I am a total feminist and love my maiden name. It's both of my kids' middle name. But, after growing up with a mom who had a different last name (my stepfather's), I know how incredibly annoying it can be to have a different name than one of your parents. No, it is not that bad, but it is an inconvenience that I did not want my kids to deal with (or to deal with myself). I would rather not have a different last name than everyone else in my immediate family. Also, ultimately, I am not certain that taking a big stand that amounts to keeping my FATHER's last name over taking my husband's is really that principled as a feminist. |
What a pussy. |
At least you didn't follow the absurd trend of hyphenating your last names together. |
Nice, I just posted about this too. It's also why my kids have simple names with only one spelling. My first name is little annoying and I have to spell it a lot, so I wanted to avoid that, too. A name is something you use so much that my view is whatever makes things most convenient is best. I understand the principle behind keeping the maiden name, but that's not my hill to die on. |
Me too. Lifetime of hating how my first and last name sounded together. Ironically, my husband outright in all seriousness offered to change his last name, if I wanted him to. |
I have a last name that should be no problem to pronounce correctly since it is phonetic. However, people almost always mispronounce it since it is unique here. My DH's name is very easy to spell and pronounce. I also wanted our whole family to have the same last name. It works for us and I do not judge other women for their choices. |
+1000 |
I do too. |
I thought you were feminists? Doesn't that mean we get to make our own choices? |
No, that is actually not what feminism means. Feminism means believing that men and women should have social, political, and economic equality. |
Same. - Husband whose wife kept her name. |
No. Choose one of these options: 1. You have your father's last name and your husband has his father's last name. (In that case, when you change your name upon marriage, you are giving up your father's name and taking your father-in-law's last name.) 2. You have your own last name and your husband has his own last name. (In that case, when you change your name upon marriage, you are giving up your own name and taking your husband's name.) But there is no way that you can give up your father's last name and take your husband's name -- unless you believe that women can't have their own last names? |
It's just as convenient for the husband to change his name to the wife's as for the wife to change her name to the husband's. |
Who said she mentioned it to the women? She said SECRETLY. Reading is fundamental. |
Why didn't DH take your name then? |