I turned sixty and seem to have become invisible.
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I don't feel invisible. I just feel visible in a different sort of way. My head turning days were really pretty fleeting but there was a time when I felt a bit like a celebrity - everywhere I went I could feel eyes on me. It was huge for my ego and my personality was even different when I was that noticeable. I'm glad I got to experience that sort of attention but quite honestly being able to blend into a crowd and not have everyone notice everything that you do is kind of nice too.
Like someone said, I'm more the soft, graying mom now. I find that people are generally more gentle and considerate of me out in public. Not always the case, but usually so. |
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I have to share something. I decided to let my gray hair grow out (I'm in the process now, it looks like hell with a hair dye line, and my DH is in permanent shock, I think)
Anyways just because we are anonymous here, I'll say this--I was a beautiful young woman, and I was pretty shy--never flirted etc. The whole problem of men possibly being attracted, or women possibly being jealous--I hated it. Anyways, I'm growing out my gray sort of as an "f-u" to the culture and showing my "real" me. (I know that sounds so corny, whatever) Ok what I have noticed about myself is that I look people in the eye; I'm smiling more, I know my eyes are twinkling; I'm not shy. |
Anonymous
| Very cool, pop. Thanks for sharing! |
Anonymous
that is, pp. |
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Please don't take this the wrong way, as me sounding homophobic. Gay men have such an influence on fashion for girls and women. Tall, thin, flat chested androgynous women are fashion magazine and runway favorites. However, most heterosexual men have a different view of what they find attractive. I myself have usually been described by men I have dated as either a "classic beauty" with big eyes, small lips, and curly hair, or just "cute."
As long as you are attractive to you are fit and healthy and have stamina to enjoy life, you will not be invisible. |
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Baby boomers are really not going to go gently into that good night, are they? Hee Hee.
I feel sorry for baby boomers aging, since celebrities get maintenance work done, like hair, Botox, teeth whitening, personal trainer, plastic surgey, micro dermabrasion, chemical peels, money on clothes, etc. Those Lifestyle Lift commercials with Debbie Boone singing "You Light Up My Life" are the worst. "What grays? Not that I ever had any." "I don't intend to age gracefully. I plan to fight it every step of the way." Fear of aging is great marketing. Only 4 in 10,000 Americans live to be 100. If you are 60, instead of worrying about being invisible because of your looks, think about retiring and enjoying what little time you have left on this earth. |
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Amy Schumer just did a great bit with Tina Fey, Julia Louis-Dreyfuss and the blonde from Medium that just won the Oscar for Boyhood (can't remember her name). If you want an excellent laugh and don't mind some obscene language - watch it.
https://www.google.com/search?q=amy+schumer+fuckable&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8 |
Anonymous
Oh baby boomer hate. Surprised it took you so long to get here. The issue is not baby boomers, pp, the issue is how women have been socialized to focus on their looks and then some women have a hard time in old age. This can happen to a woman from any generation. Speaking only for myself, I feel great. Never got attention before so I don't give a damn about it now. |
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When you have baby boomers like Cristy Brinkly who never seem to age, that raises the bar.
Older generations of women weren't expected to still have long flowing blonde hair at the age of 60! |
Anonymous
| I'm 50 and feel invisible. OP is not imagining it. I have grown a circle of lady friends, but my status seems to be invisible in other society. |
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If you cared, you would have done something about it. Just before I turned 49, I started working out 4X a week, getting regular manicures and pedicures and eating better. I look better now than at 45. Empowering. |
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Nonsense. I am in great shape, thin, take amazing care of myself (hair, nails, clothes, etc) and am still invisible to the population in general. It has nothing to do with looking younger when you are 60 and look like you are 50 - 50 is still an invisible age. |
Anonymous
| I am in my late thirties and trying to remember how I "saw" 50+ year old women when I was in my teens and twenties. To be honest, in terms of anonymous strangers, I think they were pretty invisible. (Surely I'm allowed to admit this now that I am heading into this zone myself!) I think they only way they would stand out is great, sharp clothes, fierce style. If there was actually some interaction and we went beyond the superficial, then they would become "visible" to me if they had: power, humor or a warmth and openness to others (i.e. me!). The attributes on the second list are all worth striving for, so I don't think the future is all bleak. |
Anonymous
| I'm 45 and still don't understand what it means to be invisible. Can someone provide some specific examples? |
Anonymous
A 30 year old shoe sales person is gossiping away with another thirty year old. No shoes are getting sold or even being tried on, although there is a heap of shoes surrounding the thirty year old customer. Finally, you interrupt and the sales woman blows you off and keeps on gossiping. You complain and then find another sales person and proceed to buy two pairs of shoes. It gets old. |