New husband was a douche on wedding night

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Manbaby score: 9/10

Run far and fast away.

No she is one of those new feminists. New feminists = I do not take responsibility for anything....it’s always someone else fault...I am a victim.

[Anonymous]

My BIL did this to his wife. She spent the next 14 years trying to get him to not be an asshole. My ILs are enablers so they did not stop their son and financed his drinking and whoring habits.

My SIL managed to leave him and raise her DD alone. She laments why she did not leave him the first night.

He has shown you he is a bastard so why would you not believe him.

[Anonymous]

Leave now before you have kids. He is a loser. He does not respect or love you. Do you respect and love yourself?

[Anonymous]

20+ years ago my then husband did exactly the same on our wedding night. I remember being in our bathroom crying still in my wedding dress. Things cleared up enough the next day but marriage ended 3 years later. I have long moved on and am happily married to another now but how I wish I paid attention to that red flag that night way back when. OP, do not dismiss this. Fight for your right to happiness.

[Anonymous]

The house is on fire!! Get out now! Men like this don't change. It's just drinking now. It'll be drinking and cheating later, and he'll blame both of those things on you because he's an insecure fool. And you'll become the resentful (rightfully so) hag he's already insinuating you've become.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is so dumb. So many people get drunk on their wedding night. It is not a big deal. It’s a big deal if he gets this drunk frequently. This was probably the first time in years he’s been together with all of his friends.

I agree with the poster who said you sound like his mother. Did you not have any of your own friends to party with? Were you too concerned with mommying and controlling your husband in front of everyone? Let’s be real, here. The ceremony is about the two of you. The reception is about family and friends.

I say annul him—for his sake. He doesn’t deserve a life of being controlled, monitored, and yelled at over stupid sh*t.

OP

You obviously have a bunch of basement trolls on this thread who wandered over from the politics forum. Ignore posters like the person above.doubtful they have ever been successfully married (or lived anywhere beyond their mom's basement or a frat house).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What frat was he in?

Lol!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so dumb. So many people get drunk on their wedding night. It is not a big deal. It’s a big deal if he gets this drunk frequently. This was probably the first time in years he’s been together with all of his friends.

I agree with the poster who said you sound like his mother. Did you not have any of your own friends to party with? Were you too concerned with mommying and controlling your husband in front of everyone? Let’s be real, here. The ceremony is about the two of you. The reception is about family and friends.

I say annul him—for his sake. He doesn’t deserve a life of being controlled, monitored, and yelled at over stupid sh*t.

OP

You obviously have a bunch of basement trolls on this thread who wandered over from the politics forum. Ignore posters like the person above.doubtful they have ever been successfully married (or lived anywhere beyond their mom's basement or a frat house).

PLEASE everyone. Report this guy. He has been trolling the relationship forum alllllll day long and it's tedious. When you see him report him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My BIL did this to his wife. She spent the next 14 years trying to get him to not be an asshole. My ILs are enablers so they did not stop their son and financed his drinking and whoring habits.

My SIL managed to leave him and raise her DD alone. She laments why she did not leave him the first night.

He has shown you he is a bastard so why would you not believe him.

And that's EXACTLY what it is. And exactly what you will have to be doing to make this relationship work.

Do you want to do that for the rest of your life?

[Anonymous]

Why are you posting about something that happened “months ago?”

Troll fail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so dumb. So many people get drunk on their wedding night. It is not a big deal. It’s a big deal if he gets this drunk frequently. This was probably the first time in years he’s been together with all of his friends.

I agree with the poster who said you sound like his mother. Did you not have any of your own friends to party with? Were you too concerned with mommying and controlling your husband in front of everyone? Let’s be real, here. The ceremony is about the two of you. The reception is about family and friends.

I say annul him—for his sake. He doesn’t deserve a life of being controlled, monitored, and yelled at over stupid sh*t.

OP

You obviously have a bunch of basement trolls on this thread who wandered over from the politics forum. Ignore posters like the person above.doubtful they have ever been successfully married (or lived anywhere beyond their mom's basement or a frat house).

Wrong. I am a successful woman attorney in a happy relationship with my own home and I do not post in the Politics forum. Whatever makes you feel better, though.

[Anonymous]

Why did you marry this guy in the first place? A switch isnt flipped, he was always like this, this is nothing new. You women are so so stupid. You get what you deserve.

[Anonymous]

Women get a pass at acting incredibly controlling and over the top about weddings. They even have a name for women who are assholes about it all...bridezilla.

You either need to let this go or leave or get counselling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get it annulled. This is your major red flag. Ignore at your own peril.

+1

A bad wedding night certainly doesn’t equal a bad marriage. But a lot of underlying things that jump out from your posts do.

[Anonymous]

You knew what you were marrying and did it anyway. This is what you signed up for, so deal with it!