SAHMs: What time does your DH normally get home after work?

[Anonymous]

Who are you to judge? People HAVE to work. Unless they're running their own businesses or become partners in some firm, they have to abide by decisions made by those in the upper echelon.

My husband and I both WOH, too but b/c I'm PT, I take on more of the childcare duties. However, we don't see our children in the morning b/c of early work hours. So we have a nanny for before care. We eat dinner together on most nights, but there are times when my husband arrives home closer to 10 b/c of "other duties as assigned." Do you expect him to tell his boss to F off b/c he's missing a meal with his family? His check helps to pay for those meals.

So you need to get off your high horse. Your condescending tone stems from ignorance. Just remember that MOST people are one paycheck away from being homeless.

Anonymous wrote:No wonder our divorce rate is so high. Where is everyone's PRIORITIES? Children and family should come first, work second. Easier said than done, but if someone's in a white-collar job I don't understand by that flexibility can't be achieved, ESPECIALLY in this day and age of technology and telework-capabilities. Maybe I'm biased, given that we all have breakfast and dinner together (and we both WOHM), but something is just wrong with our society if moms/dads are having to take care of their children solo while their spouses are working ungodly hours. I just don't get it...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No wonder our divorce rate is so high. Where is everyone's PRIORITIES? Children and family should come first, work second. Easier said than done, but if someone's in a white-collar job I don't understand by that flexibility can't be achieved, ESPECIALLY in this day and age of technology and telework-capabilities. Maybe I'm biased, given that we all have breakfast and dinner together (and we both WOHM), but something is just wrong with our society if moms/dads are having to take care of their children solo while their spouses are working ungodly hours. I just don't get it...

Have you watched the news lately? The economy is in the shitter. It would not surprise me that a man supporting his entire family would be putting in long hours at the office, might be due to a reduced workforce, requiring more hours to pick up slack or he might be insecure about his job and is putting in more effort on the job.

I don't get how you don't get that everyone is not just like you...

When you live in a bubble, it's rare to encounter "the others."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is this limited to SAHMs? My DH gets home around 6:30.

The OP probably wants answers tailored to her specific situation.

Okay, I'm slow. Is it because she as a SAHM wants to know when others' DHs relieve them?

As a SAHM, I think it's much more workable for my husband to work layer hours than when we were both working FT. Now, part of my job is getting the kids ready for bed, cooking dinner, cleaning up, etc. So, we want for him to have quality time with the kids and for us together, but he doesn't need to be concerned with food prep time and the like. I get my breaks during the day when the kids are at school/preschool. So we're "working" on a different schedule. Maybe OP has a similar arrangement. FWIW, my dh usually leaves the house at about 7:15 in the morning and returns home about 7:45 at night. Usually about 5-6 hours of work per weekend. The kids wake up early (6 am), but most of his time with kids is over the weekend.

So was your DH working fewer hours than expected when you were WOH, or is it that he's just able to put in more time now that you're home? My DH and I both work full time, always have, but neither of us would work more hours if the other spouse were to SAH. Neither of us needs to put in more time to do our jobs well.

[Anonymous]

" Just remember that MOST people are one paycheck away from being homeless. "

Saying a prayer right now that our mortgage is less than 10% of our income and that even if one of us lost his or her job, we could still pay our bills. Thanks for the reminder to be grateful.

[Anonymous]

Good for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are you to judge? People HAVE to work. Unless they're running their own businesses or become partners in some firm, they have to abide by decisions made by those in the upper echelon.

My husband and I both WOH, too but b/c I'm PT, I take on more of the childcare duties. However, we don't see our children in the morning b/c of early work hours. So we have a nanny for before care. We eat dinner together on most nights, but there are times when my husband arrives home closer to 10 b/c of "other duties as assigned." Do you expect him to tell his boss to F off b/c he's missing a meal with his family? His check helps to pay for those meals.

So you need to get off your high horse. Your condescending tone stems from ignorance. Just remember that MOST people are one paycheck away from being homeless.

Anonymous wrote:No wonder our divorce rate is so high. Where is everyone's PRIORITIES? Children and family should come first, work second. Easier said than done, but if someone's in a white-collar job I don't understand by that flexibility can't be achieved, ESPECIALLY in this day and age of technology and telework-capabilities. Maybe I'm biased, given that we all have breakfast and dinner together (and we both WOHM), but something is just wrong with our society if moms/dads are having to take care of their children solo while their spouses are working ungodly hours. I just don't get it...

But I doubt your statement applies to most of the women posting (and complaining) here. No, most of the posters are all too happy to put up with an absent husband, so they can have the expensive cars, designer purses, 2000+sq ft houses, and fancy vacations. And bragging rights.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are you to judge? People HAVE to work. Unless they're running their own businesses or become partners in some firm, they have to abide by decisions made by those in the upper echelon.

My husband and I both WOH, too but b/c I'm PT, I take on more of the childcare duties. However, we don't see our children in the morning b/c of early work hours. So we have a nanny for before care. We eat dinner together on most nights, but there are times when my husband arrives home closer to 10 b/c of "other duties as assigned." Do you expect him to tell his boss to F off b/c he's missing a meal with his family? His check helps to pay for those meals.

So you need to get off your high horse. Your condescending tone stems from ignorance. Just remember that MOST people are one paycheck away from being homeless.

Anonymous wrote:No wonder our divorce rate is so high. Where is everyone's PRIORITIES? Children and family should come first, work second. Easier said than done, but if someone's in a white-collar job I don't understand by that flexibility can't be achieved, ESPECIALLY in this day and age of technology and telework-capabilities. Maybe I'm biased, given that we all have breakfast and dinner together (and we both WOHM), but something is just wrong with our society if moms/dads are having to take care of their children solo while their spouses are working ungodly hours. I just don't get it...

But I doubt your statement applies to most of the women posting (and complaining) here. No, most of the posters are all too happy to put up with an absent husband, so they can have the expensive cars, designer purses, 2000+sq ft houses, and fancy vacations. And bragging rights.

Sadly, PP, you're probably right!