Your opinion: boy punching a girl, ok or nay

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both were wrong.

In college I slapped a guy once for being suggestive and rude. He backhanded me and I landed on the floor. He gave me a black eye.

A man should never hit a woman. A woman should never physically attack a man as it's not safe.

Hopefully both kids will learn this lesson.

So, what are you saying proud Mary?? You can slap him, but he can't slap you? Hypocrite. How about using words? I am tired of this topic where woman go around saying men can't hit women even if a woman hits a guy first. It is wrong, I am for equality, start acting like a person and not like a woman and maybe you will have equal rights. Women like you make me sick.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Times change.

If I had ever hit a girl in this sort of situation, no matter who instigated it, my dad would have kicked my ass something awful. And the worst part would have been the unrelenting grief I would have gotten from my peers! A boy hitting a girl was something that just doesn't happen. You walk away, control the situation, move and avoid getting hit, laugh, whatever. But hit a girl? No chance.

Times do change. I was taught boys shouldn't hit girls, but I was also taught (as a girl) that I shouldn't act like an asshole and take advantage of that. What has changed is the whole "Girl Power" push that allows girls to feel empowered to act like assholes and prove that they are tough with no consequences.

I have seen this with my sons. They've each come home from school with bruises on their shins and scratch marks all over their arms. Girls (4th - 6th grade) mess with them to get their attention and think it's funny that the boys can't do anything about it. The teacher has told me it's how some girls flirt with boys they like. Of course my boys know better than to retaliate. The most they can do is tell them to stop it or to ignore them, which causes the girls to do it even more.

I was taught that people shouldn't hit people. And I'm 50 years old, so this isn't exactly a new idea.

Yes!! I was also taught that you don'the hit a guy there unless it'seems self defence.

Uh, this WAS self-defense. She was attacking him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, at 12/13, the girls are often bigger and stronger than the boys.

Indeed. My DS was the smallest in his class at that age, growth delay. He is now much taller at 18, but even at 13 any girl was bigger than him, and some by a lot, add the fact that he is as skinny as a rail, he was at a huge disadvantage. Not that he ever hit or got hit.

[Anonymous]

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So, what are you saying proud Mary?? You can slap him, but he can't slap you? Hypocrite. How about using words? I am tired of this topic where woman go around saying men can't hit women even if a woman hits a guy first. It is wrong, I am for equality, start acting like a person and not like a woman and maybe you will have equal rights. Women like you make me sick.

The term "person" includes women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

So, what are you saying proud Mary?? You can slap him, but he can't slap you? Hypocrite. How about using words? I am tired of this topic where woman go around saying men can't hit women even if a woman hits a guy first. It is wrong, I am for equality, start acting like a person and not like a woman and maybe you will have equal rights. Women like you make me sick.

The term "person" includes women.

Exactly why I used it. How hard is it to get the point?

[Anonymous]

Let me say this with our reading the entirety of this asinine thread.

Girl should never have engaged in her behavior at all. Boy should have WALKED AWAY. It is dangerous to give boys the message its ok to hit a girl if she starts it. HELL NO. When he grows into a 180 lb man and punches a woman in the face HE CAN KILL HER.

There is not a double standard her. Men are physically stronger than women. Scratching a man will not kill him, a woman hitting a man will most likely not kill him, but a woman being punched in the face CAN be FATAL, and at the very least, disfiguring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The boy needs to be taught not to tease/bully. Girl needs to learn to walk away

Yep

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me say this with our reading the entirety of this asinine thread.

Girl should never have engaged in her behavior at all. Boy should have WALKED AWAY. It is dangerous to give boys the message its ok to hit a girl if she starts it. HELL NO. When he grows into a 180 lb man and punches a woman in the face HE CAN KILL HER.

There is not a double standard her. Men are physically stronger than women. Scratching a man will not kill him, a woman hitting a man will most likely not kill him, but a woman being punched in the face CAN be FATAL, and at the very least, disfiguring.

Actually it is a double standard about the person being punched. After all, a man being punched in the face by a man can be fatal too, and at the very least, disfiguring. So men shouldn't punch women or men.

[Anonymous]

To all those mothers of only daughters, flip it around. Your daughter called a boy she plays with Mike instead of Michael. Michael gets annoyed and tells her to please call him Michael, he hates Mike. You daughter, been an immature kid, calls him Mike again. Mike slaps her (equivalent of leaving nail marks, right?). You daughter laughs it off, and this pisses Michael more. Michael then slaps her again. Now you daughter doesn't think its funny anymore, pushes him off her and tells him not to hit her anymore. Michael gets even more mad and punches her her crotch. I'm sorry, but you clucking hens are crazy. That is assault AND sexual assault. I hope any girl would punch a boy if he did that to them. I expect the boy to do so also. Kids need to stick up to themselves. OP, you daughter is right, this girl was completely aggressive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Times change.

If I had ever hit a girl in this sort of situation, no matter who instigated it, my dad would have kicked my ass something awful. And the worst part would have been the unrelenting grief I would have gotten from my peers! A boy hitting a girl was something that just doesn't happen. You walk away, control the situation, move and avoid getting hit, laugh, whatever. But hit a girl? No chance.

Times do change. I was taught boys shouldn't hit girls, but I was also taught (as a girl) that I shouldn't act like an asshole and take advantage of that. What has changed is the whole "Girl Power" push that allows girls to feel empowered to act like assholes and prove that they are tough with no consequences.

I have seen this with my sons. They've each come home from school with bruises on their shins and scratch marks all over their arms. Girls (4th - 6th grade) mess with them to get their attention and think it's funny that the boys can't do anything about it. The teacher has told me it's how some girls flirt with boys they like. Of course my boys know better than to retaliate. The most they can do is tell them to stop it or to ignore them, which causes the girls to do it even more.

I was taught that people shouldn't hit people. And I'm 50 years old, so this isn't exactly a new idea.

Yes!! I was also taught that you don'the hit a guy there unless it'seems self defence.

Uh, this WAS self-defense. She was attacking him.

I'm saying the only time you hit a guy there is to defend yourself. She was attacking him, not defending herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both children are guilty of assaulting each other.

"She started it" is not a good enough defense.

It actually is. How many times was the boy going to get assaulted before she stopped? He made her stop. In real life, she would have been arrested.

[Anonymous]

This is OP. Just read all the answers. Here is some background. The boy is my oldest daughter's age. They've been in the same school since kindergarten, the boy is very nice and polite and very popular with a lot of friends, including my daughter. My daughter is friends with boy but not with the girl. She has mentioned that the girl answers "meanly" or "snappy" so she really doesn't have many friends at school. My daughter said that boy is very nice to girl all the time. I think the girl is very, very pretty, so boy may have a crush on her? Maybe that is why he was calling her by short version of name. My daughter teases her friends too, silly things. Her friends tease right back. It's like banter. But I was taught no one should hit anyone, much less a boy to a girl. But I was very surprised a girl reacted with such violence. The boy had 4 clear nail marks on his chest and a nasty scratch on his face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me say this with our reading the entirety of this asinine thread.

Girl should never have engaged in her behavior at all. Boy should have WALKED AWAY. It is dangerous to give boys the message its ok to hit a girl if she starts it. HELL NO. When he grows into a 180 lb man and punches a woman in the face HE CAN KILL HER.

There is not a double standard her. Men are physically stronger than women. Scratching a man will not kill him, a woman hitting a man will most likely not kill him, but a woman being punched in the face CAN be FATAL, and at the very least, disfiguring.

So, that means that you, a woman, are empowered to hit me, a man. But I can not defend myself. WRONG.

IT IS NOT OK FOR YOU OR THE GIRL TO RESORT TO VIOLENCE. I AM ALLOWED TO DEFEND MYSELF IF ATTACKED. YOU ATTACK ME, I AM FIGHTING BACK.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me say this with our reading the entirety of this asinine thread.

Girl should never have engaged in her behavior at all. Boy should have WALKED AWAY. It is dangerous to give boys the message its ok to hit a girl if she starts it. HELL NO. When he grows into a 180 lb man and punches a woman in the face HE CAN KILL HER.

There is not a double standard her. Men are physically stronger than women. Scratching a man will not kill him, a woman hitting a man will most likely not kill him, but a woman being punched in the face CAN be FATAL, and at the very least, disfiguring.

So, that means that you, a woman, are empowered to hit me, a man. But I can not defend myself. WRONG.

IT IS NOT OK FOR YOU OR THE GIRL TO RESORT TO VIOLENCE. I AM ALLOWED TO DEFEND MYSELF IF ATTACKED. YOU ATTACK ME, I AM FIGHTING BACK.

Thats not what i said dipshit. Nobody said it was ok for a woman to hit a man.
Oooh, wanna hit me?

The fact is that the BALANCE of PHYSICAL STRENGTH between a man and a woman is with the MAN. A little boy who learns that punching girls back is "ok" because "she started it" grows into man with dominant physical strength who can severely or fatally injure a woman. How about you just be A MAN and walk away? Men like you are disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me say this with our reading the entirety of this asinine thread.

Girl should never have engaged in her behavior at all. Boy should have WALKED AWAY. It is dangerous to give boys the message its ok to hit a girl if she starts it. HELL NO. When he grows into a 180 lb man and punches a woman in the face HE CAN KILL HER.

There is not a double standard her. Men are physically stronger than women. Scratching a man will not kill him, a woman hitting a man will most likely not kill him, but a woman being punched in the face CAN be FATAL, and at the very least, disfiguring.

So, that means that you, a woman, are empowered to hit me, a man. But I can not defend myself. WRONG.

IT IS NOT OK FOR YOU OR THE GIRL TO RESORT TO VIOLENCE. I AM ALLOWED TO DEFEND MYSELF IF ATTACKED. YOU ATTACK ME, I AM FIGHTING BACK.

Thats not what i said dipshit. Nobody said it was ok for a woman to hit a man.
Oooh, wanna hit me?

The fact is that the BALANCE of PHYSICAL STRENGTH between a man and a woman is with the MAN. A little boy who learns that punching girls back is "ok" because "she started it" grows into man with dominant physical strength who can severely or fatally injure a woman. How about you just be A MAN and walk away? Men like you are disgusting.

Not the PP, but I have 2 boys and 2 girls. I would've been perfectly ok with one of my sons punching that girl in this particular situation. Just because this boy punched this girl doesn't mean he'll grow up to punch a woman. He was assaulted twice and then punched in a very sensitive area. It is his right to defend himself.