But marrying a really smart successful guy who travels out of space, probably has interesting intellectually stimulating conversations, and comes from an accomplished educated family? Sure! Who doesn’t want that?

Personally I’d like to Be the smart accomplished person and married to a smart accomplished person. But this girl has an easy life but still has access to all of this by association. She’s automatically smart because her husband is smart. And I’m sure she learns something new every day. And her children will be super smart too.

No, she is not automatically smart because her husband is smart. My FIL was a NASA scientist. No one would describe my MIL as “smart.” Even his kids didn’t turn out that smart, including my sweet, goofy DH.

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There’s a reason painkillers are abused by people living that kind of life. But you keep daydreaming and living vicariously through your 20-something niece if that helps you cope with the realities of your life, whatever that may entail.

Yeah, because no career women and SAHMs around DC are abusing anxiety, antidepressant and pain medications! lol

Seriously! The grinding lawyer and fed women I meet in DC are some of the most neurotic, unhappy, and anti-depressant people I've met anywhere...

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Anonymous wrote:I knew a lot of girls in college who thought they landed rich sweet Jewish guys from NY/NJ, but were dumped at age 25 and the guys quickly married Jewish girls they grew up with. Same for girls who thought they landed some old money wasp New England boys. Dumped. Targeting a flyover rich kid seems savvy.

Bc a flyover rich kid couldn't possibly have a high school sweetheart who married at 22 who'll be available when she divorces at 30 that he could then have an affair with? I'm actually not as against this OP as others here, but I recognize that marriage isn't a guarantee whether it's an east coast guy or a Midwest guy. Frankly when I was living in the south and Midwest I was shocked how many people married at 20-22 and thought they were so lucky to have found the one in high school. Then I realized a TON of those people divorce by 30-35 and find their partner for the rest of their life at that age.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure why everyone is bagging on the OP -- I agree it's something that I'd want. And I say this as someone who has all the marks of accomplishment important on the east coast -- Wharton undergrad; top law school; NYC biglaw; then we moved to DC for a better family life; DC biglaw; MoCo; top school district; investments etc. And I honestly dream about moving back to my non competitive rural NJ (not north jersey which is NYC competitive) suburb and starting a business -- not a law practice but like opening a Dunkin -- and living off that income + supplementing with our investments which we wouldn't need to bc it's just not that costly.

The difference is YOU want to start a business, either by yourself, your partner, or whomever. OP is talking about her niece like she actually accomplished something by marrying a man who happens to have rich parents.

+1. PP you're clearly an accomplished person, and you THINK you'd want what OP is describing. Yet without even realizing it when you describe how you'd go about it, you talk about starting YOUR own business and living off YOUR investments in your hometown. That's way different than marrying someone so that you can live off not even his business, but his father's business/investments.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for you, OP. Truly I do. Your mind and world are so small and circumscribed.

She's cute but not the prettiest. She's not bright. She had fun in college, fun after college, married a schmuck rich kid who "manages" car dealers and is pampered. She's doing better than 99 out of 100 women her age that I know. Her template is one to follow.

I'm pretty sure you are a troll...or an idiot. Even if this is the right thing for her, surely you understand why her experience cannot be used as a template for anyone to follow.

If this is considered an achievement in your group of friends, I would not want to hang out with the people you know.

Life is hard enough with no guarantees.

It’s great if you want more degrees and certificates or whatever. But at the end of the day some women really know security. Marrying early into a rich family provides them with the guaranteed financial security that no prestigious job ever ever.

With a strategic and well timed marriage, they are guaranteed entry and membership into the upper class or upper middle class. They don’t have to take the gmats, work thankless ours trying to move up and be noticed. By marrying well they can be the wife of the hot shot engineer and have a father in law who is a ceo and rub shoulders with and be acknowledged by the best and the brightest.

I know a pretty girl who married an astronaut. She has never taken a high level calculus or physics classes. Doesn’t know much about geopolitical strife the Middle East but now has a father in law who is a law firm partner and she attends NASA rocket launches. Her social circle is filled with intelligent acconplished people who are changing the world. And she is rich and has access to their multiple properties.

She didn’t even have to work very hard to accomplish all this.

Still not my dreamlife, because I want to be successful myself and not only be the wife of a successful man, but sounds way better than marrying a car-dealer from the midwest.

Pp here. I agree. I would never be jealous of a girl who married a car dealers son in the Midwest. I’d find that culture and setting totally suffocating.

But marrying a really smart successful guy who travels out of space, probably has interesting intellectually stimulating conversations, and comes from an accomplished educated family? Sure! Who doesn’t want that?

Personally I’d like to Be the smart accomplished person and married to a smart accomplished person. But this girl has an easy life but still has access to all of this by association. She’s automatically smart because her husband is smart. And I’m sure she learns something new every day. And her children will be super smart too.

If you are not smart, marrying a smart person won't fool the other smart people you will meet through your spouse. But it might fool the stupid ones.

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I think of a lot of better things than that. First to mind : eating whatever I want and keeping a great figure. I rather have that over any guy.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for you, OP. Truly I do. Your mind and world are so small and circumscribed.

She's cute but not the prettiest. She's not bright. She had fun in college, fun after college, married a schmuck rich kid who "manages" car dealers and is pampered. She's doing better than 99 out of 100 women her age that I know. Her template is one to follow.

I'm pretty sure you are a troll...or an idiot. Even if this is the right thing for her, surely you understand why her experience cannot be used as a template for anyone to follow.

If this is considered an achievement in your group of friends, I would not want to hang out with the people you know.

Life is hard enough with no guarantees.

It’s great if you want more degrees and certificates or whatever. But at the end of the day some women really know security. Marrying early into a rich family provides them with the guaranteed financial security that no prestigious job ever ever.

With a strategic and well timed marriage, they are guaranteed entry and membership into the upper class or upper middle class. They don’t have to take the gmats, work thankless ours trying to move up and be noticed. By marrying well they can be the wife of the hot shot engineer and have a father in law who is a ceo and rub shoulders with and be acknowledged by the best and the brightest.

I know a pretty girl who married an astronaut. She has never taken a high level calculus or physics classes. Doesn’t know much about geopolitical strife the Middle East but now has a father in law who is a law firm partner and she attends NASA rocket launches. Her social circle is filled with intelligent acconplished people who are changing the world. And she is rich and has access to their multiple properties.

She didn’t even have to work very hard to accomplish all this.

Still not my dreamlife, because I want to be successful myself and not only be the wife of a successful man, but sounds way better than marrying a car-dealer from the midwest.

Pp here. I agree. I would never be jealous of a girl who married a car dealers son in the Midwest. I’d find that culture and setting totally suffocating.

But marrying a really smart successful guy who travels out of space, probably has interesting intellectually stimulating conversations, and comes from an accomplished educated family? Sure! Who doesn’t want that?

Personally I’d like to Be the smart accomplished person and married to a smart accomplished person. But this girl has an easy life but still has access to all of this by association. She’s automatically smart because her husband is smart. And I’m sure she learns something new every day. And her children will be super smart too.

If you are not smart, marrying a smart person won't fool the other smart people you will meet through your spouse. But it might fool the stupid ones.

There must’ve been something special about her if he picked her over his fellow STEM major females.

Also isn’t it an accomplishment to snag a smart rich guy?

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for you, OP. Truly I do. Your mind and world are so small and circumscribed.

She's cute but not the prettiest. She's not bright. She had fun in college, fun after college, married a schmuck rich kid who "manages" car dealers and is pampered. She's doing better than 99 out of 100 women her age that I know. Her template is one to follow.

I'm pretty sure you are a troll...or an idiot. Even if this is the right thing for her, surely you understand why her experience cannot be used as a template for anyone to follow.

If this is considered an achievement in your group of friends, I would not want to hang out with the people you know.

Life is hard enough with no guarantees.

It’s great if you want more degrees and certificates or whatever. But at the end of the day some women really know security. Marrying early into a rich family provides them with the guaranteed financial security that no prestigious job ever ever.

With a strategic and well timed marriage, they are guaranteed entry and membership into the upper class or upper middle class. They don’t have to take the gmats, work thankless ours trying to move up and be noticed. By marrying well they can be the wife of the hot shot engineer and have a father in law who is a ceo and rub shoulders with and be acknowledged by the best and the brightest.

I know a pretty girl who married an astronaut. She has never taken a high level calculus or physics classes. Doesn’t know much about geopolitical strife the Middle East but now has a father in law who is a law firm partner and she attends NASA rocket launches. Her social circle is filled with intelligent acconplished people who are changing the world. And she is rich and has access to their multiple properties.

She didn’t even have to work very hard to accomplish all this.

Still not my dreamlife, because I want to be successful myself and not only be the wife of a successful man, but sounds way better than marrying a car-dealer from the midwest.

Pp here. I agree. I would never be jealous of a girl who married a car dealers son in the Midwest. I’d find that culture and setting totally suffocating.

But marrying a really smart successful guy who travels out of space, probably has interesting intellectually stimulating conversations, and comes from an accomplished educated family? Sure! Who doesn’t want that?

Personally I’d like to Be the smart accomplished person and married to a smart accomplished person. But this girl has an easy life but still has access to all of this by association. She’s automatically smart because her husband is smart. And I’m sure she learns something new every day. And her children will be super smart too.

Clearly you have never been to the Midwest. You are stereotyping midwestern people. The best women are form the Midwest. More attractive, more humble, more ambitious, more kind, more loyal, etc., than the East Coast. DC particularly doesn’t have the most attractive women living there.

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Anonymous wrote:People I am envious of:
My friend who just got tenure at an R1 university
My friend who has a killer design sense and just bought her 3rd investment property
My friend who literally built her own house by hand, travels the world, and is now getting a nursing degree
My friend who quit a sucky job and went out on her own as a consultant making more money working less time, spends her time on a multitude of creative hobbies and lives abroad part of the year
My other friend who quit HER sucky job after saving up mucho dinero and now sails around the world
All of these friends are 40+ and unmarried.

Person I never in a million years would be envious of:
Woman who left NYC at 27 to marry into a midwest car dealer family and live in a giant lake house and drive a new SUV.

OP, I'm not jealous of your niece's carefree 0.10% lifestyle, I'm jealous of these other 1% lifestyles a select few of my friends achieved. Also, those are much tougher and/or rely on too much luck/chance than merely being cute and targeting a rich boy in college.

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Anonymous wrote:And what happens to her when the rich guy (who is rich because of his parents, not his own skills) gets bored and moves on to a younger model? Do they have a prenup that protects his assets?

Are you naturally cynical or just when you're jealous? Odds are they have kids and stay married for 50 years. It's the Midwest, not the desperate housewives of [east coast city].

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Person I never in a million years would be envious of:
Woman who left NYC at 27 to marry into a midwest car dealer family and live in a giant lake house and drive a new SUV.

+ high community status
+ best private schools
+ travel anywhere
+ in-laws' winter home in Naples, FL
+ in-laws' ski house in Vail, CO

Not a bad come up for a cute ditz who studied communications at a crummy college.

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Person I never in a million years would be envious of:
Woman who left NYC at 27 to marry into a midwest car dealer family and live in a giant lake house and drive a new SUV.

+ high community status
+ best private schools
+ travel anywhere
+ in-laws' winter home in Naples, FL
+ in-laws' ski house in Vail, CO

Not a bad come up for a cute ditz who studied communications at a crummy college.

+1

Way better than being an underpaidbover stressed comms assistant in dc.

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There’s a reason painkillers are abused by people living that kind of life. But you keep daydreaming and living vicariously through your 20-something niece if that helps you cope with the realities of your life, whatever that may entail.

Yeah, because no career women and SAHMs around DC are abusing anxiety, antidepressant and pain medications! lol

Seriously! The grinding lawyer and fed women I meet in DC are some of the most neurotic, unhappy, and anti-depressant people I've met anywhere...

Major +2. See, e.g., this board...

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TBH, most people in DC could live a life of luxury if they were willing to move to flyover country but very few want too.

It sounds like you have issues with your own life choices.

Umm... OP's niece isn't even 30 with the lifestyle of a boomer white shoe law partner.

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Niece got lucky. For every sorority ditz like her who married rich, there are 10+ who had to marry normal middle/upper middle class chubby schmucks. Had the rich car dealer's kid not called her anymore, where would she be? On the road to becoming a cat lady with no marketable skills or her parents trying to set her up with some accountant dork from her hometown.