Guys... What makes you put s ring on it?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 28 and my bf of 2 years is 26. I feel like I'm ready for the next step in my life and I want to take I with him. We have talked marriage and kids for at least a year. Also, he keeps saying how he wants to spend his life with me. However he has made no moves to try to propose to me. I'm getting impatient. We're old enough, mature enough and earn enough - what's the wait for?

He says he needs time to plan a proper proposal for me and I should stop nagging him about it.

Time to plan a proper proposal is nonsense. It takes about half a day to pick a proper time and place if it's something you want to do.

I talked to him on New Years this year about how I'd like for us to get engaged this year. He said okay. Now I think he's waiting until December to propose. I wish he'd do it sooner so that I can be done with this miserable waiting period. People poorer than us and younger than us have proposed and are getting married this year. So I just feel like he doesn't love me enough to seal the deal.

26 is pretty young for a man these days, at least in any reasonably sized city. Are you sure he's not just stringing you along?

How do I know?

I mean, he is 26 and and he doesn't make six figures nor does he come from a rich family so he does need to save. He's been talking a lot about saving and being financially responsible lately. Also, last year around October, he was going to propose using a really cheap ring when I stopped him and said I'd rather he wait and get me a ring that is really like since I'll wear it all day every day forever.

Wait, so he was going to propose, you told him the ring wasn't good enough and he needed to get you a more expensive one, and are now upset that you have to wait for a proposal while he saves money for the ring and thinks the fact that he's trying to give you what you said you wanted means he doesn't love you enough?

Sweetie, you need to be glad he hasn't dumped you yet, because you're straying way into crazytown.

money is important when starting a family.

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No. I wasn't asking him to go into debt. I just think I'd want an engagement ring that isn't from the mall.

I'd buy you a CZ. Stop your whining and YOU propose to him, if it's so important to you. Take responsibility for your own life.

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Anonymous wrote:So you've basically given him a deadline on buying you a ring he can't really afford. And you recognize that you would be married/engaged by now if you had accepted what he could afford at the time. That tells me you care more about the ring than the guy, which also tells me you don't have the first clue what marriage is really about. Just...yuck.

She sounds like your average 28 y/o woman: ME ME ME ME ME!!!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:To PP at 13:42 from France: Excellent post!

Ugh, no, it was a really gross post. "American women emasculate their husbands"

Look, sweetheart, your husband apparently couldn't land an American lady and so he's filled your head with lies about how terrible American women are to bolster his injured ego.

If you feel you need to pretend to be incompetent to coddle and manipulate your husband, well...you do you. But pretending to be incompetent so you don't hurt a man's feelings is the opposite of feminism, so be honest that you aren't a feminist. If a man can't stand to marry a competent lady, the fault is with him, not with the competent lady.

- Signed, American woman who's been happily married for 10 years to a handsome, competent man who enjoys being with a smart, capable woman

American women DO emasculate their husbands. All you have to do is spend a few hours reading this board for proof of that.

Truth hurts.

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Anonymous wrote:Sex matters.

Guy spends close to decade with woman who won't give oral or anal or whatever and he tries to convince himself that he loves her (and might actually love her), but is not willing to never have oral and anal... A very real reason to not marry a woman. Sorry.

Then he gets with th next woman who is an oral/anal fiend and he marries her to keep that sex (which doesn't always work out either).

But yeah, no... No ring for the "only vaginal sex" women, as far as I'm concerned.

Damn, then why do all these foolish women agree to marry men who can't even make them orgasm?! High standards, PP, since I'm betting from your immature tone that you don't know shit about how to make a woman feel good.

And thus, an example of a woman who is so worried about her own pleasure, she ignores the pleasure of Men. Or, in other words, a woman who wouldn't get a ring (except by a henpecked male who forgoes his pleasure for hers).

An MRA village is missing their idiot.

I'm all for finding a sexual match. It's probably my top requirement, but you don't need to misuse capitalization or name call to express that it's your priority.