Is it tough for nova kids to make friends at Ivys?

[Anonymous]

I think making friends is a function of your emotional intelligence, likeability, etc.

I know a neighbor who was just admitted to an Ivy and is attending now as a freshman. He did not have a ton of friends in HS because, unfortunately, he has an annoying personality (always correcting you, etc). I like the neighbor, and hope he succeeds, but I know some kids are just more likeable than others.

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Anonymous wrote:if it has been historically difficult to make friends for a kid that trend will likely continue in college regardless of where he/she is from. Such a weird question.

+1 Such a weird question. It has everything to do with the kid and nothing to do with the college.

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Anonymous wrote:The filthy rich cosmopolitan kids find each other immediately. Everyone is friends of friends, has that carefree rich kid vibe.

The upper middle class strivers can feel excluded and "poor".

lol.....I'm going to go way out on a limb and guess that you are neither UMC nor attended an Ivy.

There is an element of truth about the rich kids. At my Ivy the rich kids all very quickly gravitated to each other as if by magic.

But the upper middle class kids surely shouldn’t be out of place as the Ivy student body heavily leans towards this demographic. If the kid is unhappy or can’t make friends it’s not so much the school but other factors, including simple bad luck.

I could see it being tough.

It's much easier for rich kids (NYC and prep school) and athletes to establish themselves socially at the Ivies.

True, they already know which eating/finals clubs/secret societies to join. But, knowing people already can work against them. A guy from my HS (NYC private) was blackballed at the Ivy Club (Princeton) by a girl who was a year ahead of us in HS. She didn’t like him from HS so didn’t want him in her club. He is from a very prominent and very rich NYC family.

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Rich kids smell UMC strivers from a mile away...

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Anonymous wrote:Rich kids smell UMC strivers from a mile away...

Smart kids smell rich slackers a mile away. PAGING THE WINSKELVOSS TWINS

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Anonymous wrote:Rich kids smell UMC strivers from a mile away...

Smart kids smell rich slackers a mile away. PAGING THE WINSKELVOSS TWINS

They seem to be doing pretty well. And they definitely aren't slackers (rich kids, obviously).

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Anonymous wrote:Rich kids smell UMC strivers from a mile away...

Smart kids smell rich slackers a mile away. PAGING THE WINSKELVOSS TWINS

Not a lot of slackers at Ivies.

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Anonymous wrote:Rich kids smell UMC strivers from a mile away...

Smart kids smell rich slackers a mile away. PAGING THE WINSKELVOSS TWINS

Not a lot of slackers at Ivies.

PAGING KUSHNER AND IVANKA. DUMB AND DUMBER. ADD SCARAMUCCI TO THAT LIST AS WELL.

[Anonymous]

Nova kids shine so brightly it is hard to get close to them.

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Anonymous wrote:I could see how "strivers" and "unconnected random kids" would not necessarily form strong bonds in college, but you are taking one girl's experience at one school and applying it to all Ivies?

No, not in my kids' experience. The Ivies they attend take kids from all over (as does Brown) and their friend groups are equally diverse in terms of public and private school alums and kids from all over the country.

The posts are anonymous.

Including the names of schools your kids attend might help OP and others.

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Anonymous wrote:The filthy rich cosmopolitan kids find each other immediately. Everyone is friends of friends, has that carefree rich kid vibe.

The upper middle class strivers can feel excluded and "poor".

lol.....I'm going to go way out on a limb and guess that you are neither UMC nor attended an Ivy.

There is an element of truth about the rich kids. At my Ivy the rich kids all very quickly gravitated to each other as if by magic.

But the upper middle class kids surely shouldn’t be out of place as the Ivy student body heavily leans towards this demographic. If the kid is unhappy or can’t make friends it’s not so much the school but other factors, including simple bad luck.

I could see it being tough.

It's much easier for rich kids (NYC and prep school) and athletes to establish themselves socially at the Ivies.

True, they already know which eating/finals clubs/secret societies to join. But, knowing people already can work against them. A guy from my HS (NYC private) was blackballed at the Ivy Club (Princeton) by a girl who was a year ahead of us in HS. She didn’t like him from HS so didn’t want him in her club. He is from a very prominent and very rich NYC family.

Hilarious. Typical East Coast problems.

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Anonymous wrote:Rich kids smell UMC strivers from a mile away...

Smart kids smell rich slackers a mile away. PAGING THE WINSKELVOSS TWINS

Not a lot of slackers at Ivies.

PAGING KUSHNER AND IVANKA. DUMB AND DUMBER. ADD SCARAMUCCI TO THAT LIST AS WELL.

Uhh Mooch went to Tufts and was raised blue collar. I’m pretty sure he got into Harvard Law School due to sheer hustle. Correct me if I’m wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rich kids smell UMC strivers from a mile away...

Smart kids smell rich slackers a mile away. PAGING THE WINSKELVOSS TWINS

Not a lot of slackers at Ivies.

PAGING KUSHNER AND IVANKA. DUMB AND DUMBER. ADD SCARAMUCCI TO THAT LIST AS WELL.

Uhh Mooch went to Tufts and was raised blue collar. I’m pretty sure he got into Harvard Law School due to sheer hustle. Correct me if I’m wrong.

Super guidos get affirmative action.