Emotional Affair When You Are Happily Married? Is this Possible?

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Anonymous wrote:What if the emotional affair partner was counseling the wife on how to end the marriage and to seek therapy etc meanwhile teasing her with sexual emails and the like. Does the OM bear any fault in this?

Forgot to mention. The dh had no idea the wife was thinking divorce at all and the couple was making plans etc.

Are you the DH in this case and just found this out or suspect this is the situation, or are you an outside third party that knows this is occurring?

DH

It was a single co worker from work. Total cheeseball.

Do you have kids? Plz tell me no!!

Yes. Two. Ugh. And she is totally in denial. Not doing anything to show remorse.

But it never turned physical? Are you sure??

She adamantly says no. But since I found out we have sex like once a month and it is obligatory. I am really struggling with what to do because for many years we were happy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What if the emotional affair partner was counseling the wife on how to end the marriage and to seek therapy etc meanwhile teasing her with sexual emails and the like. Does the OM bear any fault in this?

Forgot to mention. The dh had no idea the wife was thinking divorce at all and the couple was making plans etc.

Are you the DH in this case and just found this out or suspect this is the situation, or are you an outside third party that knows this is occurring?

DH

It was a single co worker from work. Total cheeseball.

Was he the handsome guy from accounting?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What if the emotional affair partner was counseling the wife on how to end the marriage and to seek therapy etc meanwhile teasing her with sexual emails and the like. Does the OM bear any fault in this?

Forgot to mention. The dh had no idea the wife was thinking divorce at all and the couple was making plans etc.

Are you the DH in this case and just found this out or suspect this is the situation, or are you an outside third party that knows this is occurring?

DH

It was a single co worker from work. Total cheeseball.

Was he the handsome guy from accounting?

That was me that wrote that. He wasn't actually from accounting. And I don't think he's particularly handsome. But metaphorically he was.

[Anonymous]

Is he younger? He wanted her to leave the marriage and he would become a step-father?

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Anonymous wrote:What if the emotional affair partner was counseling the wife on how to end the marriage and to seek therapy etc meanwhile teasing her with sexual emails and the like. Does the OM bear any fault in this?

Forgot to mention. The dh had no idea the wife was thinking divorce at all and the couple was making plans etc.

Are you the DH in this case and just found this out or suspect this is the situation, or are you an outside third party that knows this is occurring?

DH

It was a single co worker from work. Total cheeseball.

Do you have kids? Plz tell me no!!

Yes. Two. Ugh. And she is totally in denial. Not doing anything to show remorse.

But it never turned physical? Are you sure??

She adamantly says no. But since I found out we have sex like once a month and it is obligatory. I am really struggling with what to do because for many years we were happy.

Newest members of the DCUM Sexless Marriage Club.

[Anonymous]

Is that you, DH? Yes, he has been advising me on how to leave the marriage. But I'm not leaving you for him. I am doing it for myself. I don't think he and I will ever have a physical relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is that you, DH? Yes, he has been advising me on how to leave the marriage. But I'm not leaving you for him. I am doing it for myself. I don't think he and I will ever have a physical relationship.

Then why are you leaving the marriage? He also sounds like total scum to advise someone to leave a marriage.

[Anonymous]

Because the marriage was broken to begin with. He didn't advise me to leave, he advised me on how to leave. Big difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is that you, DH? Yes, he has been advising me on how to leave the marriage. But I'm not leaving you for him. I am doing it for myself. I don't think he and I will ever have a physical relationship.

Maybe you all should talk to each other in person instead of hashing it out on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is that you, DH? Yes, he has been advising me on how to leave the marriage. But I'm not leaving you for him. I am doing it for myself. I don't think he and I will ever have a physical relationship.

Maybe you all should talk to each other in person instead of hashing it out on DCUM.

Yeah. Said from someone who hasnt experienced this. Talk is circular.

[Anonymous]

Back to the original question - is it crazy to be happily married and have a solid crush on a friend? Does a sane married person just end the friendship? Is there anyone out there who can and does successfully manage both?

[Anonymous]

End the friendship.

[Anonymous]

End the friendship.