Yet another post about 5-6 year old boys in the women's changing/bathroom at the pool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe people are saying that changing your clothes in the locker room is equivalent to public nudity. I don't like my girls to stay in their wet swimsuits because it fosters infections, for me too. So we do rinse off showers and change. I also workout at the community center in the mornings, take a shower and change. Where the heck am I supposed to change if it's not right there in the locker room? This makes no sense to me. I had no idea people were judgmentally thinking we were doing something wrong by changing our clothes in the locker room for heavens sake.

People look at things differently.

For you, it's natural to completely take your clothes off and strip your child down in a public setting because you feel that is what the room is for. Others are doing the same thing, so what's the big deal? To me, I can think of several ways to address changing if necessary, that don't involve exposing my bare breasts, vagina, or the parts of my children to strangers who have no business glancing even if it's unintentional.

You think it's fine, because that is what most people do. I think it's bizarre, and sends a mixed message. We look at things differently and really, I don't see anything changing that.

For myself, I don't strip down completely naked, and I certainly don't expose my vagina to anyone. I cover up with a towel as best I can while I dress. While putting on my panties, I cover myself with my towel and such. For my dd's who are 4 and 6, I don't go to such lengths, but again, I certainly don't expose their vagina to anyone. I think you have some issues.

Thank you for your unsolicited opinion on my personality. With those savvy skills, I'm surprised that you didn't observe that if that is how you proceed, then I am not really addressing you....am I?

[Anonymous]

Do you ever think about how the other women in the locker room feel? Perhaps they don't want someone's 2 year old staring at their naked bodies when they're trying to change. But it's all about your kid and who cares about anyone else.

You're right. I'll either blind him next time, or send him into the men's locker room and hope that some random guy will help take off his suit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Do you ever think about how the other women in the locker room feel? Perhaps they don't want someone's 2 year old staring at their naked bodies when they're trying to change. But it's all about your kid and who cares about anyone else.

You're right. I'll either blind him next time, or send him into the men's locker room and hope that some random guy will help take off his suit.

Gee, maybe you could give him a small book or toy to avert his attention? No you're right, the only option would be to blind him.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I don't care if you bring your son into women's changing room if there are no family room, if my immodesty doesn't bother your son - I will be naked there doing my thing in all my middle aged beauty.

[Anonymous]

I'm an Asian immigrant, Korean. Being naked around kids doesn't bother me. Traditionally, we have bath houses where it's segregated by sex but kids, preadolescents, boys and girls, go with their mothers. Yeah, it's normal to see all your neighbors, moms and kids, naked. No big deal.

[Anonymous]

OMG. I think all of you are insane. Where do you people live? We've been members at two different community pools and both of them are pretty quiet - like maybe 15 people there at most at any given time. Both places had curtained changing stalls off to the side. No signs posted about what age anyone needs to be anywhere.

My son just turned 5 a week ago. I'm fine letting him go into the men's room to go to the bathroom. He actually insisted earlier this summer. He came out with his trunks around his ankles asking for help to pull his pants up.

I guess if any of you were there, your eyes would have melted in your skulls and your daughters would have died of shame and humiliation at seeing a 4 year old's penis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Do you ever think about how the other women in the locker room feel? Perhaps they don't want someone's 2 year old staring at their naked bodies when they're trying to change. But it's all about your kid and who cares about anyone else.

You're right. I'll either blind him next time, or send him into the men's locker room and hope that some random guy will help take off his suit.

You are a stupid woman if you let your child just sit and stare at other women while changing.. Have some parenting capabilities and tell your precious DC it's rude to stare. I don't give a shit if he is 2 teaching manners early on works wonders but apparently your parents failed with you.

[Anonymous]

This is 13:46 posting in response to the question posed by the PP about what my husband does when he has our daughter out with him and she needs to go to the bathroom. She is 10, he drops her off at the door of the ladies room and points out a spot for her to wait for him when she is done if he needs to go too. When she was too little to go by herself, he took her to the mens room and called out something like Dad with daughter when they walked in and then he typically carried her to a stall. If anyone was using the urinals, he had her close her eyes and tuck into his shoulder so as not to embarrass any of the men using the bathroom.

At the rec center or the gym pool, he took her to the family locker room when she was little. Now she gets herself changed and meets him on the other side. And he takes her to at least one swim practice per week from September to June.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe people are saying that changing your clothes in the locker room is equivalent to public nudity. I don't like my girls to stay in their wet swimsuits because it fosters infections, for me too. So we do rinse off showers and change. I also workout at the community center in the mornings, take a shower and change. Where the heck am I supposed to change if it's not right there in the locker room? This makes no sense to me. I had no idea people were judgmentally thinking we were doing something wrong by changing our clothes in the locker room for heavens sake.

People look at things differently.

For you, it's natural to completely take your clothes off and strip your child down in a public setting because you feel that is what the room is for. Others are doing the same thing, so what's the big deal? To me, I can think of several ways to address changing if necessary, that don't involve exposing my bare breasts, vagina, or the parts of my children to strangers who have no business glancing even if it's unintentional.

You think it's fine, because that is what most people do. I think it's bizarre, and sends a mixed message. We look at things differently and really, I don't see anything changing that.

Where "You" = Every Reasonable Person

I don't understand what the mixed message. It is in appropriate to take your clothes off in places that are not designated for that purpose. Is it okay to take your clothes off in the living room when company is over? No, the living room is not a designated place for nudity. Bathroom and bedroom are fine. Locker room is fine. Pool is not.

Your children are smarter than you think they are. Trust me. You don't want your kid to be the one who is panicky and afraid of changing in the locker room in high school. It's really not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe people are saying that changing your clothes in the locker room is equivalent to public nudity. I don't like my girls to stay in their wet swimsuits because it fosters infections, for me too. So we do rinse off showers and change. I also workout at the community center in the mornings, take a shower and change. Where the heck am I supposed to change if it's not right there in the locker room? This makes no sense to me. I had no idea people were judgmentally thinking we were doing something wrong by changing our clothes in the locker room for heavens sake.

People look at things differently.

For you, it's natural to completely take your clothes off and strip your child down in a public setting because you feel that is what the room is for. Others are doing the same thing, so what's the big deal? To me, I can think of several ways to address changing if necessary, that don't involve exposing my bare breasts, vagina, or the parts of my children to strangers who have no business glancing even if it's unintentional.

You think it's fine, because that is what most people do. I think it's bizarre, and sends a mixed message. We look at things differently and really, I don't see anything changing that.

Where "You" = Every Reasonable Person

I don't understand what the mixed message. It is in appropriate to take your clothes off in places that are not designated for that purpose. Is it okay to take your clothes off in the living room when company is over? No, the living room is not a designated place for nudity. Bathroom and bedroom are fine. Locker room is fine. Pool is not.

Your children are smarter than you think they are. Trust me. You don't want your kid to be the one who is panicky and afraid of changing in the locker room in high school. It's really not a big deal.

Oh and it's not what about "you feel" the room is for - that is what the room is designed and provided for.

[Anonymous]

Ok if you are managing to let your vagina hang out while you are changing I think you probably need medical attention. And little girls have minimally visible sexual parts unless theyve been abused---so what exactly is going on with the modest poster?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe people are saying that changing your clothes in the locker room is equivalent to public nudity. I don't like my girls to stay in their wet swimsuits because it fosters infections, for me too. So we do rinse off showers and change. I also workout at the community center in the mornings, take a shower and change. Where the heck am I supposed to change if it's not right there in the locker room? This makes no sense to me. I had no idea people were judgmentally thinking we were doing something wrong by changing our clothes in the locker room for heavens sake.

People look at things differently.

For you, it's natural to completely take your clothes off and strip your child down in a public setting because you feel that is what the room is for. Others are doing the same thing, so what's the big deal? To me, I can think of several ways to address changing if necessary, that don't involve exposing my bare breasts, vagina, or the parts of my children to strangers who have no business glancing even if it's unintentional.

You think it's fine, because that is what most people do. I think it's bizarre, and sends a mixed message. We look at things differently and really, I don't see anything changing that.

Where "You" = Every Reasonable Person

I don't understand what the mixed message. It is in appropriate to take your clothes off in places that are not designated for that purpose. Is it okay to take your clothes off in the living room when company is over? No, the living room is not a designated place for nudity. Bathroom and bedroom are fine. Locker room is fine. Pool is not.

Your children are smarter than you think they are. Trust me. You don't want your kid to be the one who is panicky and afraid of changing in the locker room in high school. It's really not a big deal.

You should read the second post on this page.

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/246901.page

It's directed towards people like you who can't seem to possibly fathom that everyone is different. I am constantly amazed on this forum when I post something that says, "this is how you feel. I get it. This is how I feel. We are just different" someone always has to come stomping along with "No. You are wrong. This is how I feel, and I feel that most people feel this way so you need to correct yourself!" No, you need to stop trying to be the thought police. Agree to disagree.

[Anonymous]

You are a stupid woman if you let your child just sit and stare at other women while changing.. Have some parenting capabilities and tell your precious DC it's rude to stare. I don't give a shit if he is 2 teaching manners early on works wonders but apparently your parents failed with you.

Wow, your parents did great with you though. Cursing and calling people stupid, nice job!

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I don't care if some random kid in the locker room sees me naked. My objective is to change quickly, leave, and get on with my life. If the kid is thinking something about it, that's his problem or his parents' problem, not mine. If other people feel differently, that's fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You are a stupid woman if you let your child just sit and stare at other women while changing.. Have some parenting capabilities and tell your precious DC it's rude to stare. I don't give a shit if he is 2 teaching manners early on works wonders but apparently your parents failed with you.

Wow, your parents did great with you though. Cursing and calling people stupid, nice job!

I know not to let kids stare at naked women in a locker room so yes, I am smarter than you and my parents did a fabulous job.