Extreme Breast Feeding ( until 7)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[
Why not show your child that a hug can be comforting - the meeting your needs part is that you want your body to be his source of comfort and not to grow out of that at an age where developmentally most kids will have started to find a number of ways to find comfort. This is part of what prepares them ass they grow up, developing new skills. Again it is the same issue if the child finds it comforting to sit in a highchair and have mom feed him small bites when he is 7. I find that equally age inappropriate developmentally as a way of seeking comfort. Or maybe he still likes mom to rock him to sleep with a bottle. Again he and mom may find this comforting but coping / comfort skills should grow and develop.

Please post your schedule of age appropriate behaviors.

Are you telling me that I should replace nursing with hugs at 16 months old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[
Why not show your child that a hug can be comforting - the meeting your needs part is that you want your body to be his source of comfort and not to grow out of that at an age where developmentally most kids will have started to find a number of ways to find comfort. This is part of what prepares them ass they grow up, developing new skills. Again it is the same issue if the child finds it comforting to sit in a highchair and have mom feed him small bites when he is 7. I find that equally age inappropriate developmentally as a way of seeking comfort. Or maybe he still likes mom to rock him to sleep with a bottle. Again he and mom may find this comforting but coping / comfort skills should grow and develop.

Please post your schedule of age appropriate behaviors.

Are you telling me that I should replace nursing with hugs at 16 months old?

Love you, PP!

[Anonymous]

The girl being bf is eight years old!

What age will she be weaned?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ever occur to you that some women don't feel they have to wean earlier than a few years?

Look, I know you guys think I'm unhinged. I assure you that I'm not. My daughter is 15 months. I don't plan to nurse her until she's in college. I don't think I really even plan to nurse her until she's in pre-school. I'm just saying that every time a conversation gets started about breastfeeding past the "acceptable" baby years, there is a vocal contingent who are saying things like "go munch on your granola" and "that's disgusting". It wasn't so long ago that they said the same thing about breastfeeding at all. When it wasn't considered normal or healthy to breastfeed even very young babies. When that was considered "bizarre behavior" and "possible child abuse" and any number of other things.

I don't disagree that there are probably a lot of extended breastfeeders who are the unhinged selfish weirdo y'all think I am. I know those people and I think I probably have a lot more in common personality-wise with you ladies than I do with them. I'm just saying that this isn't a one-size-fits-all issue and that if, like the PP is saying, it's okay for a woman to be done at 3 months, then there are also going to be times when a woman isn't ready to be done until 3 years or 5 years or however long. Is this "normal" behavior? No, of course not. Normal means most people do it and think nothing of it. I'm just saying that just because it's distasteful to you, just because you wouldn't do it, doesn't mean that everyone thinks and acts like you.

YES. I love you, PP. My mom went through this in the 70s when she chose to breastfeed me and my siblings. Apparently, only dirty hippies were willing to befoul their offspring with disgusting bodily fluids when scientifically-approved formula was available. Barbarism!

I get so annoyed by women who think breastfeeding longer than 3-6 months is "gross" like the PP you were responding to. Honey, you bleed out of your vagina every month. And if you've given birth, you must know that's an untidy business as well. You also vomit, urinate, defecate, spit, cough, sweat, and sneeze. Welcome to the human race. It's messy here and that messiness is the way we keep ourselves healthy. A little breastfeeding here and there into childhood is about the furtherest thing from "gross" on the list.

P.S. Breastfeeding 9-week-old DD right now. If I have my way, I will BF her until age 2, as per the WHO recommendations, or longer if she wants to [b]*GASP!*

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But the girl in the video is EIGHT YEARS old - massive difference. Eight year old girls are interested in Justin Bieber and training bras (some of them).

[Anonymous]

This video is a few years old - this little girl must be 11 or 12 now? I wonder if anyone ever did a follow up to see if she weaned or if she had feedback as an older child on how she felt about it.

[Anonymous]

My SIL had the preliminary "sex talk" with her eight year old daughter.

Can't imagine one of her classmates breastfeeding - interesting sleep-over conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This video is a few years old - this little girl must be 11 or 12 now? I wonder if anyone ever did a follow up to see if she weaned or if she had feedback as an older child on how she felt about it.

Great thought!

[Anonymous]

At 16 months, my kids were learning how to use utensils and to drink from a cup.

So yes, perhaps hugs would be more appropriate.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[
Why not show your child that a hug can be comforting - the meeting your needs part is that you want your body to be his source of comfort and not to grow out of that at an age where developmentally most kids will have started to find a number of ways to find comfort. This is part of what prepares them ass they grow up, developing new skills. Again it is the same issue if the child finds it comforting to sit in a highchair and have mom feed him small bites when he is 7. I find that equally age inappropriate developmentally as a way of seeking comfort. Or maybe he still likes mom to rock him to sleep with a bottle. Again he and mom may find this comforting but coping / comfort skills should grow and develop.

Please post your schedule of age appropriate behaviors.

Are you telling me that I should replace nursing with hugs at 16 months old?

[Anonymous]

I was disturbed by the video, but not so much becuase the eight year old was breastfeeding in and of itself. It wouldn't be for me, but if it provides comfort to the child and the mom is ok with it, fine.
I did think it was disturbing how obsessed with the mother's breasts the two girls seemed to be, however (drawing them, naming them, not wanting her to put on a bra). Maybe that is just what the video chose to focus on, but it made it seem like her breasts were constantly on their minds.
I do think that other children will judge an older child who is breastfed publicly. That doesn't mean a family shouldn't do it if it is important to them, but they need to be understand that their child may suffer some backlash. My son self-weaned at 18 months, I never told him he couldn't or that breastfeeding was for babies. He is now slightly over two, and at our complex pool, there was a mom nursing a 4 year old. DS 's jaw about dropped to the floor. He kept saying "not a baby, not a baby." I couldn't make him stop talking about it, and felt like we were persecuting the woman, so we left.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 16 months, my kids were learning how to use utensils and to drink from a cup.

So yes, perhaps hugs would be more appropriate.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[
Why not show your child that a hug can be comforting - the meeting your needs part is that you want your body to be his source of comfort and not to grow out of that at an age where developmentally most kids will have started to find a number of ways to find comfort. This is part of what prepares them ass they grow up, developing new skills. Again it is the same issue if the child finds it comforting to sit in a highchair and have mom feed him small bites when he is 7. I find that equally age inappropriate developmentally as a way of seeking comfort. Or maybe he still likes mom to rock him to sleep with a bottle. Again he and mom may find this comforting but coping / comfort skills should grow and develop.

Please post your schedule of age appropriate behaviors.

Are you telling me that I should replace nursing with hugs at 16 months old?

He's been using a cup and playing with utensils for 4 or 5 months now (he never took a bottle). So by your logic I should have stopped nursing when he was 11 or 12 months?

No thanks. We'll continue till he's ready to stop. Pretty sure it will be before he's 7.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 16 months, my kids were learning how to use utensils and to drink from a cup.

So yes, perhaps hugs would be more appropriate.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[
Why not show your child that a hug can be comforting - the meeting your needs part is that you want your body to be his source of comfort and not to grow out of that at an age where developmentally most kids will have started to find a number of ways to find comfort. This is part of what prepares them ass they grow up, developing new skills. Again it is the same issue if the child finds it comforting to sit in a highchair and have mom feed him small bites when he is 7. I find that equally age inappropriate developmentally as a way of seeking comfort. Or maybe he still likes mom to rock him to sleep with a bottle. Again he and mom may find this comforting but coping / comfort skills should grow and develop.

Please post your schedule of age appropriate behaviors.

Are you telling me that I should replace nursing with hugs at 16 months old?

He's been using a cup and playing with utensils for 4 or 5 months now (he never took a bottle). So by your logic I should have stopped nursing when he was 11 or 12 months?

No thanks. We'll continue till he's ready to stop. Pretty sure it will be before he's 7.

My son started using a cup and utensils around 8 months. what should I have done in this instance, oh-all-knowing-one? Should I have weaned? What should I have used to replace my breastmilk? Formula? Or should I have just started pumping and using the sippy cup? Is that what you would have done?

What a bitch you are, PP. Mind your own business!!!

[Anonymous]

You people are all missing the point entirely. No one is saying stop breastfeeding when other milestones are reached. Geez. You know that, but you're just whackos who want to somehow find a justification that makes sense to breastfeed a 7 year old. And there isn't any.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You people are all missing the point entirely. No one is saying stop breastfeeding when other milestones are reached. Geez. You know that, but you're just whackos who want to somehow find a justification that makes sense to breastfeed a 7 year old. And there isn't any.

In fact, people on this thread DID suggest that because other milestones are achieved, nursing should stop. Did you not read that?

I will admit I don't have a doctorate on breastfeeding and I am just a mom who has done it for a year and a half - but I HAVE done a lot of reading on the subject, and people who ARE all educated on this stuff say the natural age of weaning is probably 2.5 to 7 years old. Does knowing this make me a whacko? Okay, I can live with that. 8 is maybe "extreme" but perverse, sick, crazy? All of that seems very harsh to me and, as others have said, attributing a lot of personal prejudice versus the facts of the situation.

[Anonymous]

I'm done nursing, loved that I did it, would do it again if I were to have another child (which I'm not) so I can safely say that never again will I click on a nursing thread in this forum after reading this mess.

[Anonymous]

I'm with 09:50. The breastfeeding, whatever. The drawing, naming, and obsessing about the breasts is really weird.