Help Me Not Lose My Cool w/ DS's Teacher -- rant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP -just wanted to pipe in and say I believe your post. I am also an adoptive mom and a lot of what you say rings true. Best of luck in finding the right school for your son.

Because that's what trolls do --

[Anonymous]

I can understand people thinking it's a troll post, because it's outrageous the teacher has not initiated contact with me given her seemingly extreme opinion of DS, but this has been just as much of a wake up call to me.

How is it extreme, other than that you disagree with it? She didn't say she felt he was a serial killer, she rated him as substantially more aggressive than others surveyed did. If you expect that a public school teacher would contact you about this, absent evidence that your child is causing significant harm to other students or disruption to the classroom, your expectations about public school and the level of involvement that YOU vs. the teacher need to have with your child are unrealistic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I can understand people thinking it's a troll post, because it's outrageous the teacher has not initiated contact with me given her seemingly extreme opinion of DS, but this has been just as much of a wake up call to me.

How is it extreme, other than that you disagree with it? She didn't say she felt he was a serial killer, she rated him as substantially more aggressive than others surveyed did. If you expect that a public school teacher would contact you about this, absent evidence that your child is causing significant harm to other students or disruption to the classroom, your expectations about public school and the level of involvement that YOU vs. the teacher need to have with your child are unrealistic.

The two bolded things here do not jibe. If he's an aggressive child, it's highly unlikely his is not causing harm to other students or disrupting the classroom. Makes no sense whatsoever.

And yes, if the teacher thinks the child is acting in aggressive way, OF COURSE she should be contacting the parents. You all have some pretty low expectations if you don't think that's the case.

-A teacher

[Anonymous]

OP, have you been able to go in to school and observe your son with this teacher? I think you need to do that.

[Anonymous]

The teacher is with the child all day. "Aggressive" is a relative term. It can range from demanding more attention from others to assaulting others. I imagine if he were hurting others, the mom would have heard. A child can behave differently in a large group than in the home.

[Anonymous]

The teacher is with the child all day. "Aggressive" is a relative term. It can range from demanding more attention from others to assaulting others. I imagine if he were hurting others, the mom would have heard. A child can behave differently in a large group than in the home.