Attracted to female friend

[Anonymous]

I agree. Sexuality is super complicated.
I just find it fascinating how many women admit to fantasies about other women. Would never have thought it.

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Anonymous wrote:Experienced this several times and straight also.

You're not straight! Welcome to the bi team

Not necessarrily. I fantasize about a woman, even about her in bed with her husband, but I would never want her in bed with me. I couldn't do it, no desire or interest. I would watch her though, and be aroused by that. I don't think it's "bi" unless you long for the person of the opposite sex sexually WITH you.

I'm not into labeling. I think that fanatsizing about the same sex definitely gets you at least a Kinsey score of 1. So do you consider only a zero Kinsey score straight? Or is it ones and zeros? So does the label bi mean 2-5 inclusive?

See to me human sexuality is super complicated and trying to label people even as gay/straight/bi is problematic.

I identify as bi and I think a lot of biphobia exists. Embrace it, PP!

I'm PP, and I'm definitely not biphobic. I'm just not sure where I fit on the scale. I'm certain I don't think I could be comfortable doing "it" with a female. I'm not turned on by woman on woman. I AM turned on watching a woman on man. I could do a man-woman-woman, *maybe*, but I think I could only "round second" with the woman (sorry, not sure what language I can use here, please delete if inappropriate.) I've never considered myself bi.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Experienced this several times and straight also.

You're not straight! Welcome to the bi team

Not necessarrily. I fantasize about a woman, even about her in bed with her husband, but I would never want her in bed with me. I couldn't do it, no desire or interest. I would watch her though, and be aroused by that. I don't think it's "bi" unless you long for the person of the opposite sex sexually WITH you.

Girl, give in to it. Nothing wrong with fantasizing about a lady. Whether it's with another dude or not. You are not solely "straight", I hate to tell ya

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree. I think you can have fantasies of same sex but still not act on them and be straight. If you look at the explicit thread where people talk about what turns them on, SO many of the replies said 'women.' They can't all be bi. Some even admitted it is just the thought they liked and they wouldn't actually want anything to physically happen.

Why can't they all be bi? There are way more of us than you would think. Sooooo many women have fantasies about other women and would go there

Once you come out as bi, you see it more and more- it's like a secret club.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think all husbands would find it a turn on, thought of his wife with another woman. Guess it depends on who the other woman was though.

Plus it's not super hot when you get dumped so she can be with the other woman. Be careful what you wish for.

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Anonymous wrote:But am a straight woman. Fantasize about her too. Is this normal?

How old are your children?

What is the relevance?

Because once you're finished with the sperm donor you can move on.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Like I have said several times now, I am NOT planning on telling her how I feel or asking her how she feels about running off with me. It is strictly fantasy only.

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Anonymous wrote:But am a straight woman. Fantasize about her too. Is this normal?

How old are your children?

What is the relevance?

Because once you're finished with the sperm donor you can move on.

I don't understand this either.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think all husbands would find it a turn on, thought of his wife with another woman. Guess it depends on who the other woman was though.

Plus it's not super hot when you get dumped so she can be with the other woman. Be careful what you wish for.

I think more men are realizing how intense of a threat women are to their relationships. It's happening more and more

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Anonymous wrote:Experienced this several times and straight also.

You're not straight! Welcome to the bi team

Not necessarrily. I fantasize about a woman, even about her in bed with her husband, but I would never want her in bed with me. I couldn't do it, no desire or interest. I would watch her though, and be aroused by that. I don't think it's "bi" unless you long for the person of the opposite sex sexually WITH you.

I'm not into labeling. I think that fanatsizing about the same sex definitely gets you at least a Kinsey score of 1. So do you consider only a zero Kinsey score straight? Or is it ones and zeros? So does the label bi mean 2-5 inclusive?

See to me human sexuality is super complicated and trying to label people even as gay/straight/bi is problematic.

I identify as bi and I think a lot of biphobia exists. Embrace it, PP!

I'm PP, and I'm definitely not biphobic. I'm just not sure where I fit on the scale. I'm certain I don't think I could be comfortable doing "it" with a female. I'm not turned on by woman on woman. I AM turned on watching a woman on man. I could do a man-woman-woman, *maybe*, but I think I could only "round second" with the woman (sorry, not sure what language I can use here, please delete if inappropriate.) I've never considered myself bi.

I believe you when you say you're not bi. Your fantasy is more of a narcissistic enjoyment thing (not meant negatively), where you project yourself onto another woman. Guys do this, too, onto other guys.

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Anonymous wrote:Never say never. She could be your soul mate. If you don't make the move, how will you know?

Anonymous wrote:As I said, she is married so would never go there. I know she would be horrified if she knew I had feelings like that. I could never imagine us being in a relationship either and wouldn't want that.
It's a physical thing and there are parts of her character which turn me on. She would be very gentle and attentive I can imagine...relationship though? No way. Not sure if that makes sense. I hope so.

OP here and the thought of approaching her with this is too funny as I know she would be horrified/shocked and probably laugh. She is very much in love with her husband.

Don't. I did after a few glasses of wine and thankfully it was only weird for a few minutes but she rejected me and our relationship changed. Not because of her. It was me. I felt embarrassed and guilty (we are both married.) I was ashamed and terrified that she might tell her husband and he would tell mine. Looking back I can't believe I could have possibly ruined my marriage over this attraction that I still can't explain and never felt with anyone else again.

[Anonymous]

Had an unexpected interaction with my crush today. When I found out about it I swear my heart skipped a beat and I got all flush lol like a middle schooler! Then she jokingly bumped my arm with her elbow. Omg.

Haha, this is so silly. But it made my day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Had an unexpected interaction with my crush today. When I found out about it I swear my heart skipped a beat and I got all flush lol like a middle schooler! Then she jokingly bumped my arm with her elbow. Omg.

Haha, this is so silly. But it made my day!

This is such a cute thread and reminds me of my crush. OP, what does your husband think? I "jokingly" mentioned my crush to my DH. He gave me the green light if the opportunity arose. It almost became annoying because he would hound me for details every time my crush and I got together. Nothing ever happened.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I don't have a husband but my ex partner would have loved it although he didn't know my friend/crush at the time.
Honestly, if I told her I felt like this, she really would find it either hilarious or be seriously freaked out. I know she doesn't feel the same way and if anything sees me as a younger sister (She is a couple years older.) She is quite affectionate with me (Always touching my arm and back when we talk which drives me wild) and calls me sweetheart a lot so she just thinks of me as a friend.
I intend to just enjoy it for what it is. Definitely no way I would tell her, not a chance in hell.

[Anonymous]

Does anyone have a sory of this working out for them? Maybe you approached the person and had the most amazing sex, or it blossomed into a committed relationship.