Men why did you pick your wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good looking, intelligent, book lover, attracted to me, good morals, laughed at my jokes.

But if you get right down to it, I could certainly find all those other qualities in many other women. I don't think I was (or am) very complicated or picky. If she passed away or divorced me, she'd easily be replaced.

OMG! I'm forwarding this to her!!

[Anonymous]

I'm not the same man I was back then, but her body was a huge part. Of my decision making (her body was not huge).

[Anonymous]

We met at work and we were good friends for a long time before we got together. She was very pretty but dressed so "professionally business-like" (in the late 70's) that there was no wow moment. But over time as I got to know her I realized how smart and caring she was and how easy it was to talk to her. Apparently I was the last one at work who realized we were perfect for each other! Once we finally connected we never really went through any dating ritual or getting to know you phase as we already knew so much about each other. And, once she got out of her business attire she was pretty hot and she still is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We met at work and we were good friends for a long time before we got together. She was very pretty but dressed so "professionally business-like" (in the late 70's) that there was no wow moment. But over time as I got to know her I realized how smart and caring she was and how easy it was to talk to her. Apparently I was the last one at work who realized we were perfect for each other! Once we finally connected we never really went through any dating ritual or getting to know you phase as we already knew so much about each other. And, once she got out of her business attire she was pretty hot and she still is.

For some reason this reminds me of Bailey from "WKRP in Cincinnati"--totally beautiful in a natural way, but totally overlooked due to thick glasses and the completely fake Loni Anderson as designated sexpot. It's a nice story, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This. This is a decent man. With a good mother to boot!

Thanks. And for the record, my parents just celebrated their 60th anniversary at the beginning of the summer. I don't know how many years they have left (Dad is 91 and Mom is 85), but they are my inspiration for what a good marriage looks like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We met at work and we were good friends for a long time before we got together. She was very pretty but dressed so "professionally business-like" (in the late 70's) that there was no wow moment. But over time as I got to know her I realized how smart and caring she was and how easy it was to talk to her. Apparently I was the last one at work who realized we were perfect for each other! Once we finally connected we never really went through any dating ritual or getting to know you phase as we already knew so much about each other. And, once she got out of her business attire she was pretty hot and she still is.

For some reason this reminds me of Bailey from "WKRP in Cincinnati"--totally beautiful in a natural way, but totally overlooked due to thick glasses and the completely fake Loni Anderson as designated sexpot. It's a nice story, PP.

PP here - I had to look Bailey up but you are absolutely right. In fact, they actually look alike - very pretty girl next door. My DW is now 65 and easily passes for 55 with the energy level of someone in their 40's. I'm exhausted!

[Anonymous]

The Main reasons I picked my wife was we had a lot in common,got along and she was willing to pull her own weight. she also said she accepted the fact I didn't want kids. I should have known it was too good to be true.

[Anonymous]

These threads always come down to the same basic facts that are thoroughly documented in HisNeeds/HerNeeds.
Can we just all accept this, stop debating "why" this or that is so important to him/her, and just go about the business of meeting our chosen partner's needs?

HIS Top 5 Emotional Needs (on average):
1. Sexual Fulfillment
2. Recreational Companionship
3. Attractiveness of Spouse
4. Domestic Support
5. Admiration

HER Top 5 Emotional Needs (on average):
1. Affection (non sexual)
2. Conversation
3. Honesty & Openness
4. Financial Support
5. Family Commitment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These threads always come down to the same basic facts that are thoroughly documented in HisNeeds/HerNeeds.
Can we just all accept this, stop debating "why" this or that is so important to him/her, and just go about the business of meeting our chosen partner's needs?

HIS Top 5 Emotional Needs (on average):
1. Sexual Fulfillment
2. Recreational Companionship
3. Attractiveness of Spouse
4. Domestic Support
5. Admiration

HER Top 5 Emotional Needs (on average):
3. Affection (non sexual)
2. Conversation

1. Financial Support Beyond the Means of Most Mortal Men
4. Family Commitment

There.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These threads always come down to the same basic facts that are thoroughly documented in HisNeeds/HerNeeds.
Can we just all accept this, stop debating "why" this or that is so important to him/her, and just go about the business of meeting our chosen partner's needs?

HIS Top 5 Emotional Needs (on average):
1. Sexual Fulfillment
2. Recreational Companionship
3. Attractiveness of Spouse
4. Domestic Support
5. Admiration

HER Top 5 Emotional Needs (on average):
1. Affection (non sexual)
2. Conversation
3. Honesty & Openness
4. Financial Support
5. Family Commitment

My wife and I have based our relationship on this book and we've had a great marriage. Our friends who have used this methodology have done well too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These threads always come down to the same basic facts that are thoroughly documented in HisNeeds/HerNeeds.
Can we just all accept this, stop debating "why" this or that is so important to him/her, and just go about the business of meeting our chosen partner's needs?

HIS Top 5 Emotional Needs (on average):
1. Sexual Fulfillment
2. Recreational Companionship
3. Attractiveness of Spouse
4. Domestic Support
5. Admiration

HER Top 5 Emotional Needs (on average):
1. Affection (non sexual)
2. Conversation
3. Honesty & Openness
4. Financial Support
5. Family Commitment

My wife and I have based our relationship on this book and we've had a great marriage. Our friends who have used this methodology have done well too.

I'll add that you have to put political correctness aside and just accept what is. Take the time to understand what your partners needs are and try to provide it for them.

[Anonymous]

It's funny no one is saying they got "tricked" by the woman. I have heard the phrase " I was young and she tricked me into marrying her" so many times, especially by younger men who marry an older (7+ years difference) woman.

[Anonymous]

I noticed that she had some exceptional child-bearing hips.

[Anonymous]

She was smart, independent, successful, pretty, fun, always upbeat, caring and great in bed. The fact that she like me helped a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's funny no one is saying they got "tricked" by the woman. I have heard the phrase " I was young and she tricked me into marrying her" so many times, especially by younger men who marry an older (7+ years difference) woman.

She tricked me with lots of sex.