If you respect and admire your husband I envy you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is a great guy but he’s kind of a lightweight. He has a funny job that people make fun of him for and he doesn’t really have any gravitas or status in our social circle.

I see friends who admire and respect their husbands and their opinions and I wish I had that. I feel that I can’t trust his judgement. He’s not serious enough.

Marriage sounds awesome. Where do I sign up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
To be fair he is very very good at his job. When I attend his work events and see the respect and admiration his colleagues have for him, I definitely get turned on. But every one else thinks he is climbing trees and taking pictures of people having affairs.

Hahaha, I can honestly say I've never received an erection from other people having any sort of respect or admiration for my girlfriend's job. You know what turns me on? Her naked body.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I work at State. No mean to brag but it is an “impressive” DC job. I don’t make much but I do have status.

Yeah, let me guess, you rock a desk as a secretary for some jerkoff who isn't as important as you think he or she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I look back regretfully on the times I passed over really great guys because they had a mediocre job.

Sounds like you got exactly what you deserved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has an MD/PhD, a stratospheric IQ, does scientific research...
and refuses to treat his severe ADHD, which makes him a lousy husband and father. I have lost so much respect for him, because he thinks only of himself and can't figure out how to care for anyone else, logistically or emotionally.

Would you rather have that, OP?

Similar boat here. My husband is smart, hot, strong, fit, amazing storyteller, tons of friends and super fun to be around.

But is a terrible partner and so-so father. Totally undependable. His needs come first and everyone and everything else is second. We are six years in with two kids and I love him but this is not what I signed up for. It has definitely gotten worse over time and with kids in the mix...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Similar boat here. My husband is smart, hot, strong, fit, amazing storyteller, tons of friends and super fun to be around.

But is a terrible partner and so-so father. Totally undependable. His needs come first and everyone and everything else is second. We are six years in with two kids and I love him but this is not what I signed up for. It has definitely gotten worse over time and with kids in the mix...

Moral of the story, boys: Treat 'em like shit, and they'll love you forever.

[Anonymous]

I respect people because of their character, not their job title or what my social circle thinks. My ex was smart, made boatloads of money, and was a sociopathic asshole who was heartless and manipulated people for his gain. A lot of people looked up to him, but he's evil.
If he's a good guy, I feel sorry he doesn't have a woman who appreciates him.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Similar boat here. My husband is smart, hot, strong, fit, amazing storyteller, tons of friends and super fun to be around.

But is a terrible partner and so-so father. Totally undependable. His needs come first and everyone and everything else is second. We are six years in with two kids and I love him but this is not what I signed up for. It has definitely gotten worse over time and with kids in the mix...

Moral of the story, boys: Treat 'em like shit, and they'll love you forever.

Moral of the story girls: Never date a guy who is fit and hot. A guy with a six pack cannot make time for both you and his abs.

[Anonymous]

Omg, he lacks gravitas in your social circle? You are not a match. Do him a favor and divorce him. There is nothing wrong with being a PI

[Anonymous]

I am very fortunate. My DH makes a lot of money and is very talented at what he does. He also helps around the house and does his equal share of chores and childcare. He is amazingly supportive and caring in everyway too. I am very lucky and respect, admire and love him a lot. Corny but true

[Anonymous]

My husband is great at his job, is interesting, well read, handsome, and fit. My disrespect comes from m his lack of involvement with the kids and me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know... It sounds like you are the one with an issue, not your DH. At least he works. Do you work OP?

why would I work? I have a vagina and a husband. That is why I have regrets. He should be pulling his weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I learned today that in D.C. being employed at State causes people to fawn over you and being self-employed as a P.I. is the source of mockery.

I work at State and learned the same as well today. Pretty surprising to me when leadership at State believes we're all useless and replaceable. Being a gov't employee in DC is completely unremarkable.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned today that in D.C. being employed at State causes people to fawn over you and being self-employed as a P.I. is the source of mockery.

I work at State and learned the same as well today. Pretty surprising to me when leadership at State believes we're all useless and replaceable. Being a gov't employee in DC is completely unremarkable.

I think being a P.I. is really cool. I'll bet he has some interesting stories.

[Anonymous]

I learned today that in D.C. being employed at State causes people to fawn over you and being self-employed as a P.I. is the source of mockery.

Stop hanging out with people who have contempt for someone who provides for his family, or who doesn't drive the coolest car, or who doesn't work at the World Bank.