Men why did you pick your wife?

[Anonymous]

Why did you decide you marry your wife?

I ask because I was telling my girlfriends that I think men aren’t picky. They aren’t complicated. All they want is a nice enough looking girl who gives them attention and is willing to stick it out and they’ll marry her.

My friends are outraged and say that this isn’t true. Men pick specific women to marry for specific reasons.

Enlighten me. Why do you marry the women you do?

[Anonymous]

I think you're generally right. The looks part is easy. The hard part is finding the woman who will treat you well.

I married DW because (i) she complemented me (I'm somewhat shy, she's an extrovert), (ii) she was attractive (beautiful actually, but I would have settled for attractive), (iii) she had done a great job raising her son (my now stepson), (iv) we had cultural affinities and (v) I was ready.

[Anonymous]

She was smart, funny, kind, and self-deprecating but not overly so. I liked how she looked in jeans. I liked that there was mystery. Not in a skeletons in the closet way but in a peeling an onion way. She was interesting to me. She flirt just enough to let me know she was into me, but not so much that she was easy. I still had to work for it.

[Anonymous]

Women on here say this all the time. Is it a way to put men down? Or are we putting ourselves down?

In any case, I dated hard for a year in my late 20s when I was in between relationships. I turned down some guys who were interested in me. And some guys I was interested in turned me down. Pretty sure I was the same amount of looks and nice to all of them.

So by your logic, why didn’t I bat 1000? Why did my husband work out while others didn’t? We’re they not attracted to me? If not, why did they ask me out? Was I a bitch to them but not my husband?

I think the answer to this is human relationships are complicated. All men aren’t Labrador retrievers.

[Anonymous]

Beautiful girl, great values, family oriented, educated and Catholic. Was pretty easy decision.

[Anonymous]

More than 50% will not answer that it was because they got her pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Now that the pigs have responded......

My DW sort of picked me but that's a different story. I fell for her because she was incredibly smart, very cute and saw beyond a physical handicap that I had. We were friends for a couple of years before we got together and when she seriously showed her interest it didn't take me long to figure out she was the one. She still is over 30 years later.

[Anonymous]

She was attractive enough, we were sexually compatible, and she treated me well.

Unfortunately, the first 2 are no longer true.

[Anonymous]

You don’t seem very bright OP. Sorry, but I would never pick you (and for a very specific reason).

~ A Guy

[Anonymous]

Attractive, smart, fun.

[Anonymous]

She was and, after 15 years, still is the finest human being I have ever met. Kind hearted, selfless to a fault, strong integrity/moral compass, family oriented, drama free, intelligent, ambitious, no baggage, and came from a family who was/is the same. She's also hotter than a $2 pistol.

[Anonymous]

Some of these responses are really nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of these responses are really nice.

Same prime with online dating. People are rude over the internet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Attractive, smart, fun.

This, plus she wanted me around at night.

[Anonymous]

Good looking, intelligent, book lover, attracted to me, good morals, laughed at my jokes.

But if you get right down to it, I could certainly find all those other qualities in many other women. I don't think I was (or am) very complicated or picky. If she passed away or divorced me, she'd easily be replaced.