My DH left the house to meet a girl...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He sounds like a skeezeball. Sorry OP, I think meeting a divorce attorney would be appropriate.

quick to judge. Divorce attorney, yes. Sleezeball, I wouldn't be so quick to judge with so LITTLE information. Women. Always think they are always right.

Let me put it this way, you would not have the same visceral feeling if it were a woman who kissed another man while at the "gym." You'd probably still side with the woman.

Stop painting all women with the same brush. It's beyond old.

Uhhh, your face is beyond old.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because he met her out with her friends for drinks. He walked her to her car and kissed her. My DH doesn't drink. He told me he had met her previously and given her his number and they started texting. He told me he told her he was separated. Yesterday he told me she was married and was helping her through a rough time (when i called him out on all the texts--that i saw on VZ-not on his phone) and today he told me that was a lie. She's single and just thought he was a catch. I dont think they had sex but that really is besides the point with this story.

The lies are building already. I'm sorry, OP.

He needs to come clean and be perfectly honest if this marriage is to stand a chance.

He's lucky OP is his wife. Cause I would've fucked TWO different guys by now. That lying fucker!

I fucked my lying, asshole husband's brother AND best friend when I caught him cheating on me.

[Anonymous]

Incognita wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Wait a minute!

Where do you guys live? Cause I hooked up with a married guy twice this week, and we were out till after 1:30. He lied and told me he was separated at first. Then he admitted to being married. He left home late both nights. I asked what story he used to get and stay out so late. The gym , huh?

Is your name Raynella?

Close. But I gave married guy a different name.

Raynella? Really? Is that the slut's name?

Slut? Didn't you just say you are fucking a married man? Lol I'm confused.

Yes, slut.

I'm pissed off on OP's behalf. Didn't stop to think of my wrongdoings. His wife is nameless and faceless to me. He's just a fuck (a damn good one at that).

Ok, I'm the pot calling the kettle black.

[Incognita]

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Incognita wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait a minute!

Where do you guys live? Cause I hooked up with a married guy twice this week, and we were out till after 1:30. He lied and told me he was separated at first. Then he admitted to being married. He left home late both nights. I asked what story he used to get and stay out so late. The gym , huh?

Is your name Raynella?

Close. But I gave married guy a different name.

Raynella? Really? Is that the slut's name?

Slut? Didn't you just say you are fucking a married man? Lol I'm confused.

Yes, slut.

I'm pissed off on OP's behalf. Didn't stop to think of my wrongdoings. His wife is nameless and faceless to me. He's just a fuck (a damn good one at that).

Ok, I'm the pot calling the kettle black.

Lol as long as you realize it, sure it doesn't make much difference to your own situation though. Meh

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Start hiding money. Prepare to exit ...

amen

I assume you are telling her this to hide assets from an imminent split up and divorce?
It is illegal to "hide assets" from divorce procedings

[Anonymous]

Everything can be forgiven with the right context. You need to figure out how much of this you can and cannot forgive and what can be done about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because he met her out with her friends for drinks. He walked her to her car and kissed her. My DH doesn't drink. He told me he had met her previously and given her his number and they started texting. He told me he told her he was separated. Yesterday he told me she was married and was helping her through a rough time (when i called him out on all the texts--that i saw on VZ-not on his phone) and today he told me that was a lie. She's single and just thought he was a catch. I dont think they had sex but that really is besides the point with this story.

Your marriage is in real trouble for three reasons. He told her he was separated which tells me he is looking for more than just sex (wanted a single woman to consider him as potential relationship material). He hung onto their texts which makes me wonder if he saved them to relive their flirty conversations. And he continues to lie to you. getting home past midnight from the so-called gym would be alerting to anyone, especially on a Friday night. Yet, he was willing to risk blowing his cover story to enjoy the moment. How old is she? This sounds like a midlife crisis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because he met her out with her friends for drinks. He walked her to her car and kissed her. My DH doesn't drink. He told me he had met her previously and given her his number and they started texting. He told me he told her he was separated. Yesterday he told me she was married and was helping her through a rough time (when i called him out on all the texts--that i saw on VZ-not on his phone) and today he told me that was a lie. She's single and just thought he was a catch. I dont think they had sex but that really is besides the point with this story.

The lies are building already. I'm sorry, OP.

He needs to come clean and be perfectly honest if this marriage is to stand a chance.

He's lucky OP is his wife. Cause I would've fucked TWO different guys by now. That lying fucker!

I fucked my lying, asshole husband's brother AND best friend when I caught him cheating on me.

Damn, you go hard or go home.lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, OP. Odds are they didn't just kiss.

Ditto. Sorry OP. But a lot more happened and he is still lying to you.

[Anonymous]

Op have you seen the texts? Is there a way to undelete them? When my pos ex was cheating he swore it was nothing too, just making out, jome one woman.I insisted on him opening his email
Accounts I had discovered in front of me . He waffled, refused, and I knew he was lying. Turns out there was a lot more to his story.

1) ask to see the texts
2) ditto his emails
3) tell him if there is any chance of reconciling he has to be totally honest now.
4) know that most cheaters let out the truth in dribs and drabs
5) get into therapy

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It depends if OP's DH is alpha.

If he is, OP has more incentive to stay.

If not, then she won't.

Lol. You MRAs are so sad.

I would say a good 30-35% of women on this board usually agree with me.

Imagine if HRC posted on DCUM 20 years ago....posters would be like "leave him!"

and she wouldn't.

Because BC is the most alpha guy on the planet.

Look at Huma and AW.

It's funny because I think compared to any other town in the country, this one consistently shows this dynamic at work - again and again and again.

So my advice to guys is - don't cheat or step out on your wife (loyalty and supportiveness are the two biggest keys in my book to a long and healthy relationship).

BUT if you want to/do, make sure your value is so high that your wife won't leave you because she knows instinctively that she will never land a guy ever again at your level.

It is less about condoning any actions of people but more of exposing the truths.

Unfortunately PP speaks the truth.

I don't know what it is about DC, but compared to Boston, NYC, SF, or LA I think women here give their men a pass more. I really do. You can't compare it to small town fly over country where a woman might economically need to give a man a pass but I think DC is the worst compared to peer cities in terms of women giving men passes.

I totally agree with you on that but not with the worthless misogynist poster before you. Women in dc definitely turn a blind eye more her than other cities. I also sense less of a sisterhood among the women here than in other major cities, so maybe that has something to do with it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:He sounds like a skeezeball. Sorry OP, I think meeting a divorce attorney would be appropriate.

quick to judge. Divorce attorney, yes. Sleezeball, I wouldn't be so quick to judge with so LITTLE information. Women. Always think they are always right.

Let me put it this way, you would not have the same visceral feeling if it were a woman who kissed another man while at the "gym." You'd probably still side with the woman.

Stop painting all women with the same brush. It's beyond old.

Uhhh, your face is beyond old.

Not the pp, but great comeback dude. What are you, in the third grade?

[Anonymous]

What is a log?

Anyway, if you want to stay in this marriage OP, you are only setting yourself up for a lifetime of heartache and pain each and every day.

Life is to be celebrated and cherished, not to be endured and suffered.

So unfortunately there is no advice I can offer you if you decide to stay with this person. At least nothing solid.

What I can say to you is that I am really sorry for what he did to you and I want to offer you a cyber hug.

You do not deserve this. ;'(

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait a minute!

Where do you guys live? Cause I hooked up with a married guy twice this week, and we were out till after 1:30. He lied and told me he was separated at first. Then he admitted to being married. He left home late both nights. I asked what story he used to get and stay out so late. The gym , huh?

She said she lives McLean.

Then I seriously doubt it's him. Then again, I dunno where he lives . It was a craigslist hook-up. He claimed to live in the same town I do. I was suspicious when he got hotel rooms so close to the neighborhood he claimed to live in. (Then again, he wasn't expecting DW to go out after 11 pm).

I'm now a bit suspicious because I reached out to him about hooking up again this evening snd he hasn't responded. That's not like him.

But I digress. I'm almost certain these are different people.

Forgive me, all.

Carry on.

Uh really lady? You know this guy so well that you only recentky found out he's married. And you still are wanting to hook up. What a pathetic soul you are.

It's Christmas week. He is spending time with his family, ie not YOU.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP. If you believe that they were just kissing past midnight, then you are very naive. See if either of you really want to fix the marriage.