s/o: MEN what are the dealbreakers and dealmakers for you?

[Anonymous]

There are mour guys on this forum than I expected!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So in summary, most guys want a good earner who is sexy, slim, hot in bed, undemanding. (see drama free, not materialistic, quiet)

Right. Dream on guys.

You've got it backwards. That's what women want. Funny how it apparently seems unrealistic to you when you mistakenly assume that's what men want.

There was a comic who had a routine about how, on a date, a woman's lowest expectations exceeded a man's wildest dreams: "Wait, she's going to take me to dinner, pay for everything, and try to get me drunk so she can have sex with me?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are mour guys on this forum than I expected!

At least in my case I started reading this forum because I wanted to know what my wife found more interesting than talking to me. I also found out that the oops pregnancy that resulted in another child wasn't an Oops but more of a well I fooled him.

[Anonymous]

I see a lot of not fit guys around so are all of you who are so into weight very fit yourselves?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Deal maker:

Single mom who (if given only enough money for one) would pick Disney with her kid over an island excursion with her best friend.

Incredibly witty

Beautiful to me without makeup

Matching libido

Under 5'3. (I'm 5'8 so I like the illusion of being tall)

Dealbreakers:

Doesn't like or want kids

Smoker

Snobbish or elitist

Low libido

Morbidly obese

Are you single? How old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see a lot of not fit guys around so are all of you who are so into weight very fit yourselves?

PP here (1240, 2247 and 0923) Personally I've just been the benefactor of genetics (can't gain weight to save my life) I can still run 3 miles in under 20 minutes but I also smoke so I'd say that I'm not really fit. Someday my bad habits are going to kill me.. but that fine by me were all going to die from something, someday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dealbreaker: "me, me, me, I, I, I." Sadly so common ...

I don't read it that way. Men tend to need more sexual intimacy and women more emotional intimacy so the deal makers and deal breakers reflect that. There are many characteristics in these posts that are similar to the womens as well...people are just ignoring them to focus on the physical / sexual ones.

I really have no idea what you are saying.
The point I was making is that it is a dealbreaker when a person is self-obsesses. You can tell when in every conversation you hear "me, me, me, I, I, I."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dealbreaker: "me, me, me, I, I, I." Sadly so common ...

I don't read it that way. Men tend to need more sexual intimacy and women more emotional intimacy so the deal makers and deal breakers reflect that. There are many characteristics in these posts that are similar to the womens as well...people are just ignoring them to focus on the physical / sexual ones.

I really have no idea what you are saying.
The point I was making is that it is a dealbreaker when a person is self-obsesses. You can tell when in every conversation you hear "me, me, me, I, I, I."

should be: self-obsessed.

[Anonymous]

Chick here. I find a lot of these replies less than honest. Most of you all don't care about the drama as long as she's hot.

Unless you mean, who is marriage material and who is not? Maybe you should tailor your responses accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Chick here. I find a lot of these replies less than honest. Most of you all don't care about the drama as long as she's hot.

Unless you mean, who is marriage material and who is not? Maybe you should tailor your responses accordingly.

I am thinking / answered long term relationships or family like relationship. I do not want drama... I do want intelligence and funny.

For a ONS, only requirement is a vagina.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Chick here. I find a lot of these replies less than honest. Most of you all don't care about the drama as long as she's hot.

Unless you mean, who is marriage material and who is not? Maybe you should tailor your responses accordingly.

I am thinking / answered long term relationships or family like relationship. I do not want drama... I do want intelligence and funny.

For a ONS, only requirement is a vagina.

gotta disagree with that. even with ONS what good is just a vagina if she only lays there, you could get a blowup doll and play porn in the background for the sound and go to town if that's all you want.

For a ONS I want the energizer bunny who is a little selfish and works to get what she wants. Even with no emotional connection I want my partner to have as much enjoyment as I have if not more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Chick here. I find a lot of these replies less than honest. Most of you all don't care about the drama as long as she's hot.

Unless you mean, who is marriage material and who is not? Maybe you should tailor your responses accordingly.

I am thinking / answered long term relationships or family like relationship. I do not want drama... I do want intelligence and funny.

For a ONS, only requirement is a vagina.

gotta disagree with that. even with ONS what good is just a vagina if she only lays there, you could get a blowup doll and play porn in the background for the sound and go to town if that's all you want.

For a ONS I want the energizer bunny who is a little selfish and works to get what she wants. Even with no emotional connection I want my partner to have as much enjoyment as I have if not more.

We have to disagree. By ONS, I assume it is consensual, and that she is somewhat into it. I am okay doing the work as long as she is happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Chick here. I find a lot of these replies less than honest. Most of you all don't care about the drama as long as she's hot.

Unless you mean, who is marriage material and who is not? Maybe you should tailor your responses accordingly.

There is a hot-crazy line. The more line items there are in the plus column, the more bs one is willing to tolerate. So her being pretty is a thing. Her actually enjoying my company is a thing. Those are reasons to stick around.

And if we've been writing down not fat, it's stupid for a woman to pretend we wrote thin or fit. If we wrote down pretty or cute, it's dishonest to pretend we wrote hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see a lot of not fit guys around so are all of you who are so into weight very fit yourselves?

Personally I said average or above and I am better looking than the average dude

Most women want a guy with an above average income; is that what you bring to the table?

Again males care about physical, females care about financial, (and some emotional although they can get that from other women and nice guy/betas at the office)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Deal maker:

Single mom who (if given only enough money for one) would pick Disney with her kid over an island excursion with her best friend.

Incredibly witty

Beautiful to me without makeup

Matching libido

Under 5'3. (I'm 5'8 so I like the illusion of being tall)

Dealbreakers:

Doesn't like or want kids

Smoker

Snobbish or elitist

Low libido

Morbidly obese

After 18 years of being a parent, I would take an island vacation with my BFF over Disney with my kids in a heartbeat. If you are early 30s or younger and haven't had kids yet, I can see why you would say this. I'm pretty over the kid centered vacation idea, thanks.