How to politely tell our DS that we really, REALLY don't like his GF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As the mother of a girl, if I found out you point-blank asked my kid if she was on birth control, I would FREAK OUT. What is wrong with you? You sound unspeakably rude and crass. I was raised to expect boys to be gentlemen. I realize those days are long gone, but a lunatic asking my princess if she's on birth control?! WTF? Raise your son to be a gentleman. There. Then nobody gets pregnant. Okay?

OP here. I raise a gentleman. He takes care of himself. He knows all about protection. If your "princess" has no reservations showing up half-naked in front of her BF's parents, then I have no reservations to ask her if she's taking care of herself before she screws my son. Raise your "princess" to work on her manners, grades and appearance.

Well, you sound just lovely. Can't imagine why your son would choose a young woman who isn't uptight and seems a bit of a flower child. Frankly, if you can't be lost and flighty at 16 when CAN you be? She doesn't need to a fully formed woman at 16. And your son isn't much of a catch if you come with the deal. Bless her heart I hope she loses interest and goes on about her way. And I hope your son isn't so scarred by you Joan Crawford, that he ends up unable to have a healthy relationship with anyone.

[Anonymous]

Wow OP. You clearly have been an adult for too long and have lost all perspective. Don't worry about her, worry about your personality and your relationship with your son. I think they both need work.

[Anonymous]

Anyone else wondering if OP's sons' previous girlfriend (that OP liked) dumped her son for the same reasons OP doesn't like the new girl? Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else wondering if OP's sons' previous girlfriend (that OP liked) dumped her son for the same reasons OP doesn't like the new girl? Lol.

Yep. Mom is a piece of work

[Anonymous]

I would not try to oppose the relationship.

However these are minors. I would consider reaching out to her mom. Get to know her. See if you can raise the issue of the kids being "safe".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not try to oppose the relationship.

However these are minors. I would consider reaching out to her mom. Get to know her. See if you can raise the issue of the kids being "safe".

No way. As the patent of daughters I would be incredibly offended and would encourage my child to be very cautious around the person who had just been so rude and invasive. Wait... actually, that might be a good strategy for accomplishing OP's real goal to get rid of the girl.

That's not the boy's mother's business and I would never discuss my daughter's birth control with anyone. The only person who is OP's business in that regard is her son. Tell him he is responsible for his own safety, the girl is responsible for hers, and they need to make sure they're each taking care if themselves. Also, they need to talk to each other about this sort of thing, nor expect their moms to get involved or use mom as an intermediary.

[Anonymous]

1101 should read PARENT of daughters. Thanks, autocorrect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, condoms all the way and I asked her point blank if she was on birth control. She gave me an evasive response of "I am thinking about it." You dumb girl, get yourself on a pill.

You did the right thing, OP. A teen pregnancy could ruin her life and your son's, so she should be made aware of options in that area. Especially if her own parents appear to be waffling. This is your business too, even if she is not your daughter.

However, keep your mouth shut on the rest of it, because it will only make things worse. As long as they double up on birth control, this moment too shall pass!

[Anonymous]

Offer to take the girl for an IUD, as a christmas gift... otherwise say out of the relationship and be really nice to her.