Cousin won't come to my wedding because it's a "sin"

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Christianity may be -- and is -- a religion of love, but it is also a religion that commands adherence to the Word of God. That Word is very clear that gay marriage is a sin.

I'm a Christian and my religion allows gay marriage. It also allows female leadership and abhors slavery. Your SECT may believe that homosexuality is a sin and doesn't allow women to hold leadership positions but Christianity certainly allows it.

True Christianity follows the Bible and the Bible forbids homosexual marriage. That your church or your "sect" allows it, and still calls itself Christian, is problematic. You have deviated from the word of God.

OMG. Since when does your religion have the monopoly on the truth??? Who the heck are you to think that you are "more Christian" than another? That, my friend, is passing judgement. Maybe your Christ is ok with that, but the true Christians' Chirst is not.

I can read. If you can too, read the Bible. It's all there. That you don't like what it says, I can't help.

Do you eat shellfish? Cut your hair? Wear mixed fibers? Ever thrown around a football?

Please, not that argument again. Yes, I do, but I am not Jewish.

If you can read, read the Bible. It's all there. That you don't like what it says, I can't help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cousin is engaged and so am I. She is very conservative, religious, and is openly against same sex marriage.

I asked her if she would still attend my wedding to my partner. I am respecting her loving and committed relationship and I was hoping she could do the same for me. She said she could not attend because it goes against her beliefs.

What would you do? I don't want to create any family drama but going to her wedding when she refuses to go to mine makes me feel sick.

What, if any value does she bring to your life? At all? If you and your partner decide to have children, do you really want someone with these views around your kids?

I don't believe that you are "stuck" with people just because they are family. If a cousin of mine rejected my husband and our marriage for any reason at all, that would be a deal breaker of our relationship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Christianity may be -- and is -- a religion of love, but it is also a religion that commands adherence to the Word of God. That Word is very clear that gay marriage is a sin.

I'm a Christian and my religion allows gay marriage. It also allows female leadership and abhors slavery. Your SECT may believe that homosexuality is a sin and doesn't allow women to hold leadership positions but Christianity certainly allows it.

True Christianity follows the Bible and the Bible forbids homosexual marriage. That your church or your "sect" allows it, and still calls itself Christian, is problematic. You have deviated from the word of God.

OMG. Since when does your religion have the monopoly on the truth??? Who the heck are you to think that you are "more Christian" than another? That, my friend, is passing judgement. Maybe your Christ is ok with that, but the true Christians' Chirst is not.

I can read. If you can too, read the Bible. It's all there. That you don't like what it says, I can't help.

Do you eat shellfish? Cut your hair? Wear mixed fibers? Ever thrown around a football?

Please, not that argument again. Yes, I do, but I am not Jewish.

The supposed rules against being gay are in the same chapter as the rules against eating shellfish and mxing fibers. Still not sure why you people think one line still counts while the others don't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Christianity may be -- and is -- a religion of love, but it is also a religion that commands adherence to the Word of God. That Word is very clear that gay marriage is a sin.

I'm a Christian and my religion allows gay marriage. It also allows female leadership and abhors slavery. Your SECT may believe that homosexuality is a sin and doesn't allow women to hold leadership positions but Christianity certainly allows it.

True Christianity follows the Bible and the Bible forbids homosexual marriage. That your church or your "sect" allows it, and still calls itself Christian, is problematic. You have deviated from the word of God.

OMG. Since when does your religion have the monopoly on the truth??? Who the heck are you to think that you are "more Christian" than another? That, my friend, is passing judgement. Maybe your Christ is ok with that, but the true Christians' Chirst is not.

I can read. If you can too, read the Bible. It's all there. That you don't like what it says, I can't help.

Do you eat shellfish? Cut your hair? Wear mixed fibers? Ever thrown around a football?

Please, not that argument again. Yes, I do, but I am not Jewish.

Have you actually read the bible? Don't think so...you'd know these passages are all together. With the so called "Jewish" ones

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Christianity may be -- and is -- a religion of love, but it is also a religion that commands adherence to the Word of God. That Word is very clear that gay marriage is a sin.

I'm a Christian and my religion allows gay marriage. It also allows female leadership and abhors slavery. Your SECT may believe that homosexuality is a sin and doesn't allow women to hold leadership positions but Christianity certainly allows it.

True Christianity follows the Bible and the Bible forbids homosexual marriage. That your church or your "sect" allows it, and still calls itself Christian, is problematic. You have deviated from the word of God.

Citation please.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't make it family drama. If you do not feel comfortable attending her wedding, then decline and send a gift. It isn't about spite (is it?), but not wanting to attend an event where you feel disrespected. Is your fiancée invited?

Honestly, people in your family will know what's what. Don't gossip or bitch to other family members (many of whom will feel caught in the middle). Just concentrate on your own marriage.

Sorry this kind of crap is still happening. But you can't change everyone overnight.

No, do not send a gift.

Send a gift - a donation in your cousin's name to GLAAD.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Christianity may be -- and is -- a religion of love, but it is also a religion that commands adherence to the Word of God. That Word is very clear that gay marriage is a sin.

I'm a Christian and my religion allows gay marriage. It also allows female leadership and abhors slavery. Your SECT may believe that homosexuality is a sin and doesn't allow women to hold leadership positions but Christianity certainly allows it.

True Christianity follows the Bible and the Bible forbids homosexual marriage. That your church or your "sect" allows it, and still calls itself Christian, is problematic. You have deviated from the word of God.

Citation please.

There are many. But start by reading Paul's letter to the Romans, chapter 1. Interestingly, the Christians that he was writing to in that society were living in a culture and time very similar to our own.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't make it family drama. If you do not feel comfortable attending her wedding, then decline and send a gift. It isn't about spite (is it?), but not wanting to attend an event where you feel disrespected. Is your fiancée invited?

Honestly, people in your family will know what's what. Don't gossip or bitch to other family members (many of whom will feel caught in the middle). Just concentrate on your own marriage.

Sorry this kind of crap is still happening. But you can't change everyone overnight.

No, do not send a gift.

Send a gift - a donation in your cousin's name to GLAAD.

PLEASE DO THIS! Love it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cousin is engaged and so am I. She is very conservative, religious, and is openly against same sex marriage.

I asked her if she would still attend my wedding to my partner. I am respecting her loving and committed relationship and I was hoping she could do the same for me. She said she could not attend because it goes against her beliefs.

What would you do? I don't want to create any family drama but going to her wedding when she refuses to go to mine makes me feel sick. [/quote

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So, you respect her beliefs and accept her decision. Go or ddon't go to her wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all the supportive replies!

I think I knew the answer all along. I will decline and keep my thoughts to myself. After all, I have so many family members who have been awesome & supportive.

You're right -- more cake for me!

For a wedding present, make a donation in her name to something like this http://www.itgetsbetter.org

[Anonymous]

Your cousin has a deeply-held faith that will not be changed because of your hurt feelings. She believes what you're doing with your life is wrong, and does not want to support it. That does not mean she doesn't like you.

[Anonymous]

Definitely enjoy your wedding and don't give a thought to those who can't/won't attend.

Given that she was so rude as to preach at you about her beliefs impacting her decision to attend the wedding, I would definitely be too busy to attend hers. Just decline without a reason. You don't need to provide one.

If she was uncomfortable attending, she could have gracefully declined without the punch in the gut she gave you.

I hope you have a lovely wedding day!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Normally I wouldn't support you not going just because she's not going to yours. But given her reasoning, you have every right to not give it a second thought. You don't need to celebrate someone who thinks their love is more real or important or valid than yours.

It's not OP's "love" the cousin is disputing. It's the marriage. Big difference.

huh?

do you really think a cousin who WON'T ATTEND a gay wedding because she doesn't approve of gay marriage would be totally fine with e.g., a gay couple PDAing at her wedding?

People who sat they don't support gay marriage but they're fine with gay relationships - and I know that some really believe this - are kidding themselves. Boycotting gay weddings/saying you don't "believe in" gay marriage is a form of homophobia that I am hoping will disappear in a generation. Religions can settle this question however they please, but if you truly support gay love, you support gay marriage. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Huh. One of my best friends was a bridesmaid in my wedding. Her girlfriend at the time also came. She knew my very religiously conservative views on homosexuality, and didn't invite me to her wedding - which was about a year later - but still came to mine.

Frankly, I would have gone to hers, since I don't have issues with same sex civil marriages, but whatever. It was also a short notice thing when it became legal in their state, so that probably played into it more than anything else

We're still close friends. I don't discuss gay marriage with her and she doesn't call my religious views nonsense around me. I guess we care about our friendship more than we care about making some kind of political statement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Christianity may be -- and is -- a religion of love, but it is also a religion that commands adherence to the Word of God. That Word is very clear that gay marriage is a sin.

I'm a Christian and my religion allows gay marriage. It also allows female leadership and abhors slavery. Your SECT may believe that homosexuality is a sin and doesn't allow women to hold leadership positions but Christianity certainly allows it.

True Christianity follows the Bible and the Bible forbids homosexual marriage. That your church or your "sect" allows it, and still calls itself Christian, is problematic. You have deviated from the word of God.

So has everyone in modern society honey- a friend is re-reading the bible and is keeping tallies, of the 1085 marriages referenced so far:
67.1 % Polygamy
29.31 % Slave/Concubine
0.09 % Levirate
03.5 % "Natural Marriage" or One Man, One Woman.