Family member's wife gained a lot of weight. He does not look happy. Should I say something?

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OP, what specifically were you planning to say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of women look forward to letting themselves go after marriage. I've heard women comment about other newly married women, "now she doesn't have to work out." Pigs

This shit needs to stop. I am all for open immigration for attractive females from various countries to make american women think outside before destroying this country.

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So if I'm understanding this correctly, the problem for the OP is that this family member is unhappy in his marriage, but leaving his wife means that she'll get half of a $500K house that is appreciating.

What I don't understand is what outcome the OP would advise toward.

Also not sure what supporting Trump has to do with any of it, but the nonsensical nature of that little detail made some sense of the support he has. It's all about putting value on all the wrong things because it's the right thing to do.

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Stay out of their property and financial matters. You seem very nosy....and very judgmental....about things that are truly outside of your control and are actually none of your business.

I don't mean to sound harsh but you may want to direct some of that "concern" inwards.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what nationality are you?

American. White American. Actually, White American who is a Trump supporter.

Nice, home grown WT. Love it.

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Anonymous wrote:how much did she gain?

This is an important question.

OP, if you could carefully lead this woman over to a scale that you've hidden on the floor in the living room, maybe under some wrapping paper, then you could weigh her and get her exact weight. Please do this and report back to us.

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Op is disgusting. MyOB.

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I know this is a troll but I do have a friend who always comments on friends weight-says things like "Oh she's so fit, I don't know why she can't find someone", or was excited when one of our overweight friends got engaged, because I think she thought it was so unlikely. It's so interesting that she associates ability to find a mate almost exclusively with weight. And our friend group is hyper educated and successful (mostly Ivy League schools and top colleges/grad schools) so we aren't a group trading primarily on our looks.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe your sister is ill and the treatment drugs have a side effect of weight gain - and maybe your brother is sad because he's about to be a widow.

+1!
This is a very real side effect of many drugs for serious illnesses, so tread lightly, OP!

If you are NOT in fact a troll (or not a troll IRL), why don't you simply have a normal, kind, nonjudgmental discussion with no weight opinions whatsoever, particularly since many, many people overeat at Xmas and wouldn't appreciate overhearing your judgments?

Just a random thought...

+2

I gained a lot of weight temporarily due to medication for a chronic health condition. My partner was very unhappy about the diagnosis and what he saw as crappy medical care. He didn't care about the weight. Well, actually, I think he liked the 36DDs. Anyway, the point is. If you saw a snapshot moment of our lives at that time, you might have misassociated his unhappiness and my weight gain. No one should have to share every diagnosis, treatment regimen, or state of their marriage.

BTW, I got the correct medication eventually and dropped the weight. Still sick though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of women look forward to letting themselves go after marriage. I've heard women comment about other newly married women, "now she doesn't have to work out." Pigs

Stop hanging out at the Dress Barn and you won't have to listen to comments like that. Most MC and UMC women stay fit for themselves for health reasons and to have the energy to run after their kids. Among the moms at DD's private, being underweight is a bigger problem.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what nationality are you?

American. White American. Actually, White American who is a Trump supporter.

You are starting to sound bunny boiler stalkerish.

[Anonymous]

Ok this is my new favorite thread.


Op- which one were you going to talk to?

If it was the husband, and you are correct about him being sad about his wife being a fatty - what were you going to advise?
Are you concerned fatass is going to take the house?
Are just wanting to offer a boney shoulder and nicely defined clavicle to lean on?
Do you have a way for him to hide his assests from her gigantic ASSests?
I'm just wondering what you think you can do to help.
Are you interested helping big Bessie lose the weight?

What is your angle here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok this is my new favorite thread.


Op- which one were you going to talk to?

If it was the husband, and you are correct about him being sad about his wife being a fatty - what were you going to advise?
Are you concerned fatass is going to take the house?
Are just wanting to offer a boney shoulder and nicely defined clavicle to lean on?
Do you have a way for him to hide his assests from her gigantic ASSests?
I'm just wondering what you think you can do to help.
Are you interested helping big Bessie lose the weight?

What is your angle here?

Get her a pair of cement shoes.
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Just kidding of course.

I kid. I kid.

[Anonymous]

If he leaves his wife because she gained weight,sorry but she deserves to walk away with half of THEIR fortune..

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Growing up he was all about hot chicks, playboy magazines, the playboy channel etc... There is no way he is happy right now. He cant be. I know deep down he is not.

The woman in that picture, if I'm not mistaken, has Hepatitis C today....and she ain't exactly 25 anymore either. Does that make her an unworthy person? I don't think that it does.

Time stops for no one and health issues (including weight gain) can happen to anyone. LOVE the person you marry and you can get through things like this - together.

Op - the assets of this couple are not your concern. Nor is that woman's weight. But you know that. Now go kick back and thank your lucky stars that you are in a different boat.