Attracted to female friend

[Anonymous]

You'll be back in a few years complaining about this, I'm sure it's a lovely swirling energy but nothing keeps genitals moving like testosterone.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lesbian_bed_death

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Anonymous wrote:New poster. Came to post a similar thing, and am surprised to see the number of women in similar situations. My friend and I are both married, however. It seems that something more than friends is there between us, but it is unclear. There have been so many moments of gazing and subtle touching and closeness that make me long to be around her. I am super attracted to her in every way and we get on so well. Feels like my soulmate. Alas, we have husbands and I don't think either of us would divorce our spouse.

Why would you need to divorce your spouse? I assume most husbands are like me, and would find it super hot if their wives were getting it on with the other attractive wife.

And if your wife developed an emotional relationship with the other woman at your expense would you feel so great about it?

I would have no problem with it. She gets her emotional needs met from another woman plus the chance of a threesome = win/win

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Anonymous wrote:New poster. Came to post a similar thing, and am surprised to see the number of women in similar situations. My friend and I are both married, however. It seems that something more than friends is there between us, but it is unclear. There have been so many moments of gazing and subtle touching and closeness that make me long to be around her. I am super attracted to her in every way and we get on so well. Feels like my soulmate. Alas, we have husbands and I don't think either of us would divorce our spouse.

As a bi woman, this is how it starts! Now imagine that feeling between you two, magnified and expounded on until it just surrounds you. That is what it's like to date another woman- just feminine energy, magnified until it's swirling around you both. It's so wonderful. I honestly don't think my relationships with men could ever come close to what can exist between two women- though they are useful in other ways. But women with women is just so very special.

Until you have kids or just stay together for years, and then it's all downhill in the special romance department, just like most other couples. My wife and I are a happily married lesbian couple and I'm so glad to have kids, but your post made me chuckle.

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Anonymous wrote: You'll be back in a few years complaining about this, I'm sure it's a lovely swirling energy but nothing keeps genitals moving like testosterone.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lesbian_bed_death

Seems a hell of a lot better than being constantly badgered and nagged for sex.

[Anonymous]

Experienced this several times and straight also.

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Anonymous wrote:Experienced this several times and straight also.

You're not straight! Welcome to the bi team

[Anonymous]

I disagree. I think you can have fantasies of same sex but still not act on them and be straight. If you look at the explicit thread where people talk about what turns them on, SO many of the replies said 'women.' They can't all be bi. Some even admitted it is just the thought they liked and they wouldn't actually want anything to physically happen.

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Anonymous wrote:Never say never. She could be your soul mate. If you don't make the move, how will you know?

Anonymous wrote:As I said, she is married so would never go there. I know she would be horrified if she knew I had feelings like that. I could never imagine us being in a relationship either and wouldn't want that.
It's a physical thing and there are parts of her character which turn me on. She would be very gentle and attentive I can imagine...relationship though? No way. Not sure if that makes sense. I hope so.

OP here and the thought of approaching her with this is too funny as I know she would be horrified/shocked and probably laugh. She is very much in love with her husband.

Good. Pp is an idiot to even suggest that. If it was a woman talking about a man/vice versa, it would definitely be stepping in someone's marriage so same applies here.

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Anonymous wrote:Experienced this several times and straight also.

You're not straight! Welcome to the bi team

Not necessarrily. I fantasize about a woman, even about her in bed with her husband, but I would never want her in bed with me. I couldn't do it, no desire or interest. I would watch her though, and be aroused by that. I don't think it's "bi" unless you long for the person of the opposite sex sexually WITH you.

[Anonymous]

A good friend (female) recently moved to the West Coast to start her first serious relationship with a woman. My friend is in her late 30s. She divorced at 31 and was actually engaged to a man at this point last year.

She randomly met this woman while visiting friends in LA. The attraction was just off-the-charts. She never ever ever would have considered herself open to a lesbian relationship.

It seems like things just "click" for otherwise straight women in their mid to late 30s. At that point, they've been dealing with men for 20 years and perhaps their patience has run thin.

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OP here and I will definitely not be acting on this for the obvious reason she has a family and I am pretty sure she is not attracted to me. I would also never want a relationship with her. Not even sure if it came to it that I would physically do anything. It's just sexy thoughts I have about her.
Met up with her for lunch the other day and she had a trouser suit on and specs. Made her look like a sexy school teacher. Really hope she didn't notice me blushing or if she did,I hope she blamed it on the wine!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here and I will definitely not be acting on this for the obvious reason she has a family and I am pretty sure she is not attracted to me. I would also never want a relationship with her. Not even sure if it came to it that I would physically do anything. It's just sexy thoughts I have about her.
Met up with her for lunch the other day and she had a trouser suit on and specs. Made her look like a sexy school teacher. Really hope she didn't notice me blushing or if she did,I hope she blamed it on the wine!

This is me too, OP.

It's so weird to think that there are so many of us out there with these secret crushes. Makes me wonder if anyone has a secret crush on me. Or scared haha! Which is why I would be MORTIFIED if mine found out.

[Anonymous]

I think if my DW told me she was really sexually attracted to an unmarried female friend I think I'd tell her that I wanted to join in. If there is going to be any cheating we might as well do it together.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here and I will definitely not be acting on this for the obvious reason she has a family and I am pretty sure she is not attracted to me. I would also never want a relationship with her. Not even sure if it came to it that I would physically do anything. It's just sexy thoughts I have about her.
Met up with her for lunch the other day and she had a trouser suit on and specs. Made her look like a sexy school teacher. Really hope she didn't notice me blushing or if she did,I hope she blamed it on the wine!

This is me too, OP.

It's so weird to think that there are so many of us out there with these secret crushes. Makes me wonder if anyone has a secret crush on me. Or scared haha! Which is why I would be MORTIFIED if mine found out.

I hope mine hasn't figured it out. I doubt it though. She is very touchy feely and affectionate with names as well. Drives me wild and she doesn't know it.
I doubt very much any of my female friends have a crush on me. My friend/crush is gorgeous and sexy. Wouldn't be surprised if there were a few other mutual female friends who felt the same about her.

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Anonymous wrote:Experienced this several times and straight also.

You're not straight! Welcome to the bi team

Not necessarrily. I fantasize about a woman, even about her in bed with her husband, but I would never want her in bed with me. I couldn't do it, no desire or interest. I would watch her though, and be aroused by that. I don't think it's "bi" unless you long for the person of the opposite sex sexually WITH you.

I'm not into labeling. I think that fanatsizing about the same sex definitely gets you at least a Kinsey score of 1. So do you consider only a zero Kinsey score straight? Or is it ones and zeros? So does the label bi mean 2-5 inclusive?

See to me human sexuality is super complicated and trying to label people even as gay/straight/bi is problematic.

I identify as bi and I think a lot of biphobia exists. Embrace it, PP!