Cousin won't come to my wedding because it's a "sin"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Huh. One of my best friends was a bridesmaid in my wedding. Her girlfriend at the time also came. She knew my very religiously conservative views on homosexuality, and didn't invite me to her wedding - which was about a year later - but still came to mine.

Frankly, I would have gone to hers, since I don't have issues with same sex civil marriages, but whatever. It was also a short notice thing when it became legal in their state, so that probably played into it more than anything else

We're still close friends. I don't discuss gay marriage with her and she doesn't call my religious views nonsense around me. I guess we care about our friendship more than we care about making some kind of political statement.

wanting equality for all is not some political statement, as the party who is not being denied rights I can see where YOU would try and politicize... but I am glad you can still maintain a friendship with someone whom you believe doesn't deserve the same rights as you, denial comes in handy for sure...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Huh. One of my best friends was a bridesmaid in my wedding. Her girlfriend at the time also came. She knew my very religiously conservative views on homosexuality, and didn't invite me to her wedding - which was about a year later - but still came to mine.

Frankly, I would have gone to hers, since I don't have issues with same sex civil marriages, but whatever. It was also a short notice thing when it became legal in their state, so that probably played into it more than anything else

We're still close friends. I don't discuss gay marriage with her and she doesn't call my religious views nonsense around me. I guess we care about our friendship more than we care about making some kind of political statement.

wanting equality for all is not some political statement, as the party who is not being denied rights I can see where YOU would try and politicize... but I am glad you can still maintain a friendship with someone whom you believe doesn't deserve the same rights as you, denial comes in handy for sure...

PP said she doesn't have issues with same sex civil marriages. The marriage equality movement isn't about getting each religion to accept same-sex marriage.

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Christianity may be -- and is -- a religion of love, but it is also a religion that commands adherence to the Word of God. That Word is very clear that gay marriage is a sin.

I'm a Christian and my religion allows gay marriage. It also allows female leadership and abhors slavery. Your SECT may believe that homosexuality is a sin and doesn't allow women to hold leadership positions but Christianity certainly allows it.

True Christianity follows the Bible and the Bible forbids homosexual marriage. That your church or your "sect" allows it, and still calls itself Christian, is problematic. You have deviated from the word of God.

So has everyone in modern society honey- a friend is re-reading the bible and is keeping tallies, of the 1085 marriages referenced so far:
67.1 % Polygamy
29.31 % Slave/Concubine
0.09 % Levirate
03.5 % "Natural Marriage" or One Man, One Woman.

She's made little tally marks for 1.085 marriages? Interesting way to spend her free time.

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Anonymous wrote:Huh. One of my best friends was a bridesmaid in my wedding. Her girlfriend at the time also came. She knew my very religiously conservative views on homosexuality, and didn't invite me to her wedding - which was about a year later - but still came to mine.

Frankly, I would have gone to hers, since I don't have issues with same sex civil marriages, but whatever. It was also a short notice thing when it became legal in their state, so that probably played into it more than anything else

We're still close friends. I don't discuss gay marriage with her and she doesn't call my religious views nonsense around me. I guess we care about our friendship more than we care about making some kind of political statement.

wanting equality for all is not some political statement, as the party who is not being denied rights I can see where YOU would try and politicize... but I am glad you can still maintain a friendship with someone whom you believe doesn't deserve the same rights as you, denial comes in handy for sure...

PP said she doesn't have issues with same sex civil marriages. The marriage equality movement isn't about getting each religion to accept same-sex marriage.

separate but equal doesn't work, I never said anything about getting religions on board- just being given exactly the same rights under the law

[Anonymous]

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Christianity may be -- and is -- a religion of love, but it is also a religion that commands adherence to the Word of God. That Word is very clear that gay marriage is a sin.

I'm a Christian and my religion allows gay marriage. It also allows female leadership and abhors slavery. Your SECT may believe that homosexuality is a sin and doesn't allow women to hold leadership positions but Christianity certainly allows it.

True Christianity follows the Bible and the Bible forbids homosexual marriage. That your church or your "sect" allows it, and still calls itself Christian, is problematic. You have deviated from the word of God.

So has everyone in modern society honey- a friend is re-reading the bible and is keeping tallies, of the 1085 marriages referenced so far:
67.1 % Polygamy
29.31 % Slave/Concubine
0.09 % Levirate
03.5 % "Natural Marriage" or One Man, One Woman.

She's made little tally marks for 1.085 marriages? Interesting way to spend her free time.

being accurate instead of spewing the same old bullshit party line is important to some... and I never said it was a woman

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Huh. One of my best friends was a bridesmaid in my wedding. Her girlfriend at the time also came. She knew my very religiously conservative views on homosexuality, and didn't invite me to her wedding - which was about a year later - but still came to mine.

Frankly, I would have gone to hers, since I don't have issues with same sex civil marriages, but whatever. It was also a short notice thing when it became legal in their state, so that probably played into it more than anything else

We're still close friends. I don't discuss gay marriage with her and she doesn't call my religious views nonsense around me. I guess we care about our friendship more than we care about making some kind of political statement.

wanting equality for all is not some political statement, as the party who is not being denied rights I can see where YOU would try and politicize... but I am glad you can still maintain a friendship with someone whom you believe doesn't deserve the same rights as you, denial comes in handy for sure...

PP said she doesn't have issues with same sex civil marriages. The marriage equality movement isn't about getting each religion to accept same-sex marriage.

separate but equal doesn't work, I never said anything about getting religions on board- just being given exactly the same rights under the law

What? She says she is supportive of civil marriage. How is that "separate but equal"?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Huh. One of my best friends was a bridesmaid in my wedding. Her girlfriend at the time also came. She knew my very religiously conservative views on homosexuality, and didn't invite me to her wedding - which was about a year later - but still came to mine.

Frankly, I would have gone to hers, since I don't have issues with same sex civil marriages, but whatever. It was also a short notice thing when it became legal in their state, so that probably played into it more than anything else

We're still close friends. I don't discuss gay marriage with her and she doesn't call my religious views nonsense around me. I guess we care about our friendship more than we care about making some kind of political statement.

wanting equality for all is not some political statement, as the party who is not being denied rights I can see where YOU would try and politicize... but I am glad you can still maintain a friendship with someone whom you believe doesn't deserve the same rights as you, denial comes in handy for sure...

Maybe you missed where she can maintain a friendship with me as well. It's a political statement when it comes between family and friends.

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Christianity may be -- and is -- a religion of love, but it is also a religion that commands adherence to the Word of God. That Word is very clear that gay marriage is a sin.

I'm a Christian and my religion allows gay marriage. It also allows female leadership and abhors slavery. Your SECT may believe that homosexuality is a sin and doesn't allow women to hold leadership positions but Christianity certainly allows it.

True Christianity follows the Bible and the Bible forbids homosexual marriage. That your church or your "sect" allows it, and still calls itself Christian, is problematic. You have deviated from the word of God.

So has everyone in modern society honey- a friend is re-reading the bible and is keeping tallies, of the 1085 marriages referenced so far:
67.1 % Polygamy
29.31 % Slave/Concubine
0.09 % Levirate
03.5 % "Natural Marriage" or One Man, One Woman.

She's made little tally marks for 1.085 marriages? Interesting way to spend her free time.

being accurate instead of spewing the same old bullshit party line is important to some... and I never said it was a woman

OK, good for him?? Still odd way to spend your time, IMO.

[Anonymous]

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Christianity may be -- and is -- a religion of love, but it is also a religion that commands adherence to the Word of God. That Word is very clear that gay marriage is a sin.

I'm a Christian and my religion allows gay marriage. It also allows female leadership and abhors slavery. Your SECT may believe that homosexuality is a sin and doesn't allow women to hold leadership positions but Christianity certainly allows it.

True Christianity follows the Bible and the Bible forbids homosexual marriage. That your church or your "sect" allows it, and still calls itself Christian, is problematic. You have deviated from the word of God.

OMG. Since when does your religion have the monopoly on the truth??? Who the heck are you to think that you are "more Christian" than another? That, my friend, is passing judgement. Maybe your Christ is ok with that, but the true Christians' Chirst is not.

Clearly you haven't read the Bible--whole books, not a verse here and there. Jesus judges hearts. He hates sin.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My cousin is engaged and so am I. She is very conservative, religious, and is openly against same sex marriage.

I asked her if she would still attend my wedding to my partner. I am respecting her loving and committed relationship and I was hoping she could do the same for me. She said she could not attend because it goes against her beliefs.

What would you do? I don't want to create any family drama but going to her wedding when she refuses to go to mine makes me feel sick.

don't go to her wedding, don't press her to go to yours.

My brother did this to me. I divorced young (due to my first husband cheating on me with 11 women that I know of, having sex with a minor, and getting convicted for having sex with her). When I was remarrying my brother told me to my face that god does not allow divorce and that I would be committing adultry every day for the rest of my life, in god's eyes I was still married to husband 1, and he could not attend my wedding to my new husband because it was against his beliefs. I just let it go and we don't really speak much anymore.

You can't changes people's beliefs.

Christian here. I'm very familiar with the passage of scripture your brother quoted. The same passage condones divorce for adultery. I'm sorry he has a perverted view of it. I hope you've healed from your first marriage and are happy now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely enjoy your wedding and don't give a thought to those who can't/won't attend.

Given that she was so rude as to preach at you about her beliefs impacting her decision to attend the wedding, I would definitely be too busy to attend hers. Just decline without a reason. You don't need to provide one.

If she was uncomfortable attending, she could have gracefully declined without the punch in the gut she gave you.

I hope you have a lovely wedding day!

Oh great, since when did explaining yourself become rude? would've been way more rude for her to just ignore the lesbian wedding invitation. Stop being offended by people who aren't the way you want them to be.

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Anonymous wrote:My cousin is engaged and so am I. She is very conservative, religious, and is openly against same sex marriage.

I asked her if she would still attend my wedding to my partner. I am respecting her loving and committed relationship and I was hoping she could do the same for me. She said she could not attend because it goes against her beliefs.

What would you do? I don't want to create any family drama but going to her wedding when she refuses to go to mine makes me feel sick.

don't go to her wedding, don't press her to go to yours.

My brother did this to me. I divorced young (due to my first husband cheating on me with 11 women that I know of, having sex with a minor, and getting convicted for having sex with her). When I was remarrying my brother told me to my face that god does not allow divorce and that I would be committing adultry every day for the rest of my life, in god's eyes I was still married to husband 1, and he could not attend my wedding to my new husband because it was against his beliefs. I just let it go and we don't really speak much anymore.

You can't changes people's beliefs.

Christian here. I'm very familiar with the passage of scripture your brother quoted. The same passage condones divorce for adultery. I'm sorry he has a perverted view of it. I hope you've healed from your first marriage and are happy now.

"Allows" is probably a better word than condones.