9-year-old Won't Wear Jeans

[Anonymous]

I have the solution, but you should order ASAP!

https://www.primary.com/shop/kids/the-clearance-ponte-pant?color=black&ref=search_results

My kids love these and I just wish I had ordered more pairs in their size before they sold out.

[Anonymous]

Try primary jeans. Their clothes are much softer and more comfortable than lots of other brands.

[Anonymous]

The only way we got our boys to finally start wearing normal pants without a struggle and whine was to send them to a Catholic school with uniforms. They still don't prefer them, but they wear them without complaint.

[Anonymous]

Listen, I care that my kid is appropriately dressed. There are a thousand ways to get there, jeans are not necessary.

If she wants to wear leggings all day to school, so what? Get her joggers too, see if she likes that. Athlteleisure for kids exists for a reason.

If we’re going to a nice restaurant, a wedding or another more formal event, I would insist my kid also has a few outfits that are appropriate. Pants are not required here either. Tights and a dress would work.

Just find something that your daughter likes. Have her look at a few stores and select items for you to choose from. The opposite works too. You could both fill up an online cart at several stores and she could pick from your list and you can pick from hers.

After you find a few go-to styles things will get easier! Hang in there!

[Anonymous]

Well I'm 36 and I refuse to wear jeans too, so can't blame her one bit. Adult clothes are coming out with a ton of tailored pull on pant options, and I'm seeing them in girls clothes now too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I'm 36 and I refuse to wear jeans too, so can't blame her one bit. Adult clothes are coming out with a ton of tailored pull on pant options, and I'm seeing them in girls clothes now too.

Ha! I’m older than you and also don’t wear pants. I also have a great job making 6 figures. This hasn’t held me back at all.

Things are changing — just look at Kamala Harris, she was campaigning in sneakers!

OP, don’t make your kid wear clothes she hates.

[Anonymous]

I’m guessing OP and her daughter have figured something out in the four years since she wrote her post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yall ridiculous! Jeans were uncomfortable in the 80s. Now they're basically a legging. I went through the same thing with my now 13 year old when she was 7. She had to toughen up buttercup cause this aint no 3rd world problem. She's been through so much in her life. From her father's death to being bullied. She's a freaking honor's student. As a human being living on a planet that is designed to kill us, I do not regret teaching her that resilience and mild discomfort are a huge part of life on Earth. Just my opinion. I don't think that you'll feel too much guilt over teaching your child things that you feel are important. You, not your child, not me, and not parents who cater to their children's whims (not talking clothing sensitivity disorder or autism) get to choose which lessons are worth the temporary, mild discomfort of your child and the temporary "power struggle" (of which, you as the parent, have the power...aint no struggle about it unless you allow it).

What is wrong with you that you felt the need to write this screed on a 4 year old post?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yall ridiculous! Jeans were uncomfortable in the 80s. Now they're basically a legging. I went through the same thing with my now 13 year old when she was 7. She had to toughen up buttercup cause this aint no 3rd world problem. She's been through so much in her life. From her father's death to being bullied. She's a freaking honor's student. As a human being living on a planet that is designed to kill us, I do not regret teaching her that resilience and mild discomfort are a huge part of life on Earth. Just my opinion. I don't think that you'll feel too much guilt over teaching your child things that you feel are important. You, not your child, not me, and not parents who cater to their children's whims (not talking clothing sensitivity disorder or autism) get to choose which lessons are worth the temporary, mild discomfort of your child and the temporary "power struggle" (of which, you as the parent, have the power...aint no struggle about it unless you allow it).

What is wrong with you that you felt the need to write this screed on a 4 year old post?

Exactly! Plus, why the hell would I want my child to wear something that they don't feel comfortable in? What life lesson are you teaching them? There was PLENTY of other situations where they will have to "toughen up." GTFOH

[Anonymous]

My 9 year old has never liked “hard pants” - so no denim/twill/gabardine/corduroy. So, skirts, dresses, leggings, sweatpants, and shorts it is. Really, the only reasons to wear such fabrics these days are for fashion or school/work uniform requirements. And unless they bring back the draft, she’d probably be able to choose alternate options that would be ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yall ridiculous! Jeans were uncomfortable in the 80s. Now they're basically a legging. I went through the same thing with my now 13 year old when she was 7. She had to toughen up buttercup cause this aint no 3rd world problem. She's been through so much in her life. From her father's death to being bullied. She's a freaking honor's student. As a human being living on a planet that is designed to kill us, I do not regret teaching her that resilience and mild discomfort are a huge part of life on Earth. Just my opinion. I don't think that you'll feel too much guilt over teaching your child things that you feel are important. You, not your child, not me, and not parents who cater to their children's whims (not talking clothing sensitivity disorder or autism) get to choose which lessons are worth the temporary, mild discomfort of your child and the temporary "power struggle" (of which, you as the parent, have the power...aint no struggle about it unless you allow it).

You're crazy for finding a four year old thread to trigger you.