Elaine or Elyse ? Plus name poaching?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I would like to just name her Margaux, but that would be to weird.

Going with the Elyse spelling because Elise happens to be niece's middle name which I also loved.

I didn't have the kids first so I didn't get to claim them. Trying to find something to be happy with.

Husband thinks it doesn't matter, but he's not too fond of my sister.

I like Elaine too.

Your niece's name is Margaux Elise and you want to name your kid Elyse Margaux? Elaine it is.

[Anonymous]

I think it's strange that both you and your sister like the non-name "Margaux" so much. Even stranger that you want to use it anyway. I think you need to let it go and move on, and I saw this with sincerity. It sounds like you're really bitter about something in the history between you and your sister. You can't let it take up so much of your emotional energy, it is just not healthy.

Good luck, OP!

[Anonymous]

You've had 13 years to think up a name that isn't exactly like your niece's!

Elaine Grace seems to be the best option. Or Elise Grace. Skip using Margaux at all.

[Anonymous]

FWIW, I too hate the creative spelling trend, but the only Elyse I ever knew was a college friend who went with a -y not an -i.

[Anonymous]

As someone who had a cousin given almost the exact same name as me, I'd suggest staying away from this. My name is Emily and she was named, Emma. We have the same middle name and it just seems odd. I'm 15 years older than her so the age difference is similar, but its still weird. Luckily we don't live close so it's not that big of an issue, but at the time I definitely felt like they couldn't come up with a better name and stole mine.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FWIW, I too hate the creative spelling trend, but the only Elyse I ever knew was a college friend who went with a -y not an -i.

The 2 adult Elyse(s) I know spell it with a y as well.

[Anonymous]

Grace.

Grace is better than any combination of Elise/Elyse/Margot/Margaux. YUCK.

Use Grace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone who had a cousin given almost the exact same name as me, I'd suggest staying away from this. My name is Emily and she was named, Emma. We have the same middle name and it just seems odd. I'm 15 years older than her so the age difference is similar, but its still weird. Luckily we don't live close so it's not that big of an issue, but at the time I definitely felt like they couldn't come up with a better name and stole mine.....

+1.

The flipping names or using similar and flipping is so very weird OP.

Don't do that to your daughter!

[Anonymous]

0P, neither Elaine or elyse are good names. Every time I think of Elaine I think of Seinfeld and Elyse will always be said Elsie .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The name Elaine is awful. It makes me want to puke.

I don't know, I feel much the same about the name Molly...despite having a lovely cousin with that name.

I share your aversion to Molly. It seems like a name for a dog, or a nickname for a little girl (it actually WAS traditionally a nickname for Mary, I think), but as an actual given name, it is so...insubstantial and silly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I suppose we could go with Elaine. I don't love it , but my husband suggested it and it's okay. We have an alternate middle name of Grace.

Elaine Grace is fine. Just like everything has always been for me. Just fine.

OP, between this and your post at 21:02 it sounds like you have a lot of other issues weighing at you right now. Do you think it's just pregnancy hormones, or is this an ongoing family issue? I don't really have any advice, and also am not trying to be snarky, but would encourage you to focus on the fact that you and your DH are starting your own nuclear family. Don't bring into it a name that will cause more drama unnecessarily. Focus on the joy that's about to come into your life. Keep in touch with your doctor post-partum and take care of your own emotional health as you dive into the world of parenting a newborn. I say this all kindly, since these two posts have me a bit worried about you.


well, maybe I am offering advice. (rolling eyes at self)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I suppose we could go with Elaine. I don't love it , but my husband suggested it and it's okay. We have an alternate middle name of Grace.

Elaine Grace is fine. Just like everything has always been for me. Just fine.

OP, between this and your post at 21:02 it sounds like you have a lot of other issues weighing at you right now. Do you think it's just pregnancy hormones, or is this an ongoing family issue? I don't really have any advice, and also am not trying to be snarky, but would encourage you to focus on the fact that you and your DH are starting your own nuclear family. Don't bring into it a name that will cause more drama unnecessarily. Focus on the joy that's about to come into your life. Keep in touch with your doctor post-partum and take care of your own emotional health as you dive into the world of parenting a newborn. I say this all kindly, since these two posts have me a bit worried about you.


well, maybe I am offering advice. (rolling eyes at self)

I agree with this and the PP has said it much more nicely than I could have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I suppose we could go with Elaine. I don't love it , but my husband suggested it and it's okay. We have an alternate middle name of Grace.

Elaine Grace is fine. Just like everything has always been for me. Just fine.

OP, between this and your post at 21:02 it sounds like you have a lot of other issues weighing at you right now. Do you think it's just pregnancy hormones, or is this an ongoing family issue? I don't really have any advice, and also am not trying to be snarky, but would encourage you to focus on the fact that you and your DH are starting your own nuclear family. Don't bring into it a name that will cause more drama unnecessarily. Focus on the joy that's about to come into your life. Keep in touch with your doctor post-partum and take care of your own emotional health as you dive into the world of parenting a newborn. I say this all kindly, since these two posts have me a bit worried about you.


well, maybe I am offering advice. (rolling eyes at self)

I agree with this and the PP has said it much more nicely than I could have.

+1 more

[Anonymous]

Is Margaux a family name or incredibly close family friend from growing up you want to honor, etc.? I don't see any other way it's acceptable to poach this.

Find a list of other french girls names, since you seem to like those sounds?

I've always liked:

Lorraine
Gisele, Giselaine
Colette
Sabine

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I would like to just name her Margaux, but that would be to weird.

Going with the Elyse spelling because Elise happens to be niece's middle name which I also loved.

I didn't have the kids first so I didn't get to claim them. Trying to find something to be happy with.

Husband thinks it doesn't matter, but he's not too fond of my sister.

I like Elaine too.

Are you kidding? So your sister named her child Margaux Elise and you want to name your child Elyse Margaux?
I think most "name stealing" questions are crazy, but I would not advise this. This is nuts.