I hate my son's teacher

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I took an immediate dislike to my son's second grade teacher. I brushed it off as her just having a different personality than mine. My son had a horrible year. The teacher had no control over the classroom (confirmed by a guidance counselor I asked to observe my son after he was coming home miserable for months on end) and my child learned nothing.

Thankfully, things were turned about by an amazing 3rd grade teacher and he is now back on track and happy, but I will always, always feel bad that I didn't speak up earlier.

Please do something.

Very, very, very, very hard to think your post is accurate. I don't see the guidance counselor would tell a parent that the teacher had no control over the classroom. Either your are greatly reading between the lines or this didn't happen.

[Anonymous]

Former teacher, I'm not saying it didn't happen, but that would be quite unprofessional on the part of the counselor.

[Anonymous]

The counselor did not use those exact words, but infer from this what you will:

(I was on the verge of having him assessed for sensory issues, which is why I called in the guidance counselor to begin with.) She observed for a day and then called me to say "It's not him. It's an extremely loud classroom with distractions that aren't normal. We will be getting Ms. XXX some additional help."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The counselor did not use those exact words, but infer from this what you will:

(I was on the verge of having him assessed for sensory issues, which is why I called in the guidance counselor to begin with.) She observed for a day and then called me to say "It's not him. It's an extremely loud classroom with distractions that aren't normal. We will be getting Ms. XXX some additional help."

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I don't read it as you did. You had a beef with the teacher so interpret or that the counselor agreed. I think the counselor saw that other kids in the class required additional services.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had a teacher I didn't like at a private. She had a preferences for girls (I have a boy), often treating the boys poorly. Ha! She just had a baby boy.

HA! Now that's funny!

The sad reality though is that I'm seeing more and more female educators who dislike boys. I'm not sure what their problem is with boys. Maybe because they have poor relationships with their fathers, were teased by boys, rejected by boys in high or in college. It's like they have penis envy or something. I find teachers like this scary and destructive. Thousands of boys get misdiagnosed and labeled with problems that they don't even have due to male hating staff at their school. I honestly believe that there is a growing push to emasculate and to psychologically castrate boys in many schools.

Amen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I took an immediate dislike to my son's second grade teacher. I brushed it off as her just having a different personality than mine. My son had a horrible year. The teacher had no control over the classroom (confirmed by a guidance counselor I asked to observe my son after he was coming home miserable for months on end) and my child learned nothing.

Thankfully, things were turned about by an amazing 3rd grade teacher and he is now back on track and happy, but I will always, always feel bad that I didn't speak up earlier.

Please do something.

+1. It took me 7 months to figure out that my son's PS3 teacher was a destructive bitch who doesn't like boys. Once I figured it out I pulled him from her class and told her to go to hell. His behavior improved dramatically after he was out from under that witch's thumb. I still have massive guilt about how much we listened to her and trusted her when she was the problem all along.

[Anonymous]

I agree, I have seen some of these parents of such Very Special Children and they tend to forget that the teacher must also teach OUR wonderful children as well. Let the teacher do her job and let your child see that their are other chikdren as amazing as s/he is.
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Anonymous wrote:Just my sympathy, OP. I hate my son's teacher, too.

My sympathy as well. We had the k teacher from h**L! And a 3dr grade treacher we still think we can presecute for child abuse. Very difficult. We did not think that every child was special, but we did feel that no child deserved to be screamed at.

Here's a tip: When you're continually encountering teachers from hell, YOU and your child are the common denominator. You may be reaching the wrong conclusions.

[Anonymous]

When my daughter was in 3rd, other parents complained about her teacher yelling. I asked her about it. She said, "Oh, Mom, she only yells at those who deserve it!" Maybe that says something about my parenting style.......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The counselor did not use those exact words, but infer from this what you will:

(I was on the verge of having him assessed for sensory issues, which is why I called in the guidance counselor to begin with.) She observed for a day and then called me to say "It's not him. It's an extremely loud classroom with distractions that aren't normal. We will be getting Ms. XXX some additional help."

To be fair, maybe Ms. XXX had a couple of Really Bad Kids that year.

[Anonymous]

To be fair, maybe Ms. XXX had a couple of Really Bad Kids that year.

Happens. One year I had a class that was practically perfect. All parents loved me, and we got lots done. Next year, I had a lot of requests to be in my class--and I had the class from Hell.

[Anonymous]

These people proclaiming that it must be the parents are crazy. Just like every other profession, there are good teachers and abolutely crazy teachers. There are good parents and absolutely crazy parents. My daughter had a 3rd grade teacher that hated her -- bullied and picked on her to no end. We prayed that my son would not get the same teacher but he did. Guess what, she favored my son completely, even gave him special presents, probably the nicest teacher he has ever had. And even though though the teacher spent a lot of time with my kids, I know them a hundred times better than her and lets just say that my daughter is much more deserving of teachers pet status. So it was just her quirk, maybe she likes boys better who knows. But for sure teachers have huge unjustifed bias and if you are on the wrong end of it, that can be very painful and I feel for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These people proclaiming that it must be the parents are crazy. Just like every other profession, there are good teachers and abolutely crazy teachers. There are good parents and absolutely crazy parents. My daughter had a 3rd grade teacher that hated her -- bullied and picked on her to no end. We prayed that my son would not get the same teacher but he did. Guess what, she favored my son completely, even gave him special presents, probably the nicest teacher he has ever had. And even though though the teacher spent a lot of time with my kids, I know them a hundred times better than her and lets just say that my daughter is much more deserving of teachers pet status. So it was just her quirk, maybe she likes boys better who knows. But for sure teachers have huge unjustifed bias and if you are on the wrong end of it, that can be very painful and I feel for you.

You know your kids but you don't know your kids at school. Lots of kids act differently around their parents than they do at school or around others. just like your husband and your boss would probably describe you somewhat differently. Even though your husband knows you better it doesn't immediately nullify your boss's perceptions as you may very well present differently at work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The counselor did not use those exact words, but infer from this what you will:

(I was on the verge of having him assessed for sensory issues, which is why I called in the guidance counselor to begin with.) She observed for a day and then called me to say "It's not him. It's an extremely loud classroom with distractions that aren't normal. We will be getting Ms. XXX some additional help."

Um yeah I think you read way into it and came to your own conclusion based on your dislike of the teacher. It's fine if you didn't love her, but making an assumption about her classroom control skills based on such a vague statement (that you didn't actually corroborate) is unfair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just my sympathy, OP. I hate my son's teacher, too.

My sympathy as well. We had the k teacher from h**L! And a 3dr grade treacher we still think we can presecute for child abuse. Very difficult. We did not think that every child was special, but we did feel that no child deserved to be screamed at.

Here's a tip: When you're continually encountering teachers from hell, YOU and your child are the common denominator. You may be reaching the wrong conclusions.

My son had a first grade assistant from hell and a third grade teacher who was eventually fired. My son has had wonderful teachers otherwise. So, no

[Anonymous]

As much as there are outstanding teachers who are committed to provide their best, there are horrible teachers who will make your child miserable regardless of how your child behaves. Trust me there are also bully teachers. As much as good teachers need to be praised for their good work, school need to take it seriously on issues where children are mistreated and abused emotionally by their teachers. School should be a place for children to grow , not to be punished and fail. The sad thing is that some teachers pass their hate to other teachers and you iPod end up having problems every year as this keeps on rolling over to next years. I am not saying all teachers will listen to a previous teacher, but there is a high tendency that some teachers talk and support one another , no matter what.