More Attractive: Asshole Jock or Respectful Chess Nerd?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not that confusing - it works for nerds and jocks alike. If the dude is a dick to other guys who are smaller and weaker than him, he's likely to be a dick to you. Don't date him.

Wow, dude, it was HIGH SCHOOL. LET IT GO!!! Seriously, go see "Frozen" and learn that song by heart, sing it at the top of your lungs.

Sure, that hot chick who rejected you in high school might be in the theater with her hot jerk jock husband and their hot jerk jock kids, and think you just as much of a jerk as she did in high school... but it will be liberating.




Seriously though, you need to let this go. There may be so many other reasons she didn't like you, or didn't "see" you, and some may have had to do with you but most had to do with her and her own issues. Not all of high school/college womankind... just that one single girl (or the several girls you knew). Individuals are individuals, with individual issues, strengths and weaknesses. You need to let go of this girl who rejected you way back then, cuz she sure as heck is not thinking about how she should have been smarter right now. Hopefully she did as I'm telling you to do: she learned her lessons and dates much better guys now. And yes, there are better guys who aren't you. Hard as that is for you to accept.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Problem is you're talking about HIGH SCHOOL GIRLS. What do you expect from them? Same with high school boys. Are they going for the shy nerdy girl with straight As?

Late teens and early twenties are women have the most options and fewer mercenary concerns about long term stability. So that's when their choices should be most representative of what they find attractive in a partner they want to have sex with.

Guys remain fairly stable and predictable in what they will say they find sexually attractive in a woman over the years.

So you expect girls to be emotionally smarter and wiser in high school but you let boys off the hook for being driven primarily by looks even if the girl is a b***h? Maybe the reason you were rejected in high school and college is your absurdly flawed reasoning, your double standards, and the fact that you wanted the girl who dated the ass instead of the nerdy girl who probably loved you but you were too shallow to even notice.

+100
I am always amazed how these ugly/short men think they are entitled to beautiful women because they are supposedly smart or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married a respectful chess "nerd" who also takes care of his body. Sexy doesn't equate to a$$ho!e!

Of course, if you go by this forum, many posters think that being an a$$h8!e means alpha male. Those posters can keep those guys. My DH helps the kids with HW, so he wins in my book.

Do you fuck and suck him in ways that most men here fantasize about?

[Anonymous]

There are plenty of Asshole Nerds, and Respectful Jocks, OP. Maybe no tin this area, but they definitely exist.

[Anonymous]

no tin= not in

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

There are plenty of Asshole Nerds, and Respectful Jocks, OP. Maybe no tin this area, but they definitely exist.

I think women are quicker to see what respect is there in the jerks and quicker to see what asshole there is in the nerds. The same action can be "charming" when done by a hot dude and "creepy" when done by a skinny or fat dude.

[Anonymous]

I only ever dated men I *could* marry. Therefore only smart, funny, ambitious men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married a respectful chess "nerd" who also takes care of his body. Sexy doesn't equate to a$$ho!e!

Of course, if you go by this forum, many posters think that being an a$$h8!e means alpha male. Those posters can keep those guys. My DH helps the kids with HW, so he wins in my book.

Do you fuck and suck him in ways that most men here fantasize about?

This statement belongs in the explicit forum, but I agree with the sentiment.
With all the women on here stating (or pretending) it's the nice, respectful guy they would choose, which one would you be having sex with like you were starring in a porn? I'm still betting that type of exciting, no-holds-barred sex is for the asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married a respectful chess "nerd" who also takes care of his body. Sexy doesn't equate to a$$ho!e!

Of course, if you go by this forum, many posters think that being an a$$h8!e means alpha male. Those posters can keep those guys. My DH helps the kids with HW, so he wins in my book.

Do you fuck and suck him in ways that most men here fantasize about?

This statement belongs in the explicit forum, but I agree with the sentiment.
With all the women on here stating (or pretending) it's the nice, respectful guy they would choose, which one would you be having sex with like you were starring in a porn? I'm still betting that type of exciting, no-holds-barred sex is for the asshole.

A good girl can't let herself be bad unless the guy she's with is worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married a respectful chess "nerd" who also takes care of his body. Sexy doesn't equate to a$$ho!e!

Of course, if you go by this forum, many posters think that being an a$$h8!e means alpha male. Those posters can keep those guys. My DH helps the kids with HW, so he wins in my book.

Do you fuck and suck him in ways that most men here fantasize about?

This statement belongs in the explicit forum, but I agree with the sentiment.
With all the women on here stating (or pretending) it's the nice, respectful guy they would choose, which one would you be having sex with like you were starring in a porn? I'm still betting that type of exciting, no-holds-barred sex is for the asshole.

Dude, you need to put your bitter resentment away and move on with your life. Wow, you're sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Problem is you're talking about HIGH SCHOOL GIRLS. What do you expect from them? Same with high school boys. Are they going for the shy nerdy girl with straight As?

Late teens and early twenties are women have the most options and fewer mercenary concerns about long term stability. So that's when their choices should be most representative of what they find attractive in a partner they want to have sex with.

Guys remain fairly stable and predictable in what they will say they find sexually attractive in a woman over the years.

So you expect girls to be emotionally smarter and wiser in high school but you let boys off the hook for being driven primarily by looks even if the girl is a b***h? Maybe the reason you were rejected in high school and college is your absurdly flawed reasoning, your double standards, and the fact that you wanted the girl who dated the ass instead of the nerdy girl who probably loved you but you were too shallow to even notice.

+100
I am always amazed how these ugly/short men think they are entitled to beautiful women because they are supposedly smart or something.

But, but he's a Niiiiiice guy so of course women should fall all over him.........Hate that sentiment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married a respectful chess "nerd" who also takes care of his body. Sexy doesn't equate to a$$ho!e!

Of course, if you go by this forum, many posters think that being an a$$h8!e means alpha male. Those posters can keep those guys. My DH helps the kids with HW, so he wins in my book.

Do you fuck and suck him in ways that most men here fantasize about?

This statement belongs in the explicit forum, but I agree with the sentiment.
With all the women on here stating (or pretending) it's the nice, respectful guy they would choose, which one would you be having sex with like you were starring in a porn? I'm still betting that type of exciting, no-holds-barred sex is for the asshole.

Dude, you need to put your bitter resentment away and move on with your life. Wow, you're sad.

Is this just the typical female response when confronted with the truth that women love nice guys (in the way they love pets), but down and dirty sex is still with the asshole?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married a respectful chess "nerd" who also takes care of his body. Sexy doesn't equate to a$$ho!e!

Of course, if you go by this forum, many posters think that being an a$$h8!e means alpha male. Those posters can keep those guys. My DH helps the kids with HW, so he wins in my book.

Do you fuck and suck him in ways that most men here fantasize about?

This statement belongs in the explicit forum, but I agree with the sentiment.
With all the women on here stating (or pretending) it's the nice, respectful guy they would choose, which one would you be having sex with like you were starring in a porn? I'm still betting that type of exciting, no-holds-barred sex is for the asshole.

Dude, you need to put your bitter resentment away and move on with your life. Wow, you're sad.

Is this just the typical female response when confronted with the truth that women love nice guys (in the way they love pets), but down and dirty sex is still with the asshole?

Agreed. Women claim to only want the nice guy and perhaps they'll even "make love" to him often, but it's still the "alpha male" that gets road head and all the other exciting little things.

[Anonymous]

Please. Go back to Roissy's blog or whatever PUA/MRA hole you crawled from. Don't you have anything better to do than troll DCUM?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I married a respectful chess "nerd" who also takes care of his body. Sexy doesn't equate to a$$ho!e!

Of course, if you go by this forum, many posters think that being an a$$h8!e means alpha male. Those posters can keep those guys. My DH helps the kids with HW, so he wins in my book.

Do you fuck and suck him in ways that most men here fantasize about?

This statement belongs in the explicit forum, but I agree with the sentiment.
With all the women on here stating (or pretending) it's the nice, respectful guy they would choose, which one would you be having sex with like you were starring in a porn? I'm still betting that type of exciting, no-holds-barred sex is for the asshole.

Dude, you need to put your bitter resentment away and move on with your life. Wow, you're sad.

Is this just the typical female response when confronted with the truth that women love nice guys (in the way they love pets), but down and dirty sex is still with the asshole?

Agreed. Women claim to only want the nice guy and perhaps they'll even "make love" to him often, but it's still the "alpha male" that gets road head and all the other exciting little things.

I posted an explanation of this idea earlier in the thread.

If a guy is always playing her fear of rejection and/or abandonment, the relationship will never feel settled or secure. It dooms the relationship, but keeps that early relationship kind of sex going a little longer. She'll play along, unless she's secure and confident.