Can you find love after your looks have faded?

[Anonymous]

How do 30-something women find love? Once past their prime, they give men little physical incentive to want to get to know them.
Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do 30-something women find love? Once past their prime, they give men little physical incentive to want to get to know them.
Thoughts?

Wow. You know some real winners in the guy department.

Look for a better quality of man and I suspect you'll find they're more interested in getting to know you, and don't expect you to look twenty years younger than they do. I have a dear friend who found love in her -- GASP -- forties! Even though she's not as firm and cute as she once was!

What she is is well-traveled, intelligent, mature, capable, humorous, sweet, and (yes) a lovely 45-year old.

You really need to meet a better class of man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do 30-something women find love? Once past their prime, they give men little physical incentive to want to get to know them.
Thoughts?

Wow. You know some real winners in the guy department.

Look for a better quality of man and I suspect you'll find they're more interested in getting to know you, and don't expect you to look twenty years younger than they do. I have a dear friend who found love in her -- GASP -- forties! Even though she's not as firm and cute as she once was!

What she is is well-traveled, intelligent, mature, capable, humorous, sweet, and (yes) a lovely 45-year old.

You really need to meet a better class of man.

+1

I found love in my forties.

[Anonymous]

OP must be male.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do 30-something women find love? Once past their prime, they give men little physical incentive to want to get to know them.
Thoughts?

If all a man cares about is whether he can bounce a quarter off your ass, personality be damned, he's not really worth the effort anyway.

[Anonymous]

Yes. They struggle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. They struggle.

Most 22-year-olds don't look as good as either woman, so let's not set that as the standard. You're really just playing into the OP, going along with the idea that only beautiful, very thin, genetically blessed women have anything to offer men.

[Anonymous]

They need to put out more and talk less

[Anonymous]

When men hit on women who are more attractive than them (i.e. "out of their league"), they are "entitled." Same thing goes for women, I'd guess. So, it's not what's on the inside that counts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When men hit on women who are more attractive than them (i.e. "out of their league"), they are "entitled." Same thing goes for women, I'd guess. So, it's not what's on the inside that counts.

No, that's not what makes those men entitled. What makes them entitled is the belief that they're due a positive response from whatever woman they hit on.

[Anonymous]

Weird. My mom remarried at 57 to a man her same age. He is a c level exec so it's not like hr didn't have options. She has kept fit and takes care of herself.

If you have no self esteem, you won't attract anyone.

[Anonymous]

Man here.

Not all men are simply shallow horndogs looking for some young thing. (As if 30-something is old.)

Be witty. Be interesting. Be curious. Be fun. Be mysterious. Be confident.

I was told long ago that you don't choose your mate based on looks. No one beats Father Time. No one. I'm 54. DW is 52. Does she look like she did at 25? Nope. Neither do I. But she's all of the above and thus far more appealing than every other woman I meet.

Thirty-something is a wonderful age for a woman. Enjoy it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here.

Not all men are simply shallow horndogs looking for some young thing. (As if 30-something is old.)

Be witty. Be interesting. Be curious. Be fun. Be mysterious. Be confident.

I was told long ago that you don't choose your mate based on looks. No one beats Father Time. No one. I'm 54. DW is 52. Does she look like she did at 25? Nope. Neither do I. But she's all of the above and thus far more appealing than every other woman I meet.

Thirty-something is a wonderful age for a woman. Enjoy it.

Hmmm....I guess Hollywood didn't get the memo?

[Anonymous]

I have a good man who, I think, loves women for who they are, not (just) for their bodies. A funny, feisty, unafraid, and confident woman is a turn on for grown ups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here.

Not all men are simply shallow horndogs looking for some young thing. (As if 30-something is old.)

Be witty. Be interesting. Be curious. Be fun. Be mysterious. Be confident.

I was told long ago that you don't choose your mate based on looks. No one beats Father Time. No one. I'm 54. DW is 52. Does she look like she did at 25? Nope. Neither do I. But she's all of the above and thus far more appealing than every other woman I meet.

Thirty-something is a wonderful age for a woman. Enjoy it.

Hmmm....I guess Hollywood didn't get the memo?

Most people don't live in a movie.