I hate my son's teacher

[Anonymous]

Well these days, it's rare to find teachers who actually inspires

Thank the teachers' unions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Been there. Don't wast time. Have him moved to another class IMMEDIATELY

For those who had their child moved to another class, how did you go about this? I have tried communicating with my son's teacher (he had her last year too) about the things that concern me and she is dismissive, condescending, and unresponsive. In 1.5 years I have only expressed my unhappiness with three major issues, one of which was an untreated injury that happened on her watch. I haven't gone barking to her about the small stuff and I have never gone above her head to the administration. She did something recently that was just over the top and once again blew me off. Now I am thinking of taking it up the chain, though I am nervous about this. (Honestly, I am unhappy with school for other reasons, too, but that's for another thread.) How do you request a new teacher mid-year? How was this received?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well these days, it's rare to find teachers who actually inspires

Unfortunately, this is both sad and true.

[Anonymous]

Well I hate the parents of my students! Be nice to your child's teacher and s/he will be nicer to your child.

[Anonymous]

For those who had their child moved to another class, how did you go about this? I have tried communicating with my son's teacher (he had her last year too) about the things that concern me and she is dismissive, condescending, and unresponsive. In 1.5 years I have only expressed my unhappiness with three major issues, one of which was an untreated injury that happened on her watch. I haven't gone barking to her about the small stuff and I have never gone above her head to the administration. She did something recently that was just over the top and once again blew me off. Now I am thinking of taking it up the chain, though I am nervous about this. (Honestly, I am unhappy with school for other reasons, too, but that's for another thread.) How do you request a new teacher mid-year? How was this received?

I think I would have done this earlier. Two years. Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

For those who had their child moved to another class, how did you go about this? I have tried communicating with my son's teacher (he had her last year too) about the things that concern me and she is dismissive, condescending, and unresponsive. In 1.5 years I have only expressed my unhappiness with three major issues, one of which was an untreated injury that happened on her watch. I haven't gone barking to her about the small stuff and I have never gone above her head to the administration. She did something recently that was just over the top and once again blew me off. Now I am thinking of taking it up the chain, though I am nervous about this. (Honestly, I am unhappy with school for other reasons, too, but that's for another thread.) How do you request a new teacher mid-year? How was this received?

I think I would have done this earlier. Two years. Wow.

I know. I know. I just kept if gong away at trying to make it work for various reasons that have some merit. But I can't deal with it any longer. I know it will be disruptive for DC but what can I do? I so not trust her judgment and have good reason not to. I really wish it were different. I've tried so hard to be flexible and give her room, but in our last conversation it just became clear she has no interest in anyone's perspective but her own. It sucks.

[Anonymous]

As kids gets softer, teachers seem meaner. I don't mean that teachers should be mean but what many kids today consider mean is over the top. With kids believe they should never experience any negative emotion, never be held responsible, be allowed to set their own expectations, and be treated as though they are special - the world around them seems mean. We see that on here - normal child behavior is called bullying, anything that is said that isn't inspiring is mean. if someone disagrees, they are mean. If they say anything that isn't nice, even if it is true it is mean and bullying. Not inviting every child to a birthday party is mean. etc..

The definition of mean has changed a great deal over time. In the past children were expected to be respectful and to see teachers as authority figures who were allowed to set expectations for them. That is now gone.

Adversity build resilience. Now adversity is a bad word, and resilience is vanishing. Kids are growing up to be a 'nation of wimps', with ever increasing mental health problems in early adulthood because they can't handle the pressure or expectations of life. They think the world around them is mean and unfair and they crumble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

For those who had their child moved to another class, how did you go about this? I have tried communicating with my son's teacher (he had her last year too) about the things that concern me and she is dismissive, condescending, and unresponsive. In 1.5 years I have only expressed my unhappiness with three major issues, one of which was an untreated injury that happened on her watch. I haven't gone barking to her about the small stuff and I have never gone above her head to the administration. She did something recently that was just over the top and once again blew me off. Now I am thinking of taking it up the chain, though I am nervous about this. (Honestly, I am unhappy with school for other reasons, too, but that's for another thread.) How do you request a new teacher mid-year? How was this received?

I think I would have done this earlier. Two years. Wow.

I know. I know. I just kept if gong away at trying to make it work for various reasons that have some merit. But I can't deal with it any longer. I know it will be disruptive for DC but what can I do? I so not trust her judgment and have good reason not to. I really wish it were different. I've tried so hard to be flexible and give her room, but in our last conversation it just became clear she has no interest in anyone's perspective but her own. It sucks.

They know you are the nice parent so that is why you got her two years in a row. I made the request a few years ago when DD had a horrible teacher to move classes. Basically, I was told everyone (off the record) felt the same way as I did about the teacher and just to grin and bear it. I realize it was not the answer you wanted. Keeping up with the terrible things this teacher attempted with my DD was a full time job. I was told through the rumor mill that she was almost fired last year and you know how hard it is to fire a teacher. Document everything. Teacher was completely out of control telling my straight A advanced reader that she needed remedial education. I mean I thought are you sure you are talking about my child who had the time was reading at least 1 grade level above..maybe 2 levels above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I hate the parents of my students! Be nice to your child's teacher and s/he will be nicer to your child.

Seriously? If you hate all the parents, there is something wrong. Sure there are some difficult ones, but that is a bold statement. Get help.

[Anonymous]

Ok, it all of them, just 2 or 3 obnoxious, needy, rude ones who make excuses for their child's bad behavior

[Anonymous]

NOT all of them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well I hate the parents of my students! Be nice to your child's teacher and s/he will be nicer to your child.

Seriously? If you hate all the parents, there is something wrong. Sure there are some difficult ones, but that is a bold statement. Get help.

Or find a different career that does not involve working with people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had a teacher I didn't like at a private. She had a preferences for girls (I have a boy), often treating the boys poorly. Ha! She just had a baby boy.

HA! Now that's funny!

The sad reality though is that I'm seeing more and more female educators who dislike boys. I'm not sure what their problem is with boys. Maybe because they have poor relationships with their fathers, were teased by boys, rejected by boys in high or in college. It's like they have penis envy or something. I find teachers like this scary and destructive. Thousands of boys get misdiagnosed and labeled with problems that they don't even have due to male hating staff at their school. I honestly believe that there is a growing push to emasculate and to psychologically castrate boys in many schools.

I doubt that teachers have issues with men in general. But I agree that there are more than a few female elementary school teachers that prefer girls / have issues with boys. Let's face it young boys behave worse than young girls in general and in particular in a classroom setting (don't pay enough attention, restless etc). And young girls are much more likely to want to please / play up to the teacher. It's easy to see dealing with the boys getting to be something that gets on an early grade teacher's nerves. And perhaps when a new class starts and she sees some of the boys displaying these behaviors, the eyes roll and she thinks here we go again and gets turned off by some of the boy students.

I think it is possible this particular situation is getting worse (from a boys / parent of boys perspective). There was more preference for men in the past and perhaps this led to teachers being more willing to put up with and work with the boys ("boys will be boys"). Maybe with things more equal nowadays, the female teachers are less accommodating and more likely to get turned off to boys.

In talking with some of the other parents at our school, there are definitely several teachers who have a not boy friendly reputation. And we live in an upper middle class area where I doubt the boys are that badly behaved. They have been through pre-school, are worked with at home, teachers and education are supported etc.. I mean it is not the blackboard jungle. My son's evaluation has really dropped this year and I do wonder whether it really is his academic performance lagging or whether the marks are behavior influenced.

[Anonymous]

Add me to the hate crowd. I've fought it all fall, but I give in.

[Anonymous]

We had great teachers for K and 1st grade. The 2nd grade teacher is driving us crazy. Turned in homework assignments go missing. Randomly met another parent who had this teacher before who said they finally started taking pictures of their kid's homework assignments. Daily behavior grades of C, when his K, 1st grade, art, PE, music, after care, and every other teacher he's ever had said he's great. He does talk a lot and has a lot of energy, so if this were the only issue, we'd let it go. BUT ... I swear I've caught her in at least 2 lies, including a lie about behavior grades are generated, when we asked for clarification. Plus, she's so boring and only knows how to teach things one way. I sat in on her class once and watched 5 kids answer a question wrong, while she kept trying to explain it the same way. After that, we got our son a tutor. We've also noticed that the behavior grades started dipping into the C's only after we started asking questions about assignments and common core (note: we thought we were asking politely). After trying to meet with his teacher, we've now had several meetings with the principal and have asked that our son be moved, but the principal seems unwilling to do so. Had the nerve to tell us that his teacher really wants to keep him in her class, to which we said that has nothing to do with what is in our son's best interest. So hard not to get emotional over these issues when it's your little one. Can't wait for 2nd grade to be over. Seriously considering moving our son to private school. Please tell me it's better there.