Did I act like a jerk in this situation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. In order to answer tge question many are aaking about whether I paid extra for the seat, i have to reveal that i was the pregnant lady in this scenario. I framed the post differently to avoid the nastiness and ridicule about me being nervous as a FTM on my first flight pregnant, and wanting to sit next to DH.
So, i dont know if the guy paid extra for the seat but I didn't -- i iust "lucked into it," as a PP said. So perhaps he did, too.

Also, as soon as we realized that we were not seated totether, we tried to change it at both check-in AND at the gate, and both times we were advised to just ask a fellow passenger to switch.

Obviously, i feel that the guy was not required to change seats, but that it would have been the classy and kind thing to do. I certainly would have done it if i had been asked.

How entitled are you? And to call the guy a jerk in this roundabout way. Shame on you.

[Anonymous]

What the hell does being pregnant have to do with anything? Did that make you incapable of sitting by yourself? That guy did nothing wrong OP and you're kind of a jerk for assuming he did. (And yes, I already posted that I think he did nothing wrong, but I'm doubling it up now that I know OP is an entitled jerk.)

[Anonymous]

OP congratulations on your pregnancy. We have routinely run into issues with our seat assignments, I always book well in advance, make sure the seats are together and somehow the airlines mess it up when we check in and change the assignments leaving our kids sitting by themselves (it's tempting to just leave it that way at times )

I understand that it was disappointing that he did not want to switch seats with your husband, but chances are he paid for the seat. I don't get why so many people are jumping on your husband for asking... it's worth a try!

It would have been kind if he had switched seats, but it wasn't unclassy nor was it unreasonable that he did not.

[Anonymous]

Why didn't you just ask your question honestly in the beginning? Is it because you thought the responses would have been different? I don't think they would have been, and I think it was silly to do that.

[Anonymous]

OP, why didn't you offer to switch with the person seated next to your husband in the row without the extra space?

[Anonymous]

OP, I don't think your comfort is more important than anyone else's. I don't think another passenger should have to sacrifice his extra leg room (whether he paid for it or not) because of poor planning on your part or even just bad luck from the airline. It might be a different story if a small child was separated from a parent, because the small child needs the parent during the flight. You are an adult and if you are really incapable of flying alone without your husband, you should have made alternative arrangements to ensure that you sit next to each other, or use an alternative mode of transportation.

Essentially, you wanted someone else to sacrifice their comfort for your own simply because you are pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. In order to answer tge question many are aaking about whether I paid extra for the seat, i have to reveal that i was the pregnant lady in this scenario. I framed the post differently to avoid the nastiness and ridicule about me being nervous as a FTM on my first flight pregnant, and wanting to sit next to DH.
So, i dont know if the guy paid extra for the seat but I didn't -- i iust "lucked into it," as a PP said. So perhaps he did, too.

Also, as soon as we realized that we were not seated totether, we tried to change it at both check-in AND at the gate, and both times we were advised to just ask a fellow passenger to switch.

Obviously, i feel that the guy was not required to change seats, but that it would have been the classy and kind thing to do. I certainly would have done it if i had been asked.

OK, well my point is the same. The other person could have moved to be nice, but wasn't obligated to. I would have moved, but others obviously wouldn't have. Agree though that if you were very nervous, you should have made other arrangements. Seems like you weren't, but just preferred to sit with your husband. OK, well it didn't work out, and seems people are split on what 'should' have happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. In order to answer tge question many are aaking about whether I paid extra for the seat, i have to reveal that i was the pregnant lady in this scenario. I framed the post differently to avoid the nastiness and ridicule about me being nervous as a FTM on my first flight pregnant, and wanting to sit next to DH.
So, i dont know if the guy paid extra for the seat but I didn't -- i iust "lucked into it," as a PP said. So perhaps he did, too.

Also, as soon as we realized that we were not seated totether, we tried to change it at both check-in AND at the gate, and both times we were advised to just ask a fellow passenger to switch.

Obviously, i feel that the guy was not required to change seats, but that it would have been the classy and kind thing to do. I certainly would have done it if i had been asked.

Why didn't you get assigned seats when you bought the tickets?

We did -- we did it online, but when we got to check-in, they had no record of us making seat assignment requests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, why didn't you offer to switch with the person seated next to your husband in the row without the extra space?

Because it was two people traveling together (a mother and son).

[Anonymous]

You are an adult woman who is going to be someone's mother soon. If you can't sit by yourself on a flight, something is seriously wrong here.

[Anonymous]

10:43 here again, and OP, now to answer your original question "did I act like a jerk in this situation?" My answer to that, is: Well, I don't know exactly how YOU acted in this particular situation, but you certainly seemed to have acted like a jerk afterward. I still stand by my opinion that this should have had NOTHING to do with the fact that you were pregnant. Women who feel like they're entitled to all kinds of special treatment because they're pregnant drive me crazy.

[Anonymous]

Why does being pregnant mean you need to sit next to your DH? How pregnant are you; if you aren't comfortable flying alone then perhaps you shouldn't be flying.

Can you articulate why you felt you needed to sit next to your husband anymore than any other married couple?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why didn't you offer to switch with the person seated next to your husband in the row without the extra space?

Because it was two people traveling together (a mother and son).

So what? You are pregnant! You come first! You you you!

[Anonymous]

Reading some of the responses here makes me feel like crying for our society. There are so few people left who will do something for the simple reason that it's a nice thing to do for another person. It's all about me, me me, it's my "right," etc.
I hope that this forum doesn't represent society as a whole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are an adult woman who is going to be someone's mother soon. If you can't sit by yourself on a flight, something is seriously wrong here.

I was wondering this too, though I would've phrased it a little gentler.

Can you explain why you wanted/needed to sit next to your husband?