s/o: MEN what are the dealbreakers and dealmakers for you?

[Anonymous]

Makers:

Likes my big red truck

likes to cuddle

intelligent

good cook (or at least willing to learn from me)

Someone I can always talk to at the end of the day

Stable family background


Breakers:

Narcissist

Vegan

Obese

Drug user

STD

Social justice warrior

[Anonymous]

As a recent empty-nester just starting to date again, I am a little clueless about all the guys who don't want "drama." Is that just code for women who have expectations and accountability in a relationship? Or do you just mean not having a drug problem?

Maybe my standards are a little low, but dealmakers are pretty simple: Enjoy spending time together, regardless of whether we're doing something she prefers or that I do. And the only deal breaker is missing generosity of spirit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a recent empty-nester just starting to date again, I am a little clueless about all the guys who don't want "drama." Is that just code for women who have expectations and accountability in a relationship? Or do you just mean not having a drug problem?

Maybe my standards are a little low, but dealmakers are pretty simple: Enjoy spending time together, regardless of whether we're doing something she prefers or that I do. And the only deal breaker is missing generosity of spirit.

I think it just means women who don't have a lot of conflict with other people. There are some women who seem to relish conflicts.

[Anonymous]

Deal Maker:
Returns my text messages/emails in a timely manner (the ones asking like if she wants to go out on Saturday night, etc)
Enjoys her job, whatever it is (money not important) and is ambitious

Deal Breaker:
Smoker
SJW
Obese
Doesn't want kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a recent empty-nester just starting to date again, I am a little clueless about all the guys who don't want "drama." Is that just code for women who have expectations and accountability in a relationship? Or do you just mean not having a drug problem?

Maybe my standards are a little low, but dealmakers are pretty simple: Enjoy spending time together, regardless of whether we're doing something she prefers or that I do. And the only deal breaker is missing generosity of spirit.

Drama: anger, money problems, family problems, a drinking problem, mental illness. Anything ratcheting up the anxiety level before you've decided her problems are yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a recent empty-nester just starting to date again, I am a little clueless about all the guys who don't want "drama." Is that just code for women who have expectations and accountability in a relationship? Or do you just mean not having a drug problem?

No it means like any little thing becomes a big thing. For guys, we can usually resolve any issue by having a drink together.

[Anonymous]

Deal Maker:

Thigh gap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Deal makers:

Gets naked every once in a while
Independent
Likes to travel
Fit
Enjoys a good cocktail
Witty

Deal Breakers:

Creates drama
Disrespectful to others
Hates my music (doesn't need to like it, just tolerate it)
Has any issue with the fact that my kids are the center of my universe
Doesn't like my dog

Out of curiosity, what's your music?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maker:
Sense of Humor
Intelligence
Education
Understands infield fly rule
Wants kids

Breaker:
Believes in astrology
Religious
Conservative
Substance Abuse
Lying
Excessive spending

Can not have the same genetic defects I have -- too much risk to offspring. That include BRCA1, Familial High Cholesterol.

What number date is the Cheek Swab for DNA date? Third? Fourth?

[Anonymous]

Is working a lot a dealbreaker? My DH constantly teases me that most guys would not put up with someone who spends as much time at the office as I do (it can be a lot, I admit).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is working a lot a dealbreaker? My DH constantly teases me that most guys would not put up with someone who spends as much time at the office as I do (it can be a lot, I admit).

How can you start something if you don't make time? 80% of success is showing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a recent empty-nester just starting to date again, I am a little clueless about all the guys who don't want "drama." Is that just code for women who have expectations and accountability in a relationship? Or do you just mean not having a drug problem?

Maybe my standards are a little low, but dealmakers are pretty simple: Enjoy spending time together, regardless of whether we're doing something she prefers or that I do. And the only deal breaker is missing generosity of spirit.

I think it just means women who don't have a lot of conflict with other people. There are some women who seem to relish conflicts.

That is code for a woman who knows how to keep her mouth shut. Especially with her man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a recent empty-nester just starting to date again, I am a little clueless about all the guys who don't want "drama." Is that just code for women who have expectations and accountability in a relationship? Or do you just mean not having a drug problem?

Maybe my standards are a little low, but dealmakers are pretty simple: Enjoy spending time together, regardless of whether we're doing something she prefers or that I do. And the only deal breaker is missing generosity of spirit.

I think it just means women who don't have a lot of conflict with other people. There are some women who seem to relish conflicts.

That is code for a woman who knows how to keep her mouth shut. Especially with her man.

Differnt poster here. The PP didn't mean that a woman has to keep her mouth shut. He means that some women just love to create conflict. It can be with anyone - that b*tch at work, her MIL, DH's sister because she always gets her way, etc. It's always something with those types and its stressful to a person who is laid back and just thinks everyone should be reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a recent empty-nester just starting to date again, I am a little clueless about all the guys who don't want "drama." Is that just code for women who have expectations and accountability in a relationship? Or do you just mean not having a drug problem?

Maybe my standards are a little low, but dealmakers are pretty simple: Enjoy spending time together, regardless of whether we're doing something she prefers or that I do. And the only deal breaker is missing generosity of spirit.

I think it just means women who don't have a lot of conflict with other people. There are some women who seem to relish conflicts.

I agree with this definition of drama. Head over to Family Relationships for great example of wives who love drama.

[Anonymous]

You really hate fat people, don't you?