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Anonymous
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The one good thing is that she is at least covering up. The breatfeeding adolescent will be a source of endless, merciless, and cruel teasing by her classmates, which will screw up her entire life. "Thank you Mrs. Smith for inviting me to dinner, but I have to be home to nurse." "Mrs. Smith, my mommy send me four 8-ounce bottles of breast milk so I can have milk with my dinner, before going to sleep, and with my Cheerios in the morning." Ludicrous! Though I am certain there are more than a fe DCUMers who would love to breastfeed until kid graduates from college. |
Anonymous
Exactly. But you say it like it's a positive thing. It's not. There is nothing positive emotionally about a 7 year old sucking on her mom's breast. There just isn't. I'm all for breastfeeding, but a second grader? Come on, no one is really suggesting this is a good thing unless it's absolutely necessary for nutrition, i.e. a developing country where the water isn't safe, etc. are they?! There are some things that just go beyond the bounds of healthy, and this is one of them. |
Anonymous
I'm sorry, but your views are not everyone's views. Your definition of what is healthy is not the same as everyone else's.There are a lot of behaviors that people engage in that are considered totally normal and healthy by other people that I think fall under the category of "nothing positive emotionally", but I am careful not to say so because such a blanket statement presumes that everyone is just like me. What I'm saying here is that this is clearly a good thing for THIS family. It wouldn't be for mine. It CLEARLY wouldn't be for yours. But if it works for them, why is this not a situation of "mind your own business and hold your judgment" the same way it is when we talk about other parenting aspects? My mom thought it was really unhealthy to feed her kids meat, so I was raised vegetarian. Her mom had no problem with meat and thought it was plenty healthy. I think that spanking is an unhealthy form of discipline for everyone involved, but there are a lot of people who think it's perfectly acceptable. Those people say "mind your own business and don't presume to judge" when it comes to those issues. People say "you don't know this family's situation" when a woman says that she couldn't breastfeed, so I would ask that you at the very least play by the same rules. |
Anonymous
| how do you know it's not healthy? have you done any research or it's just your guess full of prejudice? |
Anonymous
| Oh please. You people are crazy. It's not normal or healthy. I feel more than confident saying that. I don't really care what you say. I find it utterly obnoxious for people to act like this is OK. There comes a point where it's OK to say, "yeah, this is just wrong." Why not just admit that it's so far beyond the bounds of normal. If it were normal and "acceptable," why are they being spotlighted? Why is it of interest if it's just par for the course and live and let live. We have a responsibility not to do harm to our children. This is harm. Sorry. |
Anonymous
NP here. What do you know about breastfeeding? Have you done it? Have you researched it much? What is your basis for determining that breastfeeding a 7 year old is wrong? Years ago, I might have had the same response you have. But I am now the mother of one 16 month old child who has been breastfed since birth. I intend to let him nurse until HE decides he is done with it. That may be when he is 2.5, or possibly as late as 7. All within the range of normal. |
Anonymous
Yes, I have nursed. Not that it really matters in this context. It really doesn't. |
Anonymous
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7 is definitely in the outlier range. However, I imagine many, many people nurse much later than they would ever admit because of reactions like these.
Same with co-sleeping and other supposed "no-nos" in parenting. More parents do it than are willing to admit because they think it is not normal. |
Anonymous
Agreed! |
Anonymous
I agree that it's beyond the bounds of normal. I disagree that it is automatically unhealthy. I also disagree that it's harmful, and I don't care if you find it obnoxious. It's not your business what this family does and it's not your place to judge them. |
Anonymous
I can judge whoever and whatever I want to especially when there is a documentary broadcasted about it. Get over it. |
Anonymous
Well said! I agree completely, from a mom still nursing her 18 month DS. |
Anonymous
Sure it's my place to judge them. They put themselves out there specifically to challenge the boundaries of this issue, and you better be damn sure they knew they were going to be judged. Why else would they do it? People, rightfully, judge parents for their choices all the time. Remember the family who starved their infant to death because they were so sure about their convictions on how to feed the baby? They were wrong, and we all judged them for it, but they were absolutely sure it was the right thing to do. Obviously this is different, but are you going to tell me it's not my place to judge that behavior? Of course it is. That's the society we live in. That's how child protection laws are developed. What a stupid, dumb, overly PC statement to make. |
Anonymous
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The flaw in your logic, pp, is comparing starving a child to nursing a 7 year old. They are not the same thing.
I don't have a problem with judgment at all. I do it all the time. But I try to make sure my judgments are based on fact, not on uninformed prejudice. |
Anonymous
What part of "obviously this is different" do you not understand? The analogy was to judging other parents, not what the judgement was based on. Do you understand now? |