13 year old boy and sleeping in mom/dad's bed

[Anonymous]

If there’s any neurodivergence, including adhd, this might simply be a “falling asleep is easier with someone else in the room” thing.

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JFC. No.

That's so weird

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Anonymous wrote:I think as previously stated, the bottom line is if you aren't doing anything wrong then you're not doing anything wrong. My 13 year old son slerpa in his own room but loves to get up early and come crash with me for an hour before school. And it's great . He is my son, my heart and soul. I think it's a blessing that he still likes to be close to his mom..He will be a man before I know it and all this will be behind us. Provided you are a good parent then I think all the affection and closeness you get with your child should be welcomed. People are too nosy and opinionated about this matter.. Whatever works for your child is what matters.

You really revived an old dead thread to say this?

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with it. 13 year old is a child and it is sweet. Try not to go all Puritan and push your loving child away. Boy, girl, father, mother, it is all fine. Only perverts see something wrong in it, because they imagine their own perversion in everything.

THIS

Every other country laughs at how weird we are with our lack of affection

No they don't.

Actually I am an immigrant, and I find this lack of affection amongst family members a little weird. A 13 year old boy is still a child. I would not be in a hurry for him to grow. Love and affection at home makes a child confident and secure.

If your child wants to sleep in the same room as you, in an adjacent space on a big bed, or lie with you on the couch while you watch a movie, and you think it is somehow inappropriate or sexual, then I can only surmise that you have been sexually abused as a child. This is not a normal reaction of parents.

Native-born American here who totally agrees with you.

+1. This is sad. I hope those saying “this is weird” really weren’t abused.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless he is sick or went through something traumatic that day like a grandparent or pet dying, it is just weird.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:Does he like to cuddle and be affectionate at other times? Or just when his dad is gone? That's the part that honestly creeps me out the most...

People, the dad being gone just means there is room in the bed. I don't think it is a big deal, OP. My 12 year old DD still sleeps in my bed in DH is out of town. I may be saying this from the perspective of my own late to puberty son though.

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Anonymous wrote:How would you answer this question if a Dad were asking about his 13 yo daughter?

NP. I will say that I don't think it's quite the same thing. Fathers rape and molest their daughters with terrifying frequency. The same is not true of the other way around.

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with it. 13 year old is a child and it is sweet. Try not to go all Puritan and push your loving child away. Boy, girl, father, mother, it is all fine. Only perverts see something wrong in it, because they imagine their own perversion in everything.

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Every other country laughs at how weird we are with our lack of affection

No they don't.

Actually I am an immigrant, and I find this lack of affection amongst family members a little weird. A 13 year old boy is still a child. I would not be in a hurry for him to grow. Love and affection at home makes a child confident and secure.

If your child wants to sleep in the same room as you, in an adjacent space on a big bed, or lie with you on the couch while you watch a movie, and you think it is somehow inappropriate or sexual, then I can only surmise that you have been sexually abused as a child. This is not a normal reaction of parents.

Native-born American here who totally agrees with you.

+1. This is sad. I hope those saying “this is weird” really weren’t abused.

No, but they probably brought home their newborns and put them in a room at the other end of the hall and used a baby monitor which I find to be horrifying.

[Anonymous]

My son would still do this at 13. Enjoy his desire to be near you while it lasts. Now he's 15 and would never want to do it. Ignore the people who say it's weird. It's sweet.

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Don't worry OP it is sweet and enjoy these few more years before they grow up. My DS almost 15yo still likes to come up sometimes in the morning and sleep in my bed when he has nightmares or just slept poorly. He has not started puberty yet and he will stop when they need privacy.

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Anonymous wrote:How would you answer this question if a Dad were asking about his 13 yo daughter?

NP. I will say that I don't think it's quite the same thing. Fathers rape and molest their daughters with terrifying frequency. The same is not true of the other way around.

Not sure a rapist father is going to be asking for opinions online.

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Anonymous wrote:My son, on occasion likes to sleep in my bed when my husband/his dad is traveling. It's not an all the time thing, but every once in awhile. This is ok at 13, right?

No. Not ok. But you already know that.

Unnecessary and unhealthy.

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Maybe they live in a tiny shack like squatters so everyone sleeps in one room. Thats ok, right?

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I don’t think it’s a big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:I think as previously stated, the bottom line is if you aren't doing anything wrong then you're not doing anything wrong. My 13 year old son slerpa in his own room but loves to get up early and come crash with me for an hour before school. And it's great . He is my son, my heart and soul. I think it's a blessing that he still likes to be close to his mom..He will be a man before I know it and all this will be behind us. Provided you are a good parent then I think all the affection and closeness you get with your child should be welcomed. People are too nosy and opinionated about this matter.. Whatever works for your child is what matters.

WTF would you bump a 2016 Op and write the above?

It’s one thing if you bump it and repeat the question for your situation.

But responding to a super old post giving advice to the OP is just TROLLING. Lame.