How to politely tell our DS that we really, REALLY don't like his GF?

[Anonymous]

Both are 16, both go to the same school. They've been going out for the past 3 months. We've met the parents too. We really don't like the girl. Dresses like she has just rolled out of bad, poor grades, hasn't picked up a book probably since kindergarten. Compared to DS' previous GF, she's a total loser. Absolutely uninhibited, inserts herself in all conversations. Parents are clueless or don't care. Yet he sees her as funny and utterly helpless, wants to bring her to family functions. How can we put a stop to this?

[Anonymous]

You can't control who your kid dates. I would keep a watchful eye otherwise they will just sneak behind your back.

Just make sure your son has access to birth control.

[Anonymous]

You don't tell him. This too shall pass.

[Anonymous]

You can't. Just make sure he knows all about protection and has access to it.

[Anonymous]

They're 16, chances are it's not going to last!

[Anonymous]

You don't tell him. Be polite to her and wait it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't. Just make sure he knows all about protection and has access to it.

+1. Unless he knocks her up, she isn't going to be in his/your lives for long.

[Anonymous]

Not the hill you want to die on. Condoms and keep your mouth shut.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Yes, condoms all the way and I asked her point blank if she was on birth control. She gave me an evasive response of "I am thinking about it." You dumb girl, get yourself on a pill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't tell him. Be polite to her and wait it out.

+1

This is what my parents did and I appreciate it so much. They love to joke now about guys they never liked. But it would have just made my distant when I was young and in that relationship. Just wait it out

[Anonymous]

Just the same polite way your DS will tell you to MYOB!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, condoms all the way and I asked her point blank if she was on birth control. She gave me an evasive response of "I am thinking about it." You dumb girl, get yourself on a pill.

It isn't your place or your business to get someone else's kid on the pill. Worry about your own son's condom use and, while you're at it, figure out why your son has such poor taste. Sounds as if your parenting needs work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, condoms all the way and I asked her point blank if she was on birth control. She gave me an evasive response of "I am thinking about it." You dumb girl, get yourself on a pill.

You asked your son's GF if she was on birth control?

C'mon. They already know you don't like her.

[Anonymous]

Mom of a 17 year old boy. Never going to work. Even if you forbid it, they will just sneak around.

[Anonymous]

You don't.