I hate my son's teacher

[Anonymous]

As much as there are outstanding teachers who are committed to provide their best, there are horrible teachers who will make your child miserable regardless of how your child behaves. Trust me there are also bully teachers. As much as good teachers need to be praised for their good work, school need to take it seriously on issues where children are mistreated and abused emotionally by their teachers. School should be a place for children to grow , not to be punished and fail. The sad thing is that some teachers pass their hate to other teachers and you iPod end up having problems every year as this keeps on rolling over to next years. I am not saying all teachers will listen to a previous teacher, but there is a high tendency that some teachers talk and support one another , no matter what.

Of course, teachers talk. But, believe me, every teacher thinks he/she can handle the child better than the other teacher. I think you'd better look at the kid a little more closely.

[Anonymous]

My children had some teachers who loved them and some, not so much. Teachers are people, too.

[Anonymous]

You we've had both extremes. The thing is as annoyed as I get with teachers who clearly cannot stand my children, their complaints have not been that far of base. It's just some people have more tolerance for my kids' brand of cray cray than others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child is a very compliant 2nd grader. His teacher is a bitch! I don't care what my son does, it is wrong in her eyes. She has even told him that his parents would hate his art work!! I am ready to rip her apart. I feel it is every teachers job to make a child feel special. Sometimes that is the only person that will. Teaching is a chosen profession. No one put a gun to this lady's head and made her pick that degree. I am venting here because I need to vent to someone before I vent to her!

No, that's not the teacher's job. The teacher's job is to educate, not to make anyone feel "special."

This ^^^

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

As much as there are outstanding teachers who are committed to provide their best, there are horrible teachers who will make your child miserable regardless of how your child behaves. Trust me there are also bully teachers. As much as good teachers need to be praised for their good work, school need to take it seriously on issues where children are mistreated and abused emotionally by their teachers. School should be a place for children to grow , not to be punished and fail. The sad thing is that some teachers pass their hate to other teachers and you iPod end up having problems every year as this keeps on rolling over to next years. I am not saying all teachers will listen to a previous teacher, but there is a high tendency that some teachers talk and support one another , no matter what.

Of course, teachers talk. But, believe me, every teacher thinks he/she can handle the child better than the other teacher. I think you'd better look at the kid a little more closely.

In some cases the child does not even need any handling. It is just a personal hatered to parents or gossip that is vented out on the children. Some schools and teachers don't like parents who ask or advocates for thier children They coudl take it personally and try to damagae your child as much as they can.Very sad!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
+2
from a parent whose kids are taught not to blame the teachers

We teach our children to respect teachers and themselves.

Usually, those values are consistent with each other. In one instance, it was not and a teacher was having a seriously adverse impact on my child's education. We demanded a transfer and the school eventually obliged. At that time we found out complaints against this woman were legion. She called kids stupid in front of each other, refused to show up during her scheduled after-school hours, and declined to respond to any emails in which we sought to enlist her advice or guidance. We were newcomers, so we did not know the lengths to which other kids and families go to avoid this woman.

We have no regrets. Our kids have had dozens of teachers. In this one case we told the school the teacher was unacceptable and that they would place our child in a new class or we would withdraw our child and retain counsel. After we raised hell, a counselor told us about the teacher's history and said they are all waiting for her to retire or die. Either would have been acceptible to us; leaving our child in her class was not.

Until you come across a teacher like this, you really should not get on your high horse. And if you are a teacher, and support a colleague who behaves like this, you have no business in the profession, either.

When do you think teachers have time to see their colleagues in action in the classroom? You can work for years with someone and never know how he/she behaves in a classroom or with parents. Put the blame on the administrators, please. Most of us are there just trying to do our OWN jobs to the best of our abilities.

[Anonymous]

Years ago a parent blamed me because her 4th grade daughter was not one of the "popular kids" in her classroom.
This was in an American school overseas. This particular family was from Bethesda.
Being in my early 20's I was first confused at this allegation. We then had to meet in the principal's office. I learned that the student did not appreciate me speaking French with the francophone kids during lunch. The mom continued to say that all the boys liked one of the French girls. She also said had I not been playing favorites, her daughter would have been popular with the boys too.
I looked at her and flatly told her that instead of blaming me, she should put her overweight kid on a diet.
Needless to say my principal was quite upset with me. The mom pulled the girl out of the school (there was only one 4th grade class) and went back to Bethesda.
The one thing I learned from this bizarre incident was to make sure not to show any kind of favoritism to any student.

[Anonymous]

Been there. Don't wast time. Have him moved to another class IMMEDIATELY

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Years ago a parent blamed me because her 4th grade daughter was not one of the "popular kids" in her classroom.
This was in an American school overseas. This particular family was from Bethesda.
Being in my early 20's I was first confused at this allegation. We then had to meet in the principal's office. I learned that the student did not appreciate me speaking French with the francophone kids during lunch. The mom continued to say that all the boys liked one of the French girls. She also said had I not been playing favorites, her daughter would have been popular with the boys too.
I looked at her and flatly told her that instead of blaming me, she should put her overweight kid on a diet.
Needless to say my principal was quite upset with me. The mom pulled the girl out of the school (there was only one 4th grade class) and went back to Bethesda.
The one thing I learned from this bizarre incident was to make sure not to show any kind of favoritism to any student.[/quot

Wow. You really said that? We all make mistakes in our twenties I guess. Unbelievable parents though!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a teacher I didn't like at a private. She had a preferences for girls (I have a boy), often treating the boys poorly. Ha! She just had a baby boy.

HA! Now that's funny!

The sad reality though is that I'm seeing more and more female educators who dislike boys. I'm not sure what their problem is with boys. Maybe because they have poor relationships with their fathers, were teased by boys, rejected by boys in high or in college. It's like they have penis envy or something. I find teachers like this scary and destructive. Thousands of boys get misdiagnosed and labeled with problems that they don't even have due to male hating staff at their school. I honestly believe that there is a growing push to emasculate and to psychologically castrate boys in many schools.

Amen.

You know I have thought this, but never said it. I don't think it's penis envy . I do suspect they have difficult relationships with men. Every good teacher my son has had is either the mom of boys, has a close relationship with father and brothers or is happily in a relationship with a man. Doubt there is any research out there.

The thing is I've seen a split with made teachers. Some are godsends and some seem to get into battles of will as they try to establish dominance.

[Anonymous]

MALE not Made...sorry about that

[Anonymous]

Tape record the teacher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tape record the teacher.

I think that is only legal if you tell them you are recording right?

[Anonymous]

I have recently noticed that being a mean teacher seems to be an acceptable practice. I went to Catholic school as a young child. Lots of mean teachers and nobody said anything. Then parents in my generation got very sensitive and objected to everything. I feel like now we don't know what to do.

We don't want to be like our parents and tell our kids to suck it up but we don't want to be THAT parent who objects to everything.

We had a great experience at our school last year. Yes the teacher yelled. Yes this was upsetting to my child (even though he wasn't really getting yelled at). He loved his teacher though. He learned a lot. We as parents stayed out of it. No teacher is perfect and this teacher had way too many positive qualities for us to stick our noses in.

HOWEVER - this year my son's teacher has been out more than she has been there. She is not keeping up with what the other teachers in the grade are doing. She seems to have favorite students. If those kids complain, the others are punished even if she hasn't seen anything happen.

This is not an easy job. However, teachers have a responsibility to be professional. If we say customer service reps are bad at their job when they are rude, why do we accept if from teachers? There is more to their job than hugs and smiles but with young kids, being obnoxious turns them off of learning completely.

Teachers need to stop thinking they can do no wrong and parents need to stop thinking teachers can do no right.

Nothing excuses a teacher who is mean to a child. To the person who said it is the parent and child's fault if they have had more than one bad teacher --- It's possible to get more than one mean teacher. How is it the parent's fault? Well if you insist on placing blame, then the parent trusted the school too much and should have insisted on their child being placed with a certain teacher.

I will no longer just take what we get. A bad teacher means a lost school year. While my child is young, I will research who the good teachers are for the next year and make it clear that if my child gets the "bad" teacher, the Principal is going to have to deal with me a lot.

This phases out as kids get older. Don't tell me 5,6, 7 year old kids should just suck it up. I'm not buying that at all!

[Anonymous]

Well these days, it's rare to find teachers who actually inspires