Elaine or Elyse ? Plus name poaching?

[Anonymous]

Time to fall in love with some new names!

Amelia
Audrey
Ava
Beatrice
Caroline
Chloe
Clara
Corinne
Delphine
Eliza
Evelyn
Helena
Josephine (Josie?)
Julia
Louisa
Lucy
Nora
Rachel
Sophie
Stella
Therese (Tess?)
Vivian

[Anonymous]

Just name your dd Margot but pick a different middle name and spell it the conventional way. No one owns a name. Your DD will see her cousin only a few times a year right? Esp with the age gap it's really really not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Not to mention that Margaux is a hideous name to saddle a little girl with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not to mention that Margaux is a hideous name to saddle a little girl with.

Aw, I think it's a cute name. However, no name is worth all this drama and angst. As a PP said, OP just try to focus on the new bundle of joy that is coming into your life and on your own little nuclear family. Don't worry about your sister or anyone else. This time in your life is precious as you are starting a new family of your own.

I like Elaine and Elise both (though I wouldn't use the spelling w/ a y because it would cause too much confusion. Grace is a nice middle name too. I think Elaine Grace or Elise Grace would be a nice name for your daughter.

Here are some other names that to me seem to have a kind of similar feeling to the ones you like, if you want to just forget all names associated w/ your sister's family and start fresh altogether:
Madeline
Violet
Alice
Evelyn
Margaret
Eleanor
Vivian/Vivienne
Juliet
Bridget
Abigail
Camille
Victoria

[Anonymous]

Boaty McBoatface

[Anonymous]

elise! I love that name

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not to mention that Margaux is a hideous name to saddle a little girl with.

Aw, I think it's a cute name. However, no name is worth all this drama and angst. As a PP said, OP just try to focus on the new bundle of joy that is coming into your life and on your own little nuclear family. Don't worry about your sister or anyone else. This time in your life is precious as you are starting a new family of your own.

I like Elaine and Elise both (though I wouldn't use the spelling w/ a y because it would cause too much confusion. Grace is a nice middle name too. I think Elaine Grace or Elise Grace would be a nice name for your daughter.

Here are some other names that to me seem to have a kind of similar feeling to the ones you like, if you want to just forget all names associated w/ your sister's family and start fresh altogether:
Madeline
Violet
Alice
Evelyn
Margaret
Eleanor
Vivian/Vivienne
Juliet
Bridget
Abigail
Camille
Victoria

These are all beautiful names! Pick one of these.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I would like to just name her Margaux, but that would be to weird.

Going with the Elyse spelling because Elise happens to be niece's middle name which I also loved.

I didn't have the kids first so I didn't get to claim them. Trying to find something to be happy with.

Husband thinks it doesn't matter, but he's not too fond of my sister.

I like Elaine too.

Wait, your niece's name is Margaux Elise, and you are considering naming your daughter Elyse Margaux? I don't think that name poaching is even a thing, but that's weird. Also, I think Elaine Margaux sounds better.

[Anonymous]

Okay, having read the whole thread, I agree that OP has some larger issues to deal with. I'd choose a name for your daughter that doesn't involve some long-simmering tension between you and your sister.

If you like Elise and Margaux, what about:
Louise
Elena
Camille
Amelie
Leonie
Alyssa
Aline
Estelle
Daphne

Also, Margaux is not a made-up spelling, or at least not by OP. Ernest Hemingway's granddaughter was named Margaux, among others, and it's on the list of the most popular girls' names in Belgium for 2014.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, having read the whole thread, I agree that OP has some larger issues to deal with. I'd choose a name for your daughter that doesn't involve some long-simmering tension between you and your sister.

If you like Elise and Margaux, what about:
Louise
Elena
Camille
Amelie
Leonie
Alyssa
Aline
Estelle
Daphne

Also, Margaux is not a made-up spelling, or at least not by OP. Ernest Hemingway's granddaughter was named Margaux, among others, and it's on the list of the most popular girls' names in Belgium for 2014.

It is absolutely a made-up spelling. Ernest Hemingway's granddaughter was named Margot, she changed it to the made-up spelling later in life in honor of the wine. She started the trend of spelling it that way.

[Anonymous]

OP, there is no way these are the only names you like. This is some obsessive sister jealousy thing you have going on.

I think it's fine to name your daughter Elise but frankly I'd choose something else all together. Something classic like Elizabeth or Catherine or Charlotte!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boaty McBoatface

I second Boaty McBoatface

[Anonymous]

I really want to know what OP decides. Good luck OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I suppose we could go with Elaine. I don't love it , but my husband suggested it and it's okay. We have an alternate middle name of Grace.

Elaine Grace is fine. Just like everything has always been for me. Just fine.

OP, between this and your post at 21:02 it sounds like you have a lot of other issues weighing at you right now. Do you think it's just pregnancy hormones, or is this an ongoing family issue? I don't really have any advice, and also am not trying to be snarky, but would encourage you to focus on the fact that you and your DH are starting your own nuclear family. Don't bring into it a name that will cause more drama unnecessarily. Focus on the joy that's about to come into your life. Keep in touch with your doctor post-partum and take care of your own emotional health as you dive into the world of parenting a newborn. I say this all kindly, since these two posts have me a bit worried about you.


well, maybe I am offering advice. (rolling eyes at self)

I agree with this and the PP has said it much more nicely than I could have.

+1 more

+1 from me too.

[Anonymous]

How about Marguerite? You could use Maya as a nickname or even Margo/Margot. (If Margo, tell you sister the nickname was started by someone else and stuck.) That way you could call the baby the name you like, but wouldn't really be using your niece's name. (Maya Angelou's first name is actually Marguerite.)