s/o: MEN what are the dealbreakers and dealmakers for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You really hate fat people, don't you?

In the context of a romantic relationship, "fat" is a total dealbreaker for me.
That's an entirely different thing from "hate fat people".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You really hate fat people, don't you?

No. Just wouldn't date someone fat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Deal maker:

Single mom who (if given only enough money for one) would pick Disney with her kid over an island excursion with her best friend.

Incredibly witty

Beautiful to me without makeup

Matching libido

Under 5'3. (I'm 5'8 so I like the illusion of being tall)

Dealbreakers:

Doesn't like or want kids

Smoker

Snobbish or elitist

Low libido

Morbidly obese

Are you single? How old?

I'm single. 35.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Deal maker:

Single mom who (if given only enough money for one) would pick Disney with her kid over an island excursion with her best friend.

Incredibly witty

Beautiful to me without makeup

Matching libido

Under 5'3. (I'm 5'8 so I like the illusion of being tall)

Dealbreakers:

Doesn't like or want kids

Smoker

Snobbish or elitist

Low libido

Morbidly obese

After 18 years of being a parent, I would take an island vacation with my BFF over Disney with my kids in a heartbeat. If you are early 30s or younger and haven't had kids yet, I can see why you would say this. I'm pretty over the kid centered vacation idea, thanks.

After 18 years, I would imagine so. I'm 35. My ex-wife said she didn't realize she didn't want to have kids until after our daughter was born. She never does anything with her when they're together. She's never taken her on any trips. My daughter's in elementary school, but she's starting to pick up on it. My ex went on two vacations this summer, and my daughter asked why she never takes her. I feel like I always have to compensate for that. We go on trips, we have picnics, we do a lot of activities (kayaking, craft classes, etc), but I know I can't replace her mom. I guess a part of me is hoping that if I meet someone who also has a kid, then I can gauge the type of stepparent they'll be by looking at their relationship with their child. I wouldn't expect every trip to be kid-centric or even involve her, but I would hope that if it came down to just enough for one trip then the other person would be the type to use that money on a family event. Maybe that's not realistic. I don't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Deal maker:

Single mom who (if given only enough money for one) would pick Disney with her kid over an island excursion with her best friend.

Incredibly witty

Beautiful to me without makeup

Matching libido

Under 5'3. (I'm 5'8 so I like the illusion of being tall)

Dealbreakers:

Doesn't like or want kids

Smoker

Snobbish or elitist

Low libido

Morbidly obese

Are you single? How old?

I'm single. 35.

We should totally hang out then

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Deal maker:

Single mom who (if given only enough money for one) would pick Disney with her kid over an island excursion with her best friend.

Incredibly witty

Beautiful to me without makeup

Matching libido

Under 5'3. (I'm 5'8 so I like the illusion of being tall)

Dealbreakers:

Doesn't like or want kids

Smoker

Snobbish or elitist

Low libido

Morbidly obese

After 18 years of being a parent, I would take an island vacation with my BFF over Disney with my kids in a heartbeat. If you are early 30s or younger and haven't had kids yet, I can see why you would say this. I'm pretty over the kid centered vacation idea, thanks.

After 18 years, I would imagine so. I'm 35. My ex-wife said she didn't realize she didn't want to have kids until after our daughter was born. She never does anything with her when they're together. She's never taken her on any trips. My daughter's in elementary school, but she's starting to pick up on it. My ex went on two vacations this summer, and my daughter asked why she never takes her. I feel like I always have to compensate for that. We go on trips, we have picnics, we do a lot of activities (kayaking, craft classes, etc), but I know I can't replace her mom. I guess a part of me is hoping that if I meet someone who also has a kid, then I can gauge the type of stepparent they'll be by looking at their relationship with their child. I wouldn't expect every trip to be kid-centric or even involve her, but I would hope that if it came down to just enough for one trip then the other person would be the type to use that money on a family event. Maybe that's not realistic. I don't know.

This just broke my heart. I hope you find a nice girl who can be a motherly influence on your daughter. I know there are women like that out there. I'm like that..currently saving up for Disney. (I do fun stuff with my friends too.)

You seem really sweet. Keep being an awesome dad.