9-year-old Won't Wear Jeans

[Anonymous]

my almost 9 year old hasn't worn jeans or pants with a zipper/fly in years.

she lives in leggings & yoga pants

[Anonymous]

My 11 yr old (going into 6th grade) only wears yoga pants/capris and leggings too. She conceded to a couple pairs of hiking pants with a zip fly because her sleepaway camp required her to bring some heavier pants. But I doubt she'll wear them now that she's home from camp.

[Anonymous]

My 10-year-old son lives in sweatpants and elastic athletic shorts year round. He did concede to wearing black jeans for his winter and spring band concerts, but as soon as he could change out of them he did.

But now it turns out that my 14-year-old daughter doesn't like wearing jeans much anymore either. She says they're uncomfortable, especially sitting all day in the upper grades of school. She has switched almost entirely to jeggings and cotton leggings that she wears with combat boots and flannels much of the school year, or yoga pants or shorts when she is home for the summer.

I think this is a very common issue, and there is enough variety these days that it should be OK just to let her wear what she's most comfortable in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don't force it. I hated all pants growing up (jeans and corduroys) because I couldn't stand the sound and feeling they made when I moved my legs. I still hate jeans.

Hanna Andersson makes adorable leggings and tunics. How about that?

I LOVE the swish sound of corduroy pants!

Hanna is adorable but really young for most 9 yos.

[Anonymous]

My seven year old daughter hasn't worn jeans since she was two, when she told me she didn't like "hard pants." I do worry about her being cold in leggings in the winter, so I've kept trying to find jeans she might find acceptable. Last year we found a really soft pull on pair from Osh Kosh, but they don't seem to have the style again this year. She tried on a pair of jeggings at Target and loved them - their Cat and Jack brand has some really soft denim.

[Anonymous]

My 9 y/o DS won't wear jeans either. I don't make an issue of it, there are plenty of other options.

[Anonymous]

As you can tell from all the PP it can be a sensory thing. My kids won't wear jeans, my grown brother and sister have never and I have only one pair that are comfortable. Still I take them off the minute I walk in the door and always prefer long skirts or even dress work pants. DH doesn't understand since he loves jeans.

[Anonymous]

Op aren't jeans uncomfortable to you? They are what people choose to wear. Not what you make them wear. They aren't that great looking either. Most people don't wear them anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I fully admit this is an incredibly stupid issue, but it's where we are.

My 9-year-old daughter won't wear jeans, or any pants or skirts with a fly. She says they don't feel comfortable. We've tried different brands, sizes, cuts, etc. -- she won't even put them on. Right now she's sobbing because I asked her whether she might want some for school this year.

Ordinarily, I try to respect her right to dress herself and make her own choices. But the fact is, nobody makes attractive pull-on pants for tween girls, and she can't live her whole life in leggings and sweatpants. We got by with dresses when she was small, but none of her friends wear dresses now and so she doesn't want to either. And she had a major growth spurt, so we are looking at basically replacing most of her wardrobe.

I don't want this to turn into a power struggle. I know I will lose and it's not worth it. But is there some way I can Jedi mind trick her into wanting to wear a pair of freaking jeans?

Why not? My 9yo daughter hates jeans, too, and lives in leggings (not really sweatpants). She says jeans are really uncomfortable. NBD. She's happy and comfortable in her leggings.

+1

[Anonymous]

My 8yo DD never has worn anything but pull-on pants. We buy the knit waist jeans at Justice.

[Anonymous]

My oldest told me last year (at 5) that he hated jeans and always had. Oops! No more jeans - they are unnecessary.

[Anonymous]

I never wore jeans until after college either op. No biggie. Plenty of options.

[Anonymous]

I dont mind the look of leggings snd athleisure, but i cant help but feel we are raising a generation of sissies who can't stand the feeling of denim or twill or buttons against their tender bellies. Does everyone have sensory issues?

[Anonymous]

Same thing here with a 10 year old very tall girl. She wears leggings everyday during the cold months. She has probably 50 pairs . Hasn't been an issue .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dont mind the look of leggings snd athleisure, but i cant help but feel we are raising a generation of sissies who can't stand the feeling of denim or twill or buttons against their tender bellies. Does everyone have sensory issues?

Perhaps it's the same reason we all stopped wearing wool year round and petticoats. Because things that are uncomfortable aren't fun to wear.