New husband was a douche on wedding night

[Anonymous]

Get out now!

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he has a drinking problem. It's not going to get better. You made a mistake by marrying him. Look for an exit.

[Anonymous]

You took me from the shelter of my mother- I had never known or loved any other. We kissed after taking vows.
But that night on our honeymoon we stayed in separate rooms.

I wait in the darkness of my lonely room filled with sadness, filled with gloom. Hoping soon that you'll walk back through that door and love me like you tried before

Since you've been gone all that's left is a band of gold.

[Anonymous]

DTMF!!!

[Anonymous]

OP, are you posting from 1902? Has he taken your maidenhood yet? If not, you can have the marriage annulled. Not sure if you can get a refund on the dowry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this the first time you’ve been around him while he is drunk? If not, was this typical behavior and it just didn’t fly on your wedding night? If you’ve never seen him drunk, he must have just not been able to handle it, by doesn’t sound like a regular thing so let it go.

You sound immature though, to say you want to leave so quickly.

Op here. The thing is usually he’s the gentlest and sweetest guy. He does drink too much when he parties and once he event hit a guy. This was the only time he did that 3 years ago.

I am so hurt that he was so mean to me on our wedding night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this the first time you’ve been around him while he is drunk? If not, was this typical behavior and it just didn’t fly on your wedding night? If you’ve never seen him drunk, he must have just not been able to handle it, by doesn’t sound like a regular thing so let it go.

You sound immature though, to say you want to leave so quickly.

Op here. The thing is usually he’s the gentlest and sweetest guy. He does drink too much when he parties and once he event hit a guy. This was the only time he did that 3 years ago.

I am so hurt that he was so mean to me on our wedding night.

Well better get used to it- this is gonna be your future.... good luck...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this the first time you’ve been around him while he is drunk? If not, was this typical behavior and it just didn’t fly on your wedding night? If you’ve never seen him drunk, he must have just not been able to handle it, by doesn’t sound like a regular thing so let it go.

You sound immature though, to say you want to leave so quickly.

Op here. The thing is usually he’s the gentlest and sweetest guy. He does drink too much when he parties and once he event hit a guy. This was the only time he did that 3 years ago.

I am so hurt that he was so mean to me on our wedding night.

Is this a joke?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You both sound way too immature to be married.

Agree. He's still drinking like a frat boy and thinks it's NBD. OP is still bringing up their wedding night months later and wants to leave over a single not good event.

[Anonymous]

Dump him!!!!! What a douche.

[Anonymous]

Snooze.

Come on, OP, you gotta come up with a better story than this to be convincing at this point in time. Not a whole lot of creativity in this one!

[Anonymous]

This is so dumb. So many people get drunk on their wedding night. It is not a big deal. It’s a big deal if he gets this drunk frequently. This was probably the first time in years he’s been together with all of his friends.

I agree with the poster who said you sound like his mother. Did you not have any of your own friends to party with? Were you too concerned with mommying and controlling your husband in front of everyone? Let’s be real, here. The ceremony is about the two of you. The reception is about family and friends.

I say annul him—for his sake. He doesn’t deserve a life of being controlled, monitored, and yelled at over stupid sh*t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On our wedding night a few months ago, my Newly minted husband got super drunk and could hardly walk. I had to drag him back to our suite. As we were walking back I told him I was so embarrassed and disappointed that he got so drunk on our wedding night. He got angry and yelled at me on the street and goes and tells our friends that I am "picking" a fight. I finally manage to bring him to our suite where he is too drunk to unbutton my dress. When I say anything about anything about being disappointed, he says shortly that our marriage won't work if I keep picking on him.

I cried asleep on my wedding night.

The next morning when I told him I was hurt and disappointed, he loses his temper again and says I am picking on him for having a good time. We weee fighting all through breakfast.

I am so angry and hurt over all that he did to ruin our wedding night and day after. I don't know how I can forgive him. I feel humiliated, disrespected and unloved. The worst part is he didn't even apologize the next morning or for a few days after I repeatedly sat down and reminded him that this was unacceptable.

I want to leave him.

Oh dear! Were you attempting to have sex with someone who was too drunk to consent? Someone call the Gloria Allred!

Oh, wait. He is male. So he is responsible for what happens to him when he gets drunk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On our wedding night a few months ago, my Newly minted husband got super drunk and could hardly walk. I had to drag him back to our suite. As we were walking back I told him I was so embarrassed and disappointed that he got so drunk on our wedding night. He got angry and yelled at me on the street and goes and tells our friends that I am "picking" a fight. I finally manage to bring him to our suite where he is too drunk to unbutton my dress. When I say anything about anything about being disappointed, he says shortly that our marriage won't work if I keep picking on him.

I cried asleep on my wedding night.

The next morning when I told him I was hurt and disappointed, he loses his temper again and says I am picking on him for having a good time. We weee fighting all through breakfast.

I am so angry and hurt over all that he did to ruin our wedding night and day after. I don't know how I can forgive him. I feel humiliated, disrespected and unloved. The worst part is he didn't even apologize the next morning or for a few days after I repeatedly sat down and reminded him that this was unacceptable.

I want to leave him.

Oh dear! Were you attempting to have sex with someone who was too drunk to consent? Someone call the Gloria Allred!

Oh, wait. He is male. So he is responsible for what happens to him when he gets drunk.

Maybe she wanted to take the dress off to sleep...and needed help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are crazy. He got drunk on your wedding night (which hundreds of thousands of people do) and you feel disrespected and cried yourself to sleep? You sound like a drama queen.

I don't agree with this and I am a dude that likes to get drunk. It is not so much the getting drunk part but the being an as*h*le about it afterward part. Don't know enough to comment but people in denial about drinking problems would react this way. I can't tell you what to do but I would be concerned that he would be a selfish jerk perpetually. Think hard before having kids or purchasing a home together, commingling assets (if substantial). Then you have time to evaluate things but can still make a clean exit if needed.