How to tell if DH is closet gay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 11:27. Let me elaborate. He is much quicker to defend a gay person than any other group with a grievance and will tell the kids that being gay is not a choice. It just seems that DH goes out of his way to defend their lives, yet he has no gay friends or relatives that I know of.

Nice kids you have there. Glad to know at least one of their parents is trying to counteract that BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 11:27. Let me elaborate. He is much quicker to defend a gay person than any other group with a grievance and will tell the kids that being gay is not a choice. It just seems that DH goes out of his way to defend their lives, yet he has no gay friends or relatives that I know of.

Even if being gay is a choice, how does that bother or affect you?

[Anonymous]

You probably know somewhere in your gut. I always suspected my ex and had some gay guys come up to him in the street and hed pretend he didnt know them. He always denied it. He ended up marrying a former lesbian... I'm still not sure what that means in terms of his sexuality. What I do know is I'm glad he's my ex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder about my husband being gay. We have sex at least once a week but a few things make me think about this. First, he has always been into working out and looking at himself in the mirror, which may indicate being vain only. But he also comments on the builds of men in sports and in movies - he will ask me if I like another man's build or if I think the other man is attractive. And when our children once in a while make fun of a stereotypical gay person, he is very quick to defend gay people and say they have a right to live the way they want

And you don't? You think it's OK to make gay jokes? For your kids to? Does this extend to others - AAs, Jews, for example - or do they just save it for gay people?

That fact that you think defending others from bigotry is evidence of a problem is mind boggling. You're a real peach, PP.