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Fitting in financially DOES matter, like it or not
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This board has been interesting to read. As an African American, I have race to consider on top of socio-economics and class. It is my deisre for my DC to be able to get along well with presons from all walks of life.
Some will have more and some will have less than him. the sooner you get that the better off you are - it is reality. But I do want him to go to a top private school and to get a top notch education. I know that that means that I will have to make sure that he is involved in other activities that will help him to befriend other youngsters from all walks of life. I already have him involved in helping others (he is 3), and I will have him involved in sports activites and groups that will allow for him to become a well-rounded individual. |
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Anonymous
| You CAN hire your own tutor. Getting any tutoring at all is also completely up to you ... the school cannot require you to do it. But they can strongly encourage it and doing so can affect whether your child can keep up with peers and advance to the next grade on schedule. What I have seen happen is a school trying to hold a child back a year and parents taking child out of the school rather than have that happen. |
Anonymous
| I am a DC area private school 'lifer'. It was clear to me by 2nd or 3rd grade who 'had' and who didn't. |
Anonymous
| Yes, but did it matter? How? |
Anonymous
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Whether you fit probably has a lot to do with how you feel about material things and why you are going to private schools. We are not there yet, kids too young but we also know a number of academic who don't make a lot and feel fine at private school. If you are going because you really believe in the educational benefits, and are comfortable with your own financial standing it seems as though you will be fine.
Some people choose private schools to help their kids achieve more financially. There is nothing wrong with this but if you and your husband are also working more to make money and not happy you are not making what the other families make then I could say problems. |
Anonymous
| I am poster who was fully aware of who had and did not in second/third grade. I was sort of in the middle, but girls (and it was mostly the girls) made fun at others who did not live in a big house with a pool in the backyard. There was definitely a socio-economic divide--and cliques were determined by what you had, at least back then. I mean, after the first round of birthday parties, I felt bad, and kids who had less than I did felt even worse. |
Anonymous
| I am African American and grew up with affluent parents. We lived in this area. I do not (neither do my sisters) make nearly the amount of money that my father made. For some reason, I am tired of the big homes in Bannockburn, and have moved on from that. I have my kids in private school, and I guess they will have a different experience than mine. I was always better off than most, but they will not be among the financial elites. Maybe they will scramble more than my generation did since they will feel deprived? |
Anonymous
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Doesn't sound like a warm community that wants to welome everyone.
Rather like a place with an in-crowd and the others, and a strictly adhered to pecking order. |
Anonymous
| pp, these posts are making a big deal out of things they don't even know about. Some of the "elites" are probably shaking in their pants wondering how they will make their next payment, and the "middle class" ones are comfy with tons of excess cash that they choose not to spend. |