I hate my son's teacher

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please spell out what makes a lawyer awful. --a teacher who wants to know

A few I've seen.
1. Laziness - no updates to let you know if your case is moving forward
2. Lack of enthusiasm, like each day is another day at the office.
3. playing favorites

I've seen so many good lawyers too, so those with the above traits above stick out like a sore thumb.

seriously, folks?

such a waste of energy on teachers

We do a job. Some of us shine; other don't. Same can be said for people in OTHER professions.

the teacher asked what some of us parents think makes a teacher awful. It's the schools and education discussion subforum.

Clearly I understood the question, but since you're so limited, let me explain my response.

There IS no magic to teaching. As in other professions, if you work hard by planning, meeting deadlines, keeping lines of communication open and knowing your "client/customer," you'll outdo your colleagues trying to coast by doing the minimum.

got it?

ha ha.*laughs nervously* we got it. heh.

[Anonymous]

Our school had one teacher who thought Boston was a state. That's a bad teacher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a lawyer. If my clients don't like my services, they can fire me and hire a new lawyer. They don't have to discuss it with me. They can call me or send me a note or just go hire someone else and the new lawyer can contact me. When my child is having a bad year in school because her teacher has 0 classroom control skills or repeatedly tells students to "shut up" or ridicules them openly in class or forgets to keep a record grades and gives kids zeroes instead of admitting that she lost a stack of tests, I can't fire that teacher and go find a new one. My kid is stuck for a school year. There are LOADS of bad lawyers. LOADS of them. Statistically, there are probably fewer bad teachers than there are bad lawyers, but lawyers are much easier to get rid off and they don't have as high an impact on kids.

Excellent point.

[Anonymous]

I get that there are bad teachers out there (as I work with a few) but there are definitely parents out there who absolutely refuse to accept that their child may be at fault and not be a perfect little angel. As a teacher, I have dealt with this, with one kid in particular, who year after year causes problems for every teacher that she has, and when her mother was confronted about this she had an excuse for why it was each teacher's fault every time. I mean come on, there has to be a collaboration of effort between the parent and the teacher, and some parents just think it's the teachers' job to raise their kids for them.

[Anonymous]

My name is Jane Doe, and I also hate my child's teacher. Ok maybe hate is a bit strong... No, it's not. I do hate her. My child is special needs -- high on the Autism Sepctrum -- and he does have some traits that are annoying. We work with him, have him on meds (which believe me, if he weren't, she'd know what a walk in the park he is on them), take him to therapy, and have jumped through all the hoops she asks of us, but she makes passive agressive remarks, the most recent, "I don't want to take you on the field trip because you can't follow directions." Yes, I hate her... And to all you teachers who cannot teach with kindness, may you be cursed with a whole classroom of "misbehaved" children next year and all the years of your teaching career.

[Anonymous]

We have had our share of good teachers, a couple of fantastic teachers, and two really terrible ones between our three kids. I am a teacher and I have also had a ton of good parents that collaborate well, a few amazing parents that volunteered and made a true difference in my classroom, and a couple of parents that were impossible. I agree though, as a parent I can not fire the teacher and as a teacher I can not fire a parent. Sadly, this is life. I just keep remembering that the scale has balanced in the positive side and hope my kids will learn how to negotiate a world that is filled with mostly good and a touch of not so good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you should talk with her, and ask her what's going on. It is NOT a teacher's job to make a child feel special. It's a teacher's job to teach material to their students. Maybe he was goofing off and then scrambling at the last minute to complete an art assignment and thus, did a half-assed job that he shouldn't be proud of.

It is a teacher's job to not just teach but to make children feel special and to build their confidence as they grow and learn. By being mean, overly strict and being the "leather strap" type of teacher is bullying and greatly affects a child's confidence and that hinders their development and overall learning experience. Whether or not this specific child was goofing off, there is no reason for the teacher to say that parents would hate his art. Teaching is not a chore, it is a gift. Unfortunately some people, such as those with beliefs such as yourself, have chosen the wrong paths in life and take it out on others. Children do not need to suffer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My child is a very compliant 2nd grader. His teacher is a bitch! I don't care what my son does, it is wrong in her eyes. She has even told him that his parents would hate his art work!! I am ready to rip her apart. I feel it is every teachers job to make a child feel special. Sometimes that is the only person that will. Teaching is a chosen profession. No one put a gun to this lady's head and made her pick that degree. I am venting here because I need to vent to someone before I vent to her!

Why do I - for some odd reason - think you're an enabler who thinks her "compliant" son shits out roses and chocolates?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My name is Jane Doe, and I also hate my child's teacher. Ok maybe hate is a bit strong... No, it's not. I do hate her. My child is special needs -- high on the Autism Sepctrum -- and he does have some traits that are annoying. We work with him, have him on meds (which believe me, if he weren't, she'd know what a walk in the park he is on them), take him to therapy, and have jumped through all the hoops she asks of us, but she makes passive agressive remarks, the most recent, "I don't want to take you on the field trip because you can't follow directions." Yes, I hate her... And to all you teachers who cannot teach with kindness, may you be cursed with a whole classroom of "misbehaved" children next year and all the years of your teaching career.

If he's on the spectrum, he should be in a co-taught class, which would be - by your description of him - the least restrictive environment. Are you forcing the issue and mainstreaming him w/o much support? He seems misplaced.

If he's the only one who's constantly not following directions, and he's in a class with a teacher who doesn't have the methods, then perhaps he's in the wrong environment.

[Anonymous]

A teacher who has to spend half her day with one child is depriving the other children of an education. Is that what is happening here. I have been a teacher-before there was so much help in the classroom. One child can destroy a class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My child is a very compliant 2nd grader. His teacher is a bitch! I don't care what my son does, it is wrong in her eyes. She has even told him that his parents would hate his art work!! I am ready to rip her apart. I feel it is every teachers job to make a child feel special. Sometimes that is the only person that will. Teaching is a chosen profession. No one put a gun to this lady's head and made her pick that degree. I am venting here because I need to vent to someone before I vent to her!

No, that's not the teacher's job. The teacher's job is to educate, not to make anyone feel "special."

[Anonymous]

I had a teacher I didn't like at a private. She had a preferences for girls (I have a boy), often treating the boys poorly. Ha! She just had a baby boy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a teacher I didn't like at a private. She had a preferences for girls (I have a boy), often treating the boys poorly. Ha! She just had a baby boy.

HA! Now that's funny!

The sad reality though is that I'm seeing more and more female educators who dislike boys. I'm not sure what their problem is with boys. Maybe because they have poor relationships with their fathers, were teased by boys, rejected by boys in high or in college. It's like they have penis envy or something. I find teachers like this scary and destructive. Thousands of boys get misdiagnosed and labeled with problems that they don't even have due to male hating staff at their school. I honestly believe that there is a growing push to emasculate and to psychologically castrate boys in many schools.

[Anonymous]

As a teacher, I cannot say that I preferred one or the other. The boys were more rambunctious, but often easier to deal with.

[Anonymous]

I took an immediate dislike to my son's second grade teacher. I brushed it off as her just having a different personality than mine. My son had a horrible year. The teacher had no control over the classroom (confirmed by a guidance counselor I asked to observe my son after he was coming home miserable for months on end) and my child learned nothing.

Thankfully, things were turned about by an amazing 3rd grade teacher and he is now back on track and happy, but I will always, always feel bad that I didn't speak up earlier.

Please do something.