Men why did you pick your wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She was smart, independent, successful, pretty, fun, always upbeat, caring and great in bed. The fact that she like me helped a lot.

An honest man!

[Anonymous]

I've always been spontaneous and intuitive and a go with your gut guy and one night without thinking I proposed to her, both to her and my surprise. OMG she accepted and six months later we got married and I was still WTF did I do?! Well, my gut feeling was right and for 20 years I can't imagine being luckier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:More than 50% will not answer that it was because they got her pregnant.

Ummm.... All of my married friends had their first kid at least a couple years after the wedding, so nope, don’t believe that one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Good looking, intelligent, book lover, attracted to me, good morals, laughed at my jokes.

But if you get right down to it, I could certainly find all those other qualities in many other women. I don't think I was (or am) very complicated or picky. If she passed away or divorced me, she'd easily be replaced.


What a lucky lady.

I know, I know, you're just "being honest," why should you get slammed.


Sorry if this bothers you. But I believe this is generally true for most married men. We really are NOT that picky.

The "upside" of this is we are incredibly easy to please: simply don't "change" after marriage (ie, gain weight, lose your libido).

I'm a woman and I think I understand. If my husband passed away, I would never replace *him* but I don't doubt that I would never fall in love again with someone else who has good qualities. On the other hand, I'm not sure I want to be married again--assumig I would be older and kids would be adults. This is where perhaps there's a difference--are widowed men more likely to remarry???

Absolutely.

It’s fairly common for widowed men to remarry very fast. Sometimes I appreciatly fast. It is what it is. When kids lose their mom, this is a topic that therapists frequently have to talk about. It can be really hurtful to a kid whose parents had a good marriage to see the dad dating and remarry so soon after the mom has passed away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good looking, intelligent, book lover, attracted to me, good morals, laughed at my jokes.

But if you get right down to it, I could certainly find all those other qualities in many other women. I don't think I was (or am) very complicated or picky. If she passed away or divorced me, she'd easily be replaced.

What a lucky lady.

I know, I know, you're just "being honest," why should you get slammed.

Sorry if this bothers you. But I believe this is generally true for most married men. We really are NOT that picky.

The "upside" of this is we are incredibly easy to please: simply don't "change" after marriage (ie, gain weight, lose your libido).

The upside of this is that most women are realizing this and the romantic bloom is wearing off and many women aren't putting as much stock into relationships and marriages arent happening. Women raise kids by themselves and the men are cut out of a family entirely. As it should be.

[Anonymous]

This is why if you are a real "wife material" woman it can feel sometimes like fighting off a horde with a stick... every man sees "wifey".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good looking, intelligent, book lover, attracted to me, good morals, laughed at my jokes.

But if you get right down to it, I could certainly find all those other qualities in many other women. I don't think I was (or am) very complicated or picky. If she passed away or divorced me, she'd easily be replaced.

What a lucky lady.

I know, I know, you're just "being honest," why should you get slammed.

Sorry if this bothers you. But I believe this is generally true for most married men. We really are NOT that picky.

The "upside" of this is we are incredibly easy to please: simply don't "change" after marriage (ie, gain weight, lose your libido).

A great many men cannot afford to be picky. They take what they can get.

Women have always been the selectors in mating, which is why women are much more selective, because they have that power. The same applies to high value, extremely attractive men- they've always had the pick of the litter and that affects their psychology. So they will wait around until they find someone they truly love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you decide you marry your wife?

I ask because I was telling my girlfriends that I think men aren’t picky. They aren’t complicated. All they want is a nice enough looking girl who gives them attention and is willing to stick it out and they’ll marry her.

My friends are outraged and say that this isn’t true. Men pick specific women to marry for specific reasons.

Enlighten me. Why do you marry the women you do?

I've seen this play out over and over again. It's all about timing. They marry when they feel they can handle being married - unless forced into it when the girlfriend gets pregnant.

[Anonymous]

A girl who is good enough, and a little bit of timing. It's not complicated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why if you are a real "wife material" woman it can feel sometimes like fighting off a horde with a stick... every man sees "wifey".

What is a “wife material” woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why if you are a real "wife material" woman it can feel sometimes like fighting off a horde with a stick... every man sees "wifey".

What is a “wife material” woman?

Beautiful face, intelligent, socially skilled, good manners/background.

[Anonymous]

Very cute, super smart, excellent banter skills, has her own money and a very good career, great physical chemistry, playfully neurotic family, low maintenance, low drama. The last two were absolutely key for me.

Like any person, she has downsides. But I'm not perfect either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why if you are a real "wife material" woman it can feel sometimes like fighting off a horde with a stick... every man sees "wifey".

What is a “wife material” woman?

Beautiful face, intelligent, socially skilled, good manners/background.

BTW, I'm a woman who posted this... but I know I have an excellent grasp on what men want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why if you are a real "wife material" woman it can feel sometimes like fighting off a horde with a stick... every man sees "wifey".

What is a “wife material” woman?

Hot, fun, smart. Forget "good manners/background".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good looking, intelligent, book lover, attracted to me, good morals, laughed at my jokes.

But if you get right down to it, I could certainly find all those other qualities in many other women. I don't think I was (or am) very complicated or picky. If she passed away or divorced me, she'd easily be replaced.

What a lucky lady.

I know, I know, you're just "being honest," why should you get slammed.

Sorry if this bothers you. But I believe this is generally true for most married men. We really are NOT that picky.

The "upside" of this is we are incredibly easy to please: simply don't "change" after marriage (ie, gain weight, lose your libido).

A great many men cannot afford to be picky. They take what they can get.

Women have always been the selectors in mating, which is why women are much more selective, because they have that power. The same applies to high value, extremely attractive men- they've always had the pick of the litter and that affects their psychology. So they will wait around until they find someone they truly love.

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