13 year old boy and sleeping in mom/dad's bed

[Anonymous]

I don't think you are sick or weird, but it's not needed.
Granted, I've never had any of my kids sleep in my bed.

I could see extreme circumstances such as a death of a close loved one or other trauma that aside I think everyone needs to sleep in his/her own bed.

[Anonymous]

Why not? We have a King size bed and if my son or daughter want to sleep in the other side of the bed when DH is away, I have no problem.
I think it is a cultural thing. I am not from this country and I would not find this odd. However, there is a lot of modesty in how we dress in the house. My kids would always sleep in their PJs and so would I. If you are sleeping naked, then obviously you would not share your bedroom with anybody but your spouse.

[Anonymous]

I have two DDs (ages 12 and 14) and when DH is on travel they take turns sleeping in my bed. I don't have a problem with any kid occasionally sleeping in his/her parents' bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with it. 13 year old is a child and it is sweet. Try not to go all Puritan and push your loving child away. Boy, girl, father, mother, it is all fine. Only perverts see something wrong in it, because they imagine their own perversion in everything.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't listen to weird prudes who never raised any kids themselves, but rather have nannies and tv raise their kids. More love you show your kids, in a regular, normal, not sick way, more adjusted and secure they will be and have confidence when they grow up.

I agree. My DS has always been affectionate and sill occasionally wants to sleeps with me and sometimes with his dad. There is nothing weird or creepy about it. Ours is a prudish society looking for inappropriateness everywhere--see the thread on kissing your toddler on the mouth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with it. 13 year old is a child and it is sweet. Try not to go all Puritan and push your loving child away. Boy, girl, father, mother, it is all fine. Only perverts see something wrong in it, because they imagine their own perversion in everything.

+1

How about you try not to push your values and judgments on those who disagree with you.

[Anonymous]

A 13 year old is not a toddler or a child, but a teenager 5 short years from adulthood. Tell him to sleep in his own bed.

If he's scared to sleep in his own room when dd is gone, you my want to look into therapy.

[Anonymous]

During middle school, on the occasions I (female) was running early I'd take a power nap in my parents bed. Mom would be at work already and dad would be snoring on his side of the bed. It's not something I would have told my friends but I don't think it was a abnormal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with it. 13 year old is a child and it is sweet. Try not to go all Puritan and push your loving child away. Boy, girl, father, mother, it is all fine. Only perverts see something wrong in it, because they imagine their own perversion in everything.

+1

How about you try not to push your values and judgments on those who disagree with you.

Hypocrite. Aren't you doing the same thing??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he like to cuddle and be affectionate at other times? Or just when his dad is gone? That's the part that honestly creeps me out the most...

What is wrong with the people. When the dad is away, there is space in the bed. The kids is not making a move on his mom b/c he dad is out of town.

I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I assume mom and DS are both wearing pajamas. They way I picture it the are chatting and laughing until they fall asleep on their own sides of the bed.
My DS is only 7 but in our house there is something about bed time that makes him open up. So if he were 13 and he wanted to sleep with me occasionally I would think it would be great opportunity to have some fun talks with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he like to cuddle and be affectionate at other times? Or just when his dad is gone? That's the part that honestly creeps me out the most...

What is wrong with the people. When the dad is away, there is space in the bed. The kids is not making a move on his mom b/c he dad is out of town.

I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I assume mom and DS are both wearing pajamas. They way I picture it the are chatting and laughing until they fall asleep on their own sides of the bed.
My DS is only 7 but in our house there is something about bed time that makes him open up. So if he were 13 and he wanted to sleep with me occasionally I would think it would be great opportunity to have some fun talks with him.


Op here- yes the scenario is most like your vision. Jeez people - he's a little immature in some ways and this is a rare thing- like once every couple of months. I just think he's at that age where he's sometimes a teen and sometimes a little boy. And while I was the one to pose the question, I've decided I'm good with it and it feels for our situation perfectly normal. I regret letting the doubt enter my mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with it. 13 year old is a child and it is sweet. Try not to go all Puritan and push your loving child away. Boy, girl, father, mother, it is all fine. Only perverts see something wrong in it, because they imagine their own perversion in everything.

THIS

Every other country laughs at how weird we are with our lack of affection

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with it. 13 year old is a child and it is sweet. Try not to go all Puritan and push your loving child away. Boy, girl, father, mother, it is all fine. Only perverts see something wrong in it, because they imagine their own perversion in everything.

THIS

Every other country laughs at how weird we are with our lack of affection

No they don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he like to cuddle and be affectionate at other times? Or just when his dad is gone? That's the part that honestly creeps me out the most...

What is wrong with the people. When the dad is away, there is space in the bed. The kids is not making a move on his mom b/c he dad is out of town.

I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I assume mom and DS are both wearing pajamas. They way I picture it the are chatting and laughing until they fall asleep on their own sides of the bed.
My DS is only 7 but in our house there is something about bed time that makes him open up. So if he were 13 and he wanted to sleep with me occasionally I would think it would be great opportunity to have some fun talks with him.


Op here- yes the scenario is most like your vision. Jeez people - he's a little immature in some ways and this is a rare thing- like once every couple of months. I just think he's at that age where he's sometimes a teen and sometimes a little boy. And while I was the one to pose the question, I've decided I'm good with it and it feels for our situation perfectly normal. I regret letting the doubt enter my mind.

What does your husband say about it?

He should make the final call in this scenario

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with it. 13 year old is a child and it is sweet. Try not to go all Puritan and push your loving child away. Boy, girl, father, mother, it is all fine. Only perverts see something wrong in it, because they imagine their own perversion in everything.

+1

How about you try not to push your values and judgments on those who disagree with you.

Hypocrite. Aren't you doing the same thing??

Nope. I gave my opinion on the topic without resorting to namecalling. and projecting other issues and judgments into it.