Can you find love after your looks have faded?

[Anonymous]

My absolute prime was age 34-35. I was smoking. Best body of my life, best skin...better than college and post-Grad.

I am 45 now.

30s are young.

[Anonymous]

My absolute prime was age 34-35. I was smoking. Best body of my life, best skin...better than college and post-Grad.

I am 45 now.

30s are young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If Mariah and J Lo only look that good because of professional help, then why can't everyone achieve the same effect + thus be famous too??

Everyone says that if they had all the hair and make-up teams at their disposal, the lighting and photoshopping at a whim then they could look just as good.

If that is the case, then why isn't everyone famous? I mean...If that is all it takes.

Mariah and J Lo are obviously much more attractive than the average woman bear since they are up there and we are all down here. Even in real life, some women age really well.

Compare Martha Stewart to Helen Mirren for instance. Same age range, but Martha looks much younger. I am sure Helen has the same access to all the beauty teams that Martha does, yet doesn't look as youthful. It's because Martha just has better genes than Helen does.

Like in the real world.

JLo, with and without. Sorry, but without the help she's no hotter than any woman you'd see strolling through WalMart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If Mariah and J Lo only look that good because of professional help, then why can't everyone achieve the same effect + thus be famous too??

Everyone says that if they had all the hair and make-up teams at their disposal, the lighting and photoshopping at a whim then they could look just as good.

If that is the case, then why isn't everyone famous? I mean...If that is all it takes.

Mariah and J Lo are obviously much more attractive than the average woman bear since they are up there and we are all down here. Even in real life, some women age really well.

Compare Martha Stewart to Helen Mirren for instance. Same age range, but Martha looks much younger. I am sure Helen has the same access to all the beauty teams that Martha does, yet doesn't look as youthful. It's because Martha just has better genes than Helen does.

Like in the real world.

Not everyone wants to be famous or has access to these resources. I once saw a famous model in midtown Manhattan. There were other women walking around who were objectively better looking, but some people also have a talent for being very photogenic.

[Anonymous]

JLo is still hot either way. Her body is still amazing and most people look unflattering without making up under paparrazzi lights.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:JLo is still hot either way. Her body is still amazing and most people look unflattering without making up under paparrazzi lights.

Sure. Her entire existence revolves around looking good. Personal trainers, professional makeup artists, plastic surgery, etc, etc, etc.

What do you imagine JLo would look like if she were simply a cashier at WalMart without a team of people? She'd look like any other schlumpy, overweight, 45 year old woman.

Or how about Gwyneth Paltrow without her phony shell? The point is, holding up airbrushed pictures of celebrities as some sort of example of later age beauty is stupid. They don't look like that.

[Anonymous]

Hmm, they're both still attractive women, flaws and all. As are some everyday women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmm, they're both still attractive women, flaws and all. As are some everyday women.

I like big women and I like small women. I like their touch and smell. It doesn't really matter how you look as much as how you treat other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Remember OP, looks fading is a very subjective context.

Jennifer Lopez is turning 46 this month and on a personal level, I think she looks much hotter than she did twenty yrs ago.

Same goes for her nemesis Mariah.

So do not discount the number of birthdays you have celebrated. One can be in their prime even at fifty.

Totally agree with you that they both look better now but remember that most women do have have ready access to stylist and make up artists and globs of money for plastic surgery.

And both of them aren't what you call lucky in love! Don't you understand that beauty is no guarantee of happiness, of love, of finding the right person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do 30-something women find love? Once past their prime, they give men little physical incentive to want to get to know them.
Thoughts?

Sweetheart, 30-something women have not even hit their prime yet.

Please stop with the "sweetheart": it is so obnoxious and condescending.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do 30-something women find love? Once past their prime, they give men little physical incentive to want to get to know them.
Thoughts?

Sweetheart, 30-something women have not even hit their prime yet.

Please stop with the "sweetheart": it is so obnoxious and condescending.

Pretty sure condescension was the whole point of putting it there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmm, they're both still attractive women, flaws and all. As are some everyday women.

The point is that sans their Beauty Teams consisting of makeup artists, surgeons, and photoshop wizards they're simply normal women that would not draw anyone's eye if they were everyday workers down in accounts payable. Yet the nipped, tucked, pancake make-upped, airbrushed versions of them are held up as a standard of beauty that is not representative of "real women."

[Anonymous]

You give more sex and lower expectations