9-year-old Won't Wear Jeans

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dont mind the look of leggings snd athleisure, but i cant help but feel we are raising a generation of sissies who can't stand the feeling of denim or twill or buttons against their tender bellies. Does everyone have sensory issues?

No. But in my son's case, they are just not as comfortable to play in. I insist on appropriate clothes at all times, so he has to wear dress pants at a wedding, for example. He wears khaki uniform pants (with a button ) to school. There is REALLY little need for jeans - they started out as work pants.

[Anonymous]

My 9 yr old DD has always hated jeans. She wears leggings, yoga pants and sweats. She had a huge growth spurt and just tried on curvy fit boot cut jeans. She loved them. She said she didn't know jeans could feel so comfortable. Kids change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dont mind the look of leggings snd athleisure, but i cant help but feel we are raising a generation of sissies who can't stand the feeling of denim or twill or buttons against their tender bellies. Does everyone have sensory issues?

There are several people who have posted about not wearing jeans when they were younger and thus off a different generation. This isn't new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dont mind the look of leggings snd athleisure, but i cant help but feel we are raising a generation of sissies who can't stand the feeling of denim or twill or buttons against their tender bellies. Does everyone have sensory issues?

There are several people who have posted about not wearing jeans when they were younger and thus off a different generation. This isn't new.

* of, not off, before someone flips on me

[Anonymous]

Another mom here with a 9 yo DS who won't wear jeans or pants with zippers or buttons.

He has pull on pants and jeans from H&M and Old Navy and tons of pull on shorts and track pants. He can look appropriate at all times even with pull on pants/shorts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I fully admit this is an incredibly stupid issue, but it's where we are.

My 9-year-old daughter won't wear jeans, or any pants or skirts with a fly. She says they don't feel comfortable. We've tried different brands, sizes, cuts, etc. -- she won't even put them on. Right now she's sobbing because I asked her whether she might want some for school this year.

Ordinarily, I try to respect her right to dress herself and make her own choices. But the fact is, nobody makes attractive pull-on pants for tween girls, and she can't live her whole life in leggings and sweatpants. We got by with dresses when she was small, but none of her friends wear dresses now and so she doesn't want to either. And she had a major growth spurt, so we are looking at basically replacing most of her wardrobe.

I don't want this to turn into a power struggle. I know I will lose and it's not worth it. But is there some way I can Jedi mind trick her into wanting to wear a pair of freaking jeans?

I was this kid! I didn't wear jeans until the 6th grade. Then I wore them. I am wearing pants with a zipper RIGHT NOW!

The end.

[Anonymous]

Funny. My 6 year old DD will only wear jeans. And a long sleeve T shirt. She's simple and I love it!

[Anonymous]

Let her wear what she wants as long as it's appropriate and she looks presentable. Leggings and a long tunic might be an option. Also very comfy.

[Anonymous]

Yall ridiculous! Jeans were uncomfortable in the 80s. Now they're basically a legging. I went through the same thing with my now 13 year old when she was 7. She had to toughen up buttercup cause this aint no 3rd world problem. She's been through so much in her life. From her father's death to being bullied. She's a freaking honor's student. As a human being living on a planet that is designed to kill us, I do not regret teaching her that resilience and mild discomfort are a huge part of life on Earth. Just my opinion. I don't think that you'll feel too much guilt over teaching your child things that you feel are important. You, not your child, not me, and not parents who cater to their children's whims (not talking clothing sensitivity disorder or autism) get to choose which lessons are worth the temporary, mild discomfort of your child and the temporary "power struggle" (of which, you as the parent, have the power...aint no struggle about it unless you allow it).

[Anonymous]

Didn't read all 5 pages, but OP you aren't alone and sounds like you are willing to go along with it.

10yr old DD doesn't like jeans, and much prefers leggings and yoga pants. She does have one or two pairs of jeans because she knows that if we go hiking, or she wants to jump in a leaf pile, or certain other activities that leggings won't be comfortable and she needs something sturdier.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read all of the comments but, if your kid wants to wear jeans and just finds them uncomfortable, primary makes really comfortable jeans.

[Anonymous]

FWIW, this past winter I bought a couple pairs of those yoga pants that are designed to look like slacks. I doubt your DD is worried about bloating in the evening or a muffin top, but either way I agree that elastic waistbands are the way to go.

[Anonymous]

Kind of funny. I don't have sensory issues. I haven't worn jeans or even slacks in years. I wear dresses and tights or leggings and tunics.

[Anonymous]

Seems the trend is no jeans these days, unless jeggings. My 9yo has a few pairs of jeggings from last year, but I see no need to buy any this year during DL. For the past 2-3 years she's basically lived in leggings or joggers.

[Anonymous]

Pick your battles, this one is not worth it.

Parents, let your daughters wear leggings, let your sons wear shorts in the winter, it does not matter. Their bodies, their choice.