Wondering if DW is part of some kind of fight club...

[Anonymous]

I don't know. Does anyone think we each have a right to do some things without telling our spouses? Not to justify violating any Dallas, by cheating or otherwise doing something wrong. But maybe we should each be able to have parts of our lives that remain our own. That we don't need to explain to anyone. I'm not sure how I feel about it, but for some reason she doesn't want to tell him what she's doing. One option is to trail her, another is simply to tell her you don't believe her but that if she needs to talk, you're there for her. I don't know what's best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know. Does anyone think we each have a right to do some things without telling our spouses? Not to justify violating any Dallas, by cheating or otherwise doing something wrong. But maybe we should each be able to have parts of our lives that remain our own. That we don't need to explain to anyone. I'm not sure how I feel about it, but for some reason she doesn't want to tell him what she's doing. One option is to trail her, another is simply to tell her you don't believe her but that if she needs to talk, you're there for her. I don't know what's best.

PP, are you kidding me? This is real life, not some philosophical theory rattling around inside your brain. This is not a painting class she's attending. This is not about surprising her DH with her newfound bellydancing skill. She is getting bruises. She could be involved in something really weird. She's got little kids. Her DH is worried.

[Anonymous]

Do you think she may just use the term triathlon because people aren't as familiar with these extreme races? Maybe it's just easier to say triathlon than explain what a tuff mudder is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was also thinking it was for one of those mudder courses. I could certainly believe that kind of training can cause some bruises.

By the way, a few people have died during those competitions. They do some crazy stuff like run an electrical current through the mud while people are crawling through it. I hope she's not doing that kind of course.

Yeah, this or Parkour. Training for either would absolutely result in bruises. I used to do Tae Kwon Do and I had plenty of bruises from that, just my own clumsiness. Heck, I still have scars from when I used to be a hurdler. Mudder and Parkour will rip you up for sure.

[Anonymous]

What I can't quite figure out though, is why she just doesn't tell him what she's doing? I can't imagine having four kids with my DH and not being straight up with him about where I was going for that many hours. I mean, we have three kids ourselves, and sometimes one of us can barely get away for half an hour to take a shower. If my DH was gone for that many hours in one night and I had no idea where he was, I think that would be a bit weird.

[Anonymous]

I am dying to know what his DW is up to!! I don't have any insight to add, except for the fact that something is off and I can't put my finger on it. I am going to follow this. OP KEEP US UPDATED!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know. Does anyone think we each have a right to do some things without telling our spouses? Not to justify violating any Dallas, by cheating or otherwise doing something wrong. But maybe we should each be able to have parts of our lives that remain our own. That we don't need to explain to anyone. I'm not sure how I feel about it, but for some reason she doesn't want to tell him what she's doing. One option is to trail her, another is simply to tell her you don't believe her but that if she needs to talk, you're there for her. I don't know what's best.

PP, are you kidding me? This is real life, not some philosophical theory rattling around inside your brain. This is not a painting class she's attending. This is not about surprising her DH with her newfound bellydancing skill. She is getting bruises. She could be involved in something really weird. She's got little kids. Her DH is worried.

Points taken. But, she is an adult, and OP hasn't said anything about her behaving as though she's injured. If she is into something, I"m not sure trailing her to find out what it is is the best response. If I clearly didn't want to tell my DH about something, and he didn't have any reason to question my loyalty, etc., I think his following me would feel like a real violation. I understand the concerns, but am having a hard seeing how they would ever get past the fact that he trailed her somewhere. I think I'd be more upset about that than if my husband had an affair.

[Anonymous]

She is training for a triathlon but she doesn't know how to ride a bike.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like the guy runs a boot camp type workout which includes some kind of hand-to-hand combat and other military style drills like crawling and knocking over obstacles.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, this is that boot camp where you learn to beat up your husband for when he will not leave you alone about what boot camp you are attending.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was also thinking it was for one of those mudder courses. I could certainly believe that kind of training can cause some bruises.

By the way, a few people have died during those competitions. They do some crazy stuff like run an electrical current through the mud while people are crawling through it. I hope she's not doing that kind of course.

Yeah, this or Parkour. Training for either would absolutely result in bruises. I used to do Tae Kwon Do and I had plenty of bruises from that, just my own clumsiness. Heck, I still have scars from when I used to be a hurdler. Mudder and Parkour will rip you up for sure.

I've don't numerous tough muddle races and have NEVER seen someone do anything to train, but run. I always do them with a group and the only thing we do is work ourselves up to running 10 miles.

Do you think people are setting up barbed wite, firepits, and enormous mud baths while they train?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Roller Derby was a good thought. I'm going to add in American Ninja Warrior training. Tough Mudder is crazy, like they tase you. Is the 6 hours including driving time. I could somewhat believe that she is trying to climb walls, crawl around, etc. and get some bruises. I'm just not sure why she wouldn't be talking about it more, and it's definitely not a triathlon.

"The first rule of Fight Club is: You do not talk about Fight Club. The second rule of Fight Club is: You do not talk about Fight Club."

[Anonymous]

What, she's not out hunting bobcats?

[Anonymous]

While I think the OP's story is fake, i wanted to share a story on the very off chance that it's real and that OP can learn something from it.

I have a dear friend who married young, had 3 kids by the time she was 21 (with her husband) and got board with the marriage in her early 30s.

She called me once crying. She had been in a dom/sub affair and the guy seriously hurt her. She was crying out of fear for her health and having to tell her husband about the affair. She needed ... (trying not to be explicit) stitches in her vagina like one needs after childbirth. She told her husband. He didn't like rough private time but did it with her occasionally. She only pushed him b/c she needed those marks to hide the ones she was getting with her dom person.

They had an open marriage for awhile so she could get all that stuff out of her system and eventually the marriage dissolved.

OP any of that sound familiar?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was also thinking it was for one of those mudder courses. I could certainly believe that kind of training can cause some bruises.

By the way, a few people have died during those competitions. They do some crazy stuff like run an electrical current through the mud while people are crawling through it. I hope she's not doing that kind of course.

Yeah, this or Parkour. Training for either would absolutely result in bruises. I used to do Tae Kwon Do and I had plenty of bruises from that, just my own clumsiness. Heck, I still have scars from when I used to be a hurdler. Mudder and Parkour will rip you up for sure.

I've don't numerous tough muddle races and have NEVER seen someone do anything to train, but run. I always do them with a group and the only thing we do is work ourselves up to running 10 miles.

Do you think people are setting up barbed wite, firepits, and enormous mud baths while they train?

You just gave my the backyard landscaping inspiration I've been looking for. Finally a use for DH's neglected fire pit and that old turtle sandbox/mud bath.