Late Twenties DH is SO BORING!

[Anonymous]

Op, "built a house"??? As in, custom built a house?? What did that cost? I think you spent all your money there. Spending 3k just a few months after that new house is not good timing. Is your HHI over 150k?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I got married inlay school at 24. DH loves video games, I'm more social. We saved and saved, and coincidently I've always wanted to go to Paris. We had our first child at 27, after trying for a year. We just built our first house out in the burbs, and moved in over thanksgiving. We are 28/29. Now, we are saving for a trip to Paris for my 30th bday next year. That being said, there is compromise. My DH is "frugal," but that doesn't mean we can't afford it. And I'm not with him for the paycheck, as I make significantly more than him. We have financial goals that we both agree to, and fun stuff we save up for. In between, we go to restaurants, concerts, muesums, and the like. We aren't big drinkers, so not into the bar scene, but that's something less expensive and still fun you could do. Late twenties, with a baby, doesn't have to be so bad!

This is the OP. I really have wanted to go to Paris while I'm still young enough to enjoy it and sans children. We aren't struggling but with school loans and non lawyer jobs, we are on a tight budget. My dh isn't an idiot, he just doesn't think its smart to blow our savings for a trip to Paris. I however think we can easily do a cheap Paris trip by staying with one of his longtime Parisian friends and saving on lodging. We could then just eat selectively and make sure its a cheap trip. I think we can do that for 5 days for about 3K and I'm willingly contributing half.

Would that longtime Parisian friend of his be willing to host you? Maybe your DH knows that the friend wouldn't, and so is trying to tell you the trip wouldn't be feasible.

Plus wouldn't you feel obligated to buy him lots of meals hanging out? Are you going to just use his place and be a moocher?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:if you go early march, air fare should be lower and you should be able to do the trip under 3k. the dollar is strong.

budget 150 to 175/day for food/tourism, and the rest for plane fare. you will be eating breakfast with host, which means going out for patisserie, baguette, etc, but that's cheap. eat sandwiches and crepes for lunch and do nice, but not extravagant meals for dinner---plenty of great places with a full menu for 40 euro. you will have to restrain shopping impulse. metro/walk everywhere.

OP here.

Is the trip even doable with 3K

Duh. That depends on airfare, how many stops you're willing to take, inconvenient times, days of departure etc. This pp just gave you the other figures. Go to kayak and find out. Do you need us to wipe your ass too?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The way I see it is the issue is not that he is boring, it is that she is a harpie.

You OP's DH? Spending a bit too much time on video games, are we? I think it's weird that grown men want to play video games all night, on most nights. Even my DH thinks it's weird that grown men do this.

I think it's weird that grown men get married to harpies like yourself, but who am I to judge?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The way I see it is the issue is not that he is boring, it is that she is a harpie.

You OP's DH? Spending a bit too much time on video games, are we? I think it's weird that grown men want to play video games all night, on most nights. Even my DH thinks it's weird that grown men do this.

I think it's weird that grown men get married to harpies like yourself, but who am I to judge?

lol... like I stated, my DH doesn't play video games, so what are you going on about? Grow up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The way I see it is the issue is not that he is boring, it is that she is a harpie.

You OP's DH? Spending a bit too much time on video games, are we? I think it's weird that grown men want to play video games all night, on most nights. Even my DH thinks it's weird that grown men do this.

I think it's weird that grown men get married to harpies like yourself, but who am I to judge?

I think it's weird, too. So, why do men do it then? Why do grown men play video games every night? Could these men be overgrown kids who are addicted to video games? Like this thread here:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/0/524304.page#8137365

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The way I see it is the issue is not that he is boring, it is that she is a harpie.

You OP's DH? Spending a bit too much time on video games, are we? I think it's weird that grown men want to play video games all night, on most nights. Even my DH thinks it's weird that grown men do this.

It is weird. When I see men that do that the first thing I think of is 'child molester grooming behavior'. You know, come play with me little boy, I have all these fun toys.
That's probably not true in this case, but in the least its unsocial and immature to be playing video games so much as an adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My late twenties DH is so boring I feel like we are 50 years old already. I wanted for us to go to Paris for my birthday in March but he turned the idea down saying we do not have the money for a trip at this time. He also does not like to go out or party or socialize much. His ideal evening is to come home and plop down in front of his computer to play a video game.

I'm losing my mind. I want us to enjoy our remaining youth and have fun and adventures before we have children!

What do I do?

Get a part time night job to save some $$?
Have husband join you too? You'd be surprised how much energy you have if you go out and do something

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:if you go early march, air fare should be lower and you should be able to do the trip under 3k. the dollar is strong.

budget 150 to 175/day for food/tourism, and the rest for plane fare. you will be eating breakfast with host, which means going out for patisserie, baguette, etc, but that's cheap. eat sandwiches and crepes for lunch and do nice, but not extravagant meals for dinner---plenty of great places with a full menu for 40 euro. you will have to restrain shopping impulse. metro/walk everywhere.

OP here.

Is the trip even doable with 3K?

OP, copy and paste the link to your thread in website feedback and asked that it be locked. I think you've gleaned as much helpful advice as you can from it.

If you have questions about planning a trip to Paris, search the Travel forum or post specific questions. (Don't allude to this thread.) TripAdvisor is also a great travel website.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I got married inlay school at 24. DH loves video games, I'm more social. We saved and saved, and coincidently I've always wanted to go to Paris. We had our first child at 27, after trying for a year. We just built our first house out in the burbs, and moved in over thanksgiving. We are 28/29. Now, we are saving for a trip to Paris for my 30th bday next year. That being said, there is compromise. My DH is "frugal," but that doesn't mean we can't afford it. And I'm not with him for the paycheck, as I make significantly more than him. We have financial goals that we both agree to, and fun stuff we save up for. In between, we go to restaurants, concerts, muesums, and the like. We aren't big drinkers, so not into the bar scene, but that's something less expensive and still fun you could do. Late twenties, with a baby, doesn't have to be so bad!

This is the OP. I really have wanted to go to Paris while I'm still young enough to enjoy it and sans children. We aren't struggling but with school loans and non lawyer jobs, we are on a tight budget. My dh isn't an idiot, he just doesn't think its smart to blow our savings for a trip to Paris. I however think we can easily do a cheap Paris trip by staying with one of his longtime Parisian friends and saving on lodging. We could then just eat selectively and make sure its a cheap trip. I think we can do that for 5 days for about 3K and I'm willingly contributing half.

Okay, sorry, OP, but you are an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think I'm thinking of saving most of my next couple of pay checks so I can create a Paris fund.

Thanks for all the feedback! My dh wants to go but he wants to give me a nice time and doesn't want to slum it. He's a Francophile and lived in Paris while growing up.

Your story keeps changing.

Do you and your husband have separate finances? That's really dumb.

[Anonymous]

Boring to you is "stable" to me. I'd give a lot for stability in times of trouble. Careful what you wish for!

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a real stick in the mud OP.

I would encourage him more and more to do stuff, if he continues to deny you then let him know that you are going to find someone else to have fun with.

That ought to open up his eyes.

I advised you to TELL him you will find someone else. I think a warning will wake him up. Don't actually do it. Lol.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The way I see it is the issue is not that he is boring, it is that she is a harpie.

You OP's DH? Spending a bit too much time on video games, are we? I think it's weird that grown men want to play video games all night, on most nights. Even my DH thinks it's weird that grown men do this.

My DH relaxes playing FIFA sometimes, I find the sound kind of soothing. I snuggle up next to him to surf the internet and we are content.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The way I see it is the issue is not that he is boring, it is that she is a harpie.

You OP's DH? Spending a bit too much time on video games, are we? I think it's weird that grown men want to play video games all night, on most nights. Even my DH thinks it's weird that grown men do this.

I spend less than an hour a day playing video games. I enjoy playing golf after dinner. Then I blow the dust off your vagina to see if it's still capable of getting wet, grandma.